So, when a frustrated and fed up sibling decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about their sister's reckless behavior with their car, the jury of internet strangers (and the local police) were ready to help deem a verdict.
My sister's car broke down 6 months ago because of her own stupidity. I won't go into it here but she ignored the advice of a mechanic and because of that her car broke.
I decided to be nice and offer my sister my car until she could get hers fixed as I could bike to work while she needed to drive. She did not get her car fixed for some reason.
She claimed to be saving money to do so, but every time her paycheck came she spent it. My parents have even offered her a loan to fix her car, but she refused.
Along with all of this, she has been abusing my generosity and taking my car all day and night. I told her she could use it for work, but is seems to her that is a free pass to use my car, not fill it with gas, and take it when I specifically tell her not to.
Recently I've been needed to get to work very early and I really don't feel like riding my bike 6 miles at 3 in the morning so I told my sister she had 30 days until I took the spare key from her and she is no longer allowed to use it.
That was 32 days ago. Yesterday morning she woke up specifically before me to take my car (at 2:30 in the morning). I called her and demanded she bring it back but she just hung up on me. Because of this, I reported it stolen.
My sister was arrested 30 minutes later and my parents had to go bail her out. My sister is now facing charges for unauthorized use of a car and my parents and her are pissed.
They claim I want way to far here but honestly, I feel justified. My parents are worried if she's found guilty she will lose her job but in my opinion, it's her own fault. Am I wrong here? Am I an as*hole?
[deleted] said:
NTA, this is the definition of theft.
ha3lo said:
NTA. She stole your car. Sounds like she needs a lesson in accountability. Tell your parents you wouldn’t have had to report it stolen if she brought it back like you asked. Why is she not held to the same standard you are?
tickslike_clockwork said:
NTA - you gave her 30 days notice so she had time to make other arrangements. She straight up got early to take your car on purpose so you did not have the ability to use it. Maybe reporting it as stolen was a little far. But I honestly don’t blame you for it. You gave her more than enough time and ultimately, it’s your car.
FuelledByPurrs said:
NTA- She took a car she wasn't legally entitled to. Thats stealing a car. Yeah it was your car and she was your sister but that doesn't change anything. Its was still a car she wasnt legally entitled to that she took. Theft. Maybe this will teach her responsibility!
theguy2108 said:
NTA it's her own fault and she needs to learn how to make decisions.
Abirvalg44 said:
NTA. A bit over the top, I’d say. But there’s no reaching some people. Now she knows you’re not joking.
PomegranateSky said:
NTA 100% her fault. She took advantage for weeks, then stole your car. She seems very entitled.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this car owner wasn't at all wrong to teach their sister a hard lesson, especially after she was adequately warned. Good luck, everyone!