Homeowner lets sister and bf move in rent free; bf refuses to do chores, watch his kid.

Ever feel like you're doing someone a huge favor and then see them take it for granted? That's how one woman felt after letting her 19yo sister, sister's boyfriend, and child move in, rent-free but with shared chores.

u/Any-Arugula8950 is fed up with her sister's boyfriend not doing his chores. She laid down the law of her home but went to Reddit for some backup to ask:

'AITA (am I the a-hole) for speaking to my sister's BF like he's a child?'

I'm 30f. My sister Hannah (19) has been dating Austin (20) for 3 years. They have a 1yo daughter together. Family emergencies came up 3 months ago and they needed somewhere to stay. I was the only safe option, to put it lightly, so I told them they could stay here temporarily. I laid out ground rules, knowing how Austin is (incredibly lazy).

Austin was to keep working full time and never miss a day unless sick. When he was home he was to do his fair share of house work. I told them they didn't have to pay rent so they will be helping in other ways. My sister works for me in my business and she can bring my niece with her. I help watch her throughout the day.

I have the house stuff split equally and on a rotating schedule. So like we all cook dinner in a rotation of me, Hannah and then Austin, repeat. Cleaning the bathroom, same rotation. Etc, etc. There's not many chores. Just dinner, dishes and bathroom. Well, lately Austin has been a little prick, to put it lightly.

Starts getting really pissed having to do anything when he gets home from work (6hrs- 4 days a week at a Sub Sandwich shop). If he is making dinner that night he almost always starts yelling to my sister and saying 'Hannah will you just come f***ing do this? I need to walk away.' And then he will go outside and smoke for a half hour and just have my sister do his chore.

I started putting my foot down because this guy won't even hold his kid so my sister can eat or bathe. When he does take his child he will put her on the floor in front of him and leave her crying while he plays video games. I've had enough.

So yesterday he pulled the same shit. Tried getting out of dinner by yelling to my sister to do it. I immediately stepped in and said no. If he was going to be here he wasn't going to be using the 'I can't do this' weaponized incompetent bullsh*t. He can do it. He's simply lazy.

I told him it ends now. He's going to be doing his chores. He is going to be helping out with his kid OR he was going to start paying me the full rent of what a room would be in the area ($650) if he wants to stay here.

Later on he told my sister he was moving out because I was a dumb b*tch and treated him like a child and got her all worked up so she's panicking and asking me to understand that he's just 'burnt out'. AITA?

OP later came back to add:

ETA: my sister does NOT want to do his chores. They end up getting in to yelling matches over it damn near every time. Same with the fact that he won't even hold his kid so she can eat or bathe. It's a constant fight, so yes it is my business.

So what does Reddit think?

Is OP the a-hole or should sis call Austin's bluff and let him move out?

overthinkernumber1 writes:

Massive NTA (not the a-hole)! Firstly, he is still a child! Sucks that they decided to have a baby when he is clearly not responsible enough to support his wife or the baby. Secondly this is your place, and your rules were not wrong. Your sister should not have to be a mum to both him and her daughter.

Calm_Opinion_7112 says:

NTA. Your sister needs to take a hard look at that relationship. Just because she is in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s not a broken one. Stand your ground and treat him like the child he is a he grows up.

Flashy_Celebration78 writes:

NTA. The house rules are fair. It's not like they're being exploited or anything. The relationship is probably a mess. Seems like they're together for the kid (whom he doesn't take care of, BTW)

Talk to your sister. He can leave if he wants. Ask your sister if she really wants to go with that guy.You're NTA and you've done your part. Stick with it but it's for those two to decide what to do now.

And Substantial-Air3395 says:

Why can't people use birth control? NTA.

Reddit agrees: OP is the homeowner, OP makes the rules.

No one was on Austin's side. They see him as a bad roommate and, worse, a bad father. OP was encouraged, it's 'her way or the highway!'