AITA

<p>Bachelor/Bacheloretty parties can get expensive. Nice dinners, drinks, and entertainment all add up, but it&#39;s a once-in-a-lifetime (hopefully) event for most people. Usually, the costs are split evenly among everyone, so nobody has a larger burden than others.</p><h2>On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11f97qu/aita_for_embarrassing_my_sil_after_she_expected/" target="_blank">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one woman has had enough with her entitled sister-in-law.</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>So I (25F) went out for dinner for my SIL&#39;s (28F) bachelorette party this past weekend. Between my SIL and my Husband (26M), SIL has always been the family&#39;s golden child. Growing up, my in-laws coddled her and gave her everything she wanted, while my husband always got the sh*tty end of the stick.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She was always the popular girl in school, a cheerleader, and had many friends. All the boys loved her. While my husband was always a little nerdier and got picked on quite a bit, even my in-laws would give him a hard time about this and say he needed to be &#39;more like his sister.&#39;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>While fast forward to today, my husband and I went to top schools, got our degrees, and currently have very well-paying jobs in tech. I&#39;m not trying to sound braggy; this is just for context, but we live very comfortably. SIL still lives at home with my in-laws, who foot all her bills. She had my niece (4F) with her ex and is currently in marriage number two.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This past weekend I was invited to this fancy upscale restaurant in my city for my SIL&#39;s bachelorette party (she just wanted to make a nice dinner). There were 8 of us in total. At the end of dinner, the bill comes out to around $1,000, and the waiter hands it to me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m sitting there confused for a second until SIL speaks up and is all, &#39;my parents and I were talking and were thinking you and my brother can handle the bill for this as a wedding gift since you&#39;re not financially contributing to my wedding.&#39; I stared at her, shocked momentarily, and then was like, &#39;You didn&#39;t think to bring this up to me beforehand?&#39;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She said we&#39;re so well off, so what&#39;s the big deal? And she&#39;s sure her brother wouldn&#39;t have an issue with it. I asked her why her fianc&eacute; doesn&#39;t foot the bill, or my in-laws, and where in her right mind she thinks it&#39;s okay to spring this on me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She started going on about how we&#39;re the wealthiest in her and her fianc&eacute;&#39;s family and that she didn&#39;t think I would act like this and would say yes. I told her, &#39;well, sorry, but I&#39;m not your parents, don&#39;t expect handouts from me.&#39; She called me selfish, and I called her an entitled brat, paid for my half of the bill, and left.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>As expected, my MIL, SIL, and even some cousins and aunts on my husband&#39;s side have been furious with me and expect me to apologize for the comments. I told them over my dead body. My husband is 100% on my side, and we are debating not attending the wedding. I was talking to my mom, and she thinks I took it too far with the comments and should just apologize to keep the peace. AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The internet can smell an entitled brat from 1,000 paces.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/anonymoose_octopus/">anonymoose_octopus</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the A**hole). Don&#39;t apologize. No matter how much money you make, you are not expected to: Contribute to your SIL&#39;s wedding. Foot the bill for an entire bachelorette party you attended as a guest. De-escalate her temper tantrum once she didn&#39;t get her way. The burden of paying for a bachelorette party usually falls on the Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids (and arranged for ahead of time!!!) or the bride.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mertsey627/">mertsey627</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>What the actual f*ck?! &#39;because you&#39;re not contributing to my wedding.&#39; In what world does a sibling contribute to a wedding?! She sounds insanely entitled, and anyone backing her is delusional. NTA.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/hannahsflora/">hannahsflora</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I <em>guarantee</em> you were only invited as a set-up to try and make you pay. Don&#39;t go to the wedding, and I&#39;d honestly consider how many contacts you want to maintain with SIL and your in-laws moving forward - it&#39;s clear they see you two as nothing but an ATM.</p> </blockquote><p>You&#39;re right, OP. Just because someone was popular in high school doesn&#39;t mean you have to pay for their wedding because you were a nerd.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman tells SIL she's an 'entitled brat' after SIL expects her to pay for $1,000 bill.

