I f32 have been dating my boyfriend m36 for 9 months. He has two little children who love going out to eat. We go out once a week and each time he happens to forget his credit card to make a payment. I'd obviously end up paying since we had the kids with us. but honestly it left me broke this month and the month before.
I just received my payment for my 2nd job (part time). We agreed to go out together with the kids and I even sent him a text reminding him to not forget his credit card. He laughed it off.
At the restaurant we had ordered dinner and he let the kids order lots of new stuff on the menu which was $$$. Before we started eating I mentioned his credit card just to make sure he didn't forget it. He looked at me shocked and then started searching his pockets for a while.
He then looked at me in a sorry way and said 'Guess I forgot it in the other pair of jeans that I thought I was going to wear' then asked me to foot the bill 'just this time'. The food was on the table but I didn't even get a bit.
I grabbed my stuff and got up. He freaked out asking where I was going. I told him I wouldn't be paying 'this time AGAIN' and to enjoy his dinner with the kids. Then I walked out.
He called me later and absolutely lost it on me. he said that he couldn't believe I'd walk and leave him and the KIDS in this situation. I said I wasn't going to pay for him and the kids food every single time! it's unfair!
He said he forgot, FORGOT (he yelled like that) and that I did not show sympathy for him and the kids and he had to cancel and go home with the kids hungry since he couldn't pay right there and then.
We got into an argument and he's been mad at me about it since then saying things like how he needs to take a look at how I'm treating the kids specifically and how I was willing to let them go hungry with my selfishness. AITA?
liligram says:
He has been manipulating you weekly for 9 months to pay for dinner for him and his kids….NTA but take a look at your relationship as he is using you
veni_vidi_dixi says:
YTA to yourself for putting up with this for so many months. He’s taking advantage of you and you’re letting him. Break up with this man.
Rborroto77 says:
I probably wouldn’t have walked out with the kids there, but geezus, he’ll almost 40 and can’t pay for his own meals? 😐
emccm says:
NTA. You know he didn’t “forget”, he knows he didn’t forget and every single reader of this post knows he didn’t forget. He didn’t forget