Birth

<p>Some people want to give birth in peace, without the stress of their family crowding around and watching the show.</p><p>Others prefer the comfort of knowing their mom and dad are there in the wings, ready to give them snacks and hold the tiny baby when all is said and done.</p><p>However, when the baby comes early, this can cause a rift in schedules for those who had previously planned to be there.</p><h2>In a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11ahyf4/aita_for_not_ending_my_vacation_early_and_rushing/" target="_blank">popular post on the AITA subreddit</a>, a man asked if he was wrong for not ending his vacation early for the birth of her grandchild.</h2><p>He wrote:</p><blockquote> <p>AITA for not ending my vacation early and rushing home for the birth of our grandchild?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I 52m and my wife were on a two-week vacation in Cancun Mexico. Were from the US and planned all year for this trip, and saved up money to be able to go on this trip. (We booked and paid before my daughter was pregnant.)</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>It was our 6th day there when our daughter&#39;s (26) boyfriend called us saying she was giving birth and we had to get on the next plane ride home.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We were aware my daughter was soon to pop, but her due date wasn&rsquo;t until the end of this month, mind you these events took place in the beginning of this month. We told him that was impossible, and just to follow their birthing plan and to keep us updated.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>A few hours later we got a call from my daughter updating us then asking when we&rsquo;d be on our way back and that she really wanted us to be here and that it was taken longer than expected, she was scared, etc.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s a first-time mom so it was expected for her to be scared. My wife and I assured her everything would be fine, but we were unable to just pack up and go. She got upset and hung up on me.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Hours later in the middle of the night we missed a call due to us sleeping and it was her boyfriend saying there was complications and they were performing emergency c section.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>The next morning we called immediately and our daughter told us she was scared and things could&rsquo;ve gone bad and our Cancun trip was more important to us than her, then hung up. We tried to call back but she wouldn&rsquo;t answer.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The baby was born healthy and our daughter is okay. We have only seen pictures of our grandchild through Facebook because our daughter hasn&rsquo;t let us see her and has barely spoke to us since we&rsquo;ve been back home.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We had planned to be there for our grandchild&rsquo;s birth, but we couldn&rsquo;t leave 6 days into a trip we spent a large amount of money on. Even if we did we wouldn&rsquo;t make it back on time.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Even if we did make it back we couldn&rsquo;t do anything the doctors couldn&rsquo;t in the situation. I feel as though our daughter is being too harsh to us. We have apologized many times.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The internet weighed in with their takes on the situation.</h2><p><strong><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DialPlumeria/">DialPlumeria</a> wrote:</strong></p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA- you can&#39;t just rush home from another country, and if you had, same-day tickets would have been astronomical. I take it your daughter is mad, but it was a no-win situation.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You planned the trip way ahead, and you could not just rush home because traveling from another country doesn&#39;t work that way. Also, there are still COVID procedures in place, so chances are the nurses would have sent you home</p> </blockquote><p><strong><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/xtinejoi/">xtinejoi</a> wrote:</strong></p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m confused? Do people normally expect their grandparents to be witness to their grandchildren&#39;s birth? I personally never heard/experienced this around me. Weird. I wouldn&#39;t even expect my dad to be there and I love him to death.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA? Idk whatever floats people boats I guess.</p> </blockquote><p><strong><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Dependent-Show2297/">Dependent-Show2297</a> wrote:</strong></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I say this as a mother of two with two C-sections, with blood issues and allergies to meds (so no painkillers after the surgeries), with the second baby born in COVID maternity and with all the stress caused by this.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Baby was COVID negative, underweight but healthy, saw him after 2 weeks. You couldn&#39;t have done a thing for them.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At my first C-section, the doctors screwed up something because my family saw the other doctors and nurses from the other ORs rushing to my OR and my family couldn&#39;t do a thing to help. Finally, I got out of the OR alive.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Even if you would have tried and booked a flight (losing the trip money) and paying extra for the last-minute tickets, you would have missed the birth. They would have blamed you anyway. Why do I think they&#39;re blaming you?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Because it was a stressful event. They weren&#39;t ready. I know how it is to feel alone. But I also know you couldn&#39;t have done anything for them. From the moment they went to the hospital till the c-section probably passed less than 12 hours.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s sad that she is upset. I understand her need for comfort. But still, it wasn&#39;t your fault for not being there. I would send her a message in which I would tell her how much you love her and miss her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Tell her how bad you feel for the way things happened and how you hope she will forgive you because you hurt her. She&#39;s emotional, but I think later on she will see both sides of the story, and right now all you can do is apologize for hurting her.</p> </blockquote><p>OP is definitely NTA, but his daughter isn&#39;t either, she just seems hurt.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Grandparents refuse to leave vacation early for daughter's birth, she gets furious.

