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Woman 'ruins' sister's birthday by snapping at 'brutally honest' boyfriend; AITA?

Woman 'ruins' sister's birthday by snapping at 'brutally honest' boyfriend; AITA?


Is it really a family party without some post-cocktail drama?

Every family has one member who starts dating someone the rest of the family can't stand, and if you don't know who it's probably you. Sometimes you have to be the one to speak up and defend yourself again 'brutal honesty,' and if it involves a fart joke?

You did what had to be done. So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet over her sister's annoying boyfriend's unsolicited comments, people were ready to help.

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for my response to my sister's boyfriend's 'brutal honesty?'

My (F35) sister (F27) started dating one of those 'brutally honest' guys few months ago. He can be quite rude and make backhanded comments about me and the family sometimes which is bothersome but my sister says he's not malicious but is just the brutally honest time and we should get used to it.

I visited my parents house to celebrate my sister's birthday and my husband couldn't come with me because he was busy, after the party we all sat down for dinner and my sister's boyfriend said it was weird that my husband and I don't have kids despite being married for 6 years now.

I was shocked that he brought this up but I gave a short answer stating that it's because of infertility issues, he asked on which side and I didn't wanna answer but my sister said it's on my side.

I got uncomfortable as he looked at me for a second and said that maybe not having kids now is a good thing because he thought women over 30 might 'produce' defective babies due to age.

I told him it was none of his business, but he said that he was just giving his 'honest opinion' and that's all. I, in return, told him while maintaining eye contact: 'trust me, if I wanted an as*hole's opinion, I would've farted!'

Literally everyone at the table bursted into laughter and my sister and her boyfriend were stunned. Few seconds later her boyfriend excused himself out and my sister followed then sent me a text after they left saying I was mean and disrespectful towards her boyfriend and insulted him maliciously just cause he stated his honest opinion.

She also said I ruined her birthday by being petty and making her boyfriend the joke of the night infront of the family. I didn't respond but she demanded an apology via mail as soon as possible, mom agreed that I shouldn't have said what I said and should've just ignored him knowing how he is.

Here's what people had to say:

UrsusRenata said:

“Brutal honestly” is a defensive term for insensitivity. Uncouth, insensitive comments — particularly in mixed company — should not be excused as “honesty”. A filter is important in social situations. That’s how adults behave. NTA OP. You matched uncouth with uncouth.

Slow-Bumblebee-8609 said:

NTA. Brutally honest is a synonym for as*hole. 'Brutally' is not a nice adjective, it means savage and violent way. If he identifies himself by that, that says a lot about him Also, I'm surprised he is offended at being called an as*hole, considering that what he said is the equivalent to verbal diarrhea.

No-Recognition3929 said:

NTA but that is the PERFECT response and I will be squirreling that one away for myself lol. “Just being honest” is often a very, very toxic way that as*holes try to make their victims seem like the overly sensitive one when they get upset.

Being honest would have been him giving you a straight answer if you asked his opinion. NOT shoving his unwanted, unsolicited advice at you.

Lanersofcork said:

NTA - what makes his brutal honesty superior to yours? People use the phrase “I’m just being honest” as an excuse for having poor social manners. Just because you’re giving your honest opinion, doesn’t mean you’re free from consequences of that opinion.

the-mirrors-truth said:

NTA. He's a jerk, plain and simple. He's absolutely malicious and your sister is dumb enough to fall for his innocent act. Besides, no one asked him for his opinion but he still went and shared a very hurtful and untrue comment. He can't take what he dishes out. How pathetic.

So, there you have it...

The verdict is in and this boyfriend is 100% the absolute worst. Good luck, everyone!

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