Woman kicks couple out of her party for using pet names and showing non-stop PDA.

A lot of couples use pet names in the comfort of their homes. Pet names can be a gross-but-cute way of expressing affection, and they signal the shift from buttoned-up 'outside behavior' to the feral freedom of being inside your own space.

Luckily, because of the saccharine and sometimes slightly dirty nature of pet names, most couples know better than to trot them out in front of their friends. However, there's always the awkward exception.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she was wrong for kicking a couple out for their PDA and pet name usage at her party.

She wrote:

AITA for kicking a girl out of my party for calling her boyfriend “daddy?”

I (F24) was hosting a small-scale hangout with about 15 friends. One girl (F23) is an acquaintance of mine and she came with her boyfriend. We were all sitting around in the main room and eating pizza when she came to sit and sat on her boyfriend’s lap. A little weird since there were open seats, but I didn’t say anything.

While we were talking as a group, she would always refer to her boyfriend as “daddy.” She would interject with things like “daddy just bought me a new stand mixer” and “daddy looks so handsome in this shirt right! I told him to get it!” At first, we thought she was joking or messing with us, but she continued doing it and the rest of us were side-eyeing each other and were kind of uncomfortable.

I asked her if she could save the pet names for home because some of us were feeling uncomfortable. She got upset and told me to stop making such a big deal over a nickname and sl*t-shaming her.

I told her that wasn’t my intention at all, but I would appreciate if she could stop because it was killing the vibe. She started ranting at me about a whole lot of stuff, and I just told her and her boyfriend to please leave.

Her boyfriend was pissed too but they eventually got out. The rest of the evening was less uncomfortable and way more peaceful (a few of my friends who didn’t know the girl I kicked thanked me for making her leave), but we all felt kind of awkward because of what happened. AITA?

All the daddies and mommies of the internet shared their two cents.

RatchedAngle wrote:

'S$*t-shaming.' She told on herself, right there. She feels insecure about her sexuality, which is why she feels the need to parade it around at a party in the hopes that people will validate her.

As soon as everyone (rightfully) got uncomfortable, her worst insecurities were confirmed and she had a meltdown.

People keep confusing “tolerance for alternative s**ualities” with “yeah, I’m totally fine witnessing this with my own two eyes in a public setting.”

Telling someone “I don’t want to see or hear about your s*x life” is not the same as telling them “you should be ashamed of your s*x life.” And it’s obvious that there’s a k**ky component to her calling him daddy. NTA.

DragonMaster7433 wrote:

NTA, although the title is misleading. You didn’t kick her out for calling her bf “daddy.” You kicked her out because she started yelling at you in your own home when you politely asked her to stop using the nickname (of a potentially s**ual nature) as it was making everyone uncomfortable.

HannahPoppyMommy wrote:

NTA. It is your party. At first, you didn't really ask her to leave. You politely just asked her to use the nickname somewhere else. You did not sl*t shame her. Yet she got so defensive and accused you of doing so. She was the one who caused a scene. And yes, 'daddy' to address a BF is just plain weird.

tharpenau wrote:

NTA. Multiple people felt uncomfortable by their deliberate behavior. They were asked to stop while in a group social setting (this is likely a k*nk of theirs to do things in front of others) but refused.

Others not wanting to be around that behavior is reasonable and asking those doing it to stop would even be expected when others are not comfortable. Even if everyone else there was fine with this, it is your party, your home and if you were uncomfortable that is enough right there.

Their response about sl*t shaming reinforces the point that this was s**ual and purposeful by them as nothing in your write-up of the situation would be sl*t shaming.

As for if you were k*nk shaming, I would say no since everyone there has a right not to be a participant to their personal kinks. Asking them to stop while making others uncomfortable at a party is not shaming but just common decency.

They can go home open the front window blinds and put on their display for their neighbors and hope they do not have the cops called instead.

Clearly, OP did nothing wrong, and the woman and her boyfriend need to learn better boundaries.