Some people want to give birth in peace, without the stress of their family crowding around and watching the show.Others prefer the comfort of knowing their mom and dad are there in the wings, ready to give them snacks and hold the tiny baby when all is said and done.However, when the baby comes early, this can cause a rift in schedules for those who had previously planned to be there.In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a man asked if he was wrong for not ending his vacation early for the birth of her grandchild.He wrote: AITA for not ending my vacation early and rushing home for the birth of our grandchild?  I 52m and my wife were on a two-week vacation in Cancun Mexico. Were from the US and planned all year for this trip, and saved up money to be able to go on this trip. (We booked and paid before my daughter was pregnant.)  It was our 6th day there when our daughter&#39;s (26) boyfriend called us saying she was giving birth and we had to get on the next plane ride home.  We were aware my daughter was soon to pop, but her due date wasn&rsquo;t until the end of this month, mind you these events took place in the beginning of this month. We told him that was impossible, and just to follow their birthing plan and to keep us updated.  A few hours later we got a call from my daughter updating us then asking when we&rsquo;d be on our way back and that she really wanted us to be here and that it was taken longer than expected, she was scared, etc.  She&rsquo;s a first-time mom so it was expected for her to be scared. My wife and I assured her everything would be fine, but we were unable to just pack up and go. She got upset and hung up on me.  Hours later in the middle of the night we missed a call due to us sleeping and it was her boyfriend saying there was complications and they were performing emergency c section.  The next morning we called immediately and our daughter told us she was scared and things could&rsquo;ve gone bad and our Cancun trip was more important to us than her, then hung up. We tried to call back but she wouldn&rsquo;t answer.  The baby was born healthy and our daughter is okay. We have only seen pictures of our grandchild through Facebook because our daughter hasn&rsquo;t let us see her and has barely spoke to us since we&rsquo;ve been back home.  We had planned to be there for our grandchild&rsquo;s birth, but we couldn&rsquo;t leave 6 days into a trip we spent a large amount of money on. Even if we did we wouldn&rsquo;t make it back on time.  Even if we did make it back we couldn&rsquo;t do anything the doctors couldn&rsquo;t in the situation. I feel as though our daughter is being too harsh to us. We have apologized many times. The internet weighed in with their takes on the situation.DialPlumeria wrote:  NTA- you can&#39;t just rush home from another country, and if you had, same-day tickets would have been astronomical. I take it your daughter is mad, but it was a no-win situation.  You planned the trip way ahead, and you could not just rush home because traveling from another country doesn&#39;t work that way. Also, there are still COVID procedures in place, so chances are the nurses would have sent you home xtinejoi wrote: I&#39;m confused? Do people normally expect their grandparents to be witness to their grandchildren&#39;s birth? I personally never heard/experienced this around me. Weird. I wouldn&#39;t even expect my dad to be there and I love him to death.  NTA? Idk whatever floats people boats I guess. Dependent-Show2297 wrote: NTA. I say this as a mother of two with two C-sections, with blood issues and allergies to meds (so no painkillers after the surgeries), with the second baby born in COVID maternity and with all the stress caused by this.  Baby was COVID negative, underweight but healthy, saw him after 2 weeks. You couldn&#39;t have done a thing for them.  At my first C-section, the doctors screwed up something because my family saw the other doctors and nurses from the other ORs rushing to my OR and my family couldn&#39;t do a thing to help. Finally, I got out of the OR alive.  Even if you would have tried and booked a flight (losing the trip money) and paying extra for the last-minute tickets, you would have missed the birth. They would have blamed you anyway. Why do I think they&#39;re blaming you?  Because it was a stressful event. They weren&#39;t ready. I know how it is to feel alone. But I also know you couldn&#39;t have done anything for them. From the moment they went to the hospital till the c-section probably passed less than 12 hours.  It&#39;s sad that she is upset. I understand her need for comfort. But still, it wasn&#39;t your fault for not being there. I would send her a message in which I would tell her how much you love her and miss her.  Tell her how bad you feel for the way things happened and how you hope she will forgive you because you hurt her. She&#39;s emotional, but I think later on she will see both sides of the story, and right now all you can do is apologize for hurting her. OP is definitely NTA, but his daughter isn&#39;t either, she just seems hurt.

Some people want to give birth in peace, without the stress of their family crowding around and watching the show.  Others prefer the comfort of knowing their mom and dad are there in the wings, ready to give them snacks and hold the tiny...