Man leaving rehab refuses to attend Thanksgiving with 'chaperone', family says he must.
When this man is embarrassed by his family, he asks Reddit:
'AITA for refusing to go to thanksgiving dinner if it means I have to have a “chaperone” when I’m there?'
I (27M) got out of rehab for opioids a month ago. I’ve been crashing with a friend while I’ve been trying to get back on my feet.
Also. I can’t believe I have to type this, but my post isn’t fake because I’m talking about having thanksgiving in October. I’m Canadian. We have it in October.
Thanksgiving dinner is tomorrow night with a bunch of family and I have been invited. With the