There's nothing quite like giving someone a taste of their own medicine.
It can be the most cathartic form of revenge, but it can also leave you feeling worse off than you felt before. It all depends on the context.
AITA for refusing to lend my car to my brother so he can pick up his daughter from school?
A few years ago, my brother bought a gorgeous red Ferrari. As I was still in college at the time (senior year as a CS major), I asked him if I could borrow his car for a few hours to take my girlfriend (now wife) on a ride. He flat-out said no to me and said he didn't trust me with it.
Skip to 4 years later, he eventually ended up falling on hard times and selling his car. He now drives a SUV and regularly drives his daughter to/back from school. Around this time (maybe 2-3 months ago now), I also get myself a Porsche Carrera GTS. With the background out of the way: Yesterday, my brother calls me out of the blue and says he wants to talk to me.
I was confused as my brother and I rarely ever talk (maybe at Christmas or Thanksgiving, but even then rarely due to in-laws and etc.). I ask him what's up, and he opens up by asking me about my family and everything (just small talk). Then he asks if it was possible for me to lend him my car for just a day.
Apparently, his daughter loves sports cars and he had made her a promise to drive her around in one. Remembering how he had told me no, after I begged him to let me borrow his car, I said no. He was shocked and said that he would bring it back mint condition (with a full gas tank and everything). He told me about the promise he made to his daughter.
I still said no and that I didn't trust him with it. This then escalated and we got into a fight where he called me an asshole and hung up the phone. I told my wife, and she said I should've been the bigger man here. She said it happened so long. She also said what he did wasn't right, but what I did wasn't right either. With all this information, AITA?
People had a lot of thoughts.
You could always just do it for your niece, but YOU have to be the driver.
NTA. Why do some people have two sets of rules? You guys aren't close. He didn't trust you. Why should you trust him? I tend to lean into petty.
ESH. Ok I’m probably getting downvoted but, I don’t believe in being the bigger person. I believe in reciprocating energy. You get what you give. However, your niece had no involvement in your issue with your brother. This would have been a great opportunity to have a bonding moment with her by offering to give her a ride.
NTA. Parents really need to stop making promises to their kids that they can't keep. Don't promise something when you're entirely reliant on another person to make it happen. Like betting on your brother that you aren't close with giving you his sports car.
NTA, he wasn’t back then and you are not now. You could not afford to drive the car then and he simply cannot afford to drive a GT3 now. Your car costs more than many people’s homes. Lending it to a guy without a pot to piss in is a terrible idea.
No one thinks OP is TA here, but several also don't think his brother is TA, it sounds like both of them just like to keep their nice things close to home.