Me (44M) and my wife Ami (43) have a biological son Ethan (16) and a adopted son Aiden and daughter Gracie (16, 12) We adopted Aiden and Gracie 10 years ago. We have been talking about colleges for a while with the boys and they both want to stay together wherever they go.
We have college funds for all three children with the same amount in so they will be able to afford to go if they decide to. My mother died and left me a lot of money and I used it to fund their accounts as I thought this was more important than paying off our mortgage that we are comfortably paying each month.
The more the boys talk about college the more Ami gets upset with how much money it’s going to cost. This all ended up in a huge argument between us with her calling me a AH. She apparently is happy to fund Ethan’s college but only part for Aiden and Gracie.