16 women share how they filter out men they don't want to date.
Men are bad at dating. This makes it hard for women to determine if a man is worth their time. Women must use what they know about men to determine ways to distinguish the good from the bad.
On a popular Reddit thread in the AskReddit Subreddit, women share the criteria they use to filter out men.
They write:
1. ApprehensiveBee3971 says:
Saying 'I'd like for us to get to know each other first' works a treat.
2. FlyTerrible says:
If they start talking /writing about sexual stuff right away -if they want you to send them a lot of pictures
3. OkTranslator5418 says:
'I don't kiss the first time I see somebody, but if you want, we can go for a coffee tomorrow/next week' - around 10% of guys text the next day. I use this when meeting guys at parties and bars.
4. TheFleabagDiary says:
They bugger off when you won’t have sex.
5. glorlop says:
As a redhead, a lot of dudes lead with, 'I’ve never f*cked a redhead before.' I was 19 or so when I started weeding guys who were too into my hair; I’m not looking to be someone’s fetish or bucket list f*ck.
6. Ok_Relationship_705 says:
Him: 'So what do you do for fun?'
Her: 'Oh normal stuff. Reading. Hiking. Stuff like that. Anything fun really'
Him: 'I bet you sitting on my face would be fun.'
7. PinkieBing2 says:
If you message me for the first time by referring to me by a pet name (sweetie, baby, etc), you are getting insta-blocked.
8. triples_of_the_nova says:
I figured it out after a while. 1) Do they take you on actual dates, or do they just want to watch a movie at someone’s house? 2) What do they talk about on the date? Themselves? Sex? Do they ask you questions about your life? 3) Do they communicate consistently or just text days later and say they’ve been busy? 4) After a little time, it should be clear that they’re into you and only dating you.
9. AnybodySeeMyKeys says:
My wife knew I was her guy when, after a concert pretty early on in our dating life, she had overindulged and wanted to bang it out. I said, 'I want to, but I want you to feel good about it later.' Later, she told me that had we done it that night, she might not have felt good enough about us to keep dating. I'm not sure that makes any sense, but I'm glad I made the right decision.
10. CrossXFir3 says:
Mate, you wouldn't believe how obvious it is for 95% I mean, I'd say you put in more effort than at least half of men if you don't say something sexual within the first couple of messages.
11. LilacMages says:
Immediate love bombing = 🚩
12. ThrowRA2078 says:
When they look at my body nonstop, comment on how good I look repeatedly, try to wine and dine too much thinking it’ll lead to sex, or send me sex memes.
13. blissfullytaken says:
I always met up with guys in public and never agreed to go back to their place. I also tried to gauge where their hands are during the date and where their eyes are going. I dated people who gave me red flags on the first date and some on the third. I stop seeing them after I see the flags.
I never go on a date that’s in a secluded area. I also never ride their cars. I need to have my own transportation so I can get away if things get creepy. I was single for a while but it was worth it because I ended up meeting my current husband who is the most wonderful and respectful man I have ever met in my life.
14. Lexaprofessional1998 says:
Honestly, guys who say they love to cuddle will use that as an excuse to touch all over you, and it feels like pressure, so when they say that, I am no longer interested. Maybe I’m crazy, but I don’t like to be touched anywhere but the hands on a first date.
15. splicegrl says:
Set a thirst trap. This works primarily on Hinge, where they have to react to a specific photo. Have a bunch of normal/fun photos and one 'sexy' photo (I did a sports bra and tights, pretty much anything 'sexy' works). Any guy that starts a convo based on that photo is an instant no. It saves a lot of time and effort on my end, and the reality of the matter is that if the most interesting thing about my profile is my body, we're not going to work.
16. autumnmoonz says:
The best tip I had from dating is to tell a man no, and see how he reacts. Doesn’t always have to be sexual, just disagree politely and gauge his reaction.