Bachelor/Bacheloretty parties can get expensive. Nice dinners, drinks, and entertainment all add up, but it&#39;s a once-in-a-lifetime (hopefully) event for most people. Usually, the costs are split evenly among everyone, so nobody has a larger burden than others.On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one woman has had enough with her entitled sister-in-law.She writes: So I (25F) went out for dinner for my SIL&#39;s (28F) bachelorette party this past weekend. Between my SIL and my Husband (26M), SIL has always been the family&#39;s golden child. Growing up, my in-laws coddled her and gave her everything she wanted, while my husband always got the sh*tty end of the stick.  She was always the popular girl in school, a cheerleader, and had many friends. All the boys loved her. While my husband was always a little nerdier and got picked on quite a bit, even my in-laws would give him a hard time about this and say he needed to be &#39;more like his sister.&#39;  While fast forward to today, my husband and I went to top schools, got our degrees, and currently have very well-paying jobs in tech. I&#39;m not trying to sound braggy; this is just for context, but we live very comfortably. SIL still lives at home with my in-laws, who foot all her bills. She had my niece (4F) with her ex and is currently in marriage number two.  This past weekend I was invited to this fancy upscale restaurant in my city for my SIL&#39;s bachelorette party (she just wanted to make a nice dinner). There were 8 of us in total. At the end of dinner, the bill comes out to around $1,000, and the waiter hands it to me.  I&#39;m sitting there confused for a second until SIL speaks up and is all, &#39;my parents and I were talking and were thinking you and my brother can handle the bill for this as a wedding gift since you&#39;re not financially contributing to my wedding.&#39; I stared at her, shocked momentarily, and then was like, &#39;You didn&#39;t think to bring this up to me beforehand?&#39;  She said we&#39;re so well off, so what&#39;s the big deal? And she&#39;s sure her brother wouldn&#39;t have an issue with it. I asked her why her fianc&eacute; doesn&#39;t foot the bill, or my in-laws, and where in her right mind she thinks it&#39;s okay to spring this on me.  She started going on about how we&#39;re the wealthiest in her and her fianc&eacute;&#39;s family and that she didn&#39;t think I would act like this and would say yes. I told her, &#39;well, sorry, but I&#39;m not your parents, don&#39;t expect handouts from me.&#39; She called me selfish, and I called her an entitled brat, paid for my half of the bill, and left.  As expected, my MIL, SIL, and even some cousins and aunts on my husband&#39;s side have been furious with me and expect me to apologize for the comments. I told them over my dead body. My husband is 100% on my side, and we are debating not attending the wedding. I was talking to my mom, and she thinks I took it too far with the comments and should just apologize to keep the peace. AITA? The internet can smell an entitled brat from 1,000 paces.anonymoose_octopus says: NTA (Not the A**hole). Don&#39;t apologize. No matter how much money you make, you are not expected to: Contribute to your SIL&#39;s wedding. Foot the bill for an entire bachelorette party you attended as a guest. De-escalate her temper tantrum once she didn&#39;t get her way. The burden of paying for a bachelorette party usually falls on the Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids (and arranged for ahead of time!!!) or the bride. mertsey627 says: What the actual f*ck?! &#39;because you&#39;re not contributing to my wedding.&#39; In what world does a sibling contribute to a wedding?! She sounds insanely entitled, and anyone backing her is delusional. NTA. hannahsflora says: NTA. I guarantee you were only invited as a set-up to try and make you pay. Don&#39;t go to the wedding, and I&#39;d honestly consider how many contacts you want to maintain with SIL and your in-laws moving forward - it&#39;s clear they see you two as nothing but an ATM. You&#39;re right, OP. Just because someone was popular in high school doesn&#39;t mean you have to pay for their wedding because you were a nerd.

Bachelor/Bacheloretty parties can get expensive. Nice dinners, drinks, and entertainment all add up, but it&#39;s a once-in-a-lifetime (hopefully) event for most people. Usually, the costs are split evenly among everyone, so nobody has a...