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Man walks out on girlfriend when she gets pregnant; 'I told you not to.' AITA?

Man walks out on girlfriend when she gets pregnant; 'I told you not to.' AITA?


"I refuse to stay for my child, AITAH ?"


I never wanted to be a father. I'm the oldest of six kids and most of my childhood and teen years were spent being a third parent to my younger siblings. My ex girlfriend knew this from the start of our relationship in 2017. She said she was fine with it.

Then at some point during the pandemic she got severe baby fever which she admitted probably happened because both her sister and best friend had their babies between late 2020 and mid 2021.

She had always said she didn't think she wanted to be a mom until then. Then, she said her mind couldn't be changed back. I told her ther was no way. If this was something she felt strongly about, we could break up and she could find a man who wants to be a father.

We went on a break for a few months before she asked me to get back together. She said she had time to think and, while she still wanted to be a mom, she would try to just be cool being an aunty.

Then we move to mid 2022 when she tells me she's pregnant. It's mine and she is not getting rid of it. I asked how and she admitted she'd been off her birth control for some time. I was furious.

She had our baby earlier this year and I just can't do it. I never wanted to be a dad. She knew this six years ago. I get that her mind changed but then she said she'd be chill without having a baby, so I thought we would genuinely move past that. I expected it to come up again but not a pregnancy.

I've told her I'm leaving. I make good money and will pay child support. But I never wanted this. She didn't at first then she did. Then she went and did all of this to me. So now I'm looking like a massive A-Hole to everyone from friends to family to random people we're loosely acquainted with because I'm the dad who's ditching his child. AITAH?

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NTA. But you need to get a vasectomy.


It’s mind boggling to me that people like this don’t get vasectomies.


Never put someone else in charge of your reproductive health, vasectomy or wrap it up.


Also, don't act surprised when ANYONE you sleep with gets pregnant. Sex leads to pregnancies.


NTA. She lied and purposely got pregnant. This is called Reproductive Coercion (AKA baby trapping), and is illegal in some states, (I'd read somewhere it was illegal in some states, but not from what I can see now, which really sucks. It *should* be.) you might want to look into that.

And in the future, get a vasectomy and/or use a condom, don't rely on your partner to be honest about birth control, especially when they've admitted to having baby fever. Yes, people. I know it's not illegal. That's what the edit is for...


NTA What she did was disgusting. My heart breaks for this baby; she gave zero thought to the impact her deceit will have on the child.

Get a vasectomy.

The OP returned after comments started flooding in.



I have not been replying due to work and commuting home. For all the why not a vasectomy questions: here's the thing, I like kids. I had great experiences with my siblings when I was young and with my younger cousins.

So despite not wanting to be a dad, I did hold out on the off chance that one day something might change, I'd put my past behind me. It was a 'For the 1% - 5% chance I start wanting to have a child' choice.

Essentially, I never wanted to be a dad but like my gf's mind changed, I was always aware of the possibility that my mind could change at some point. People are complicated sometimes.

So, it sounds like the OP has made up his mind. What would you tell his new ex?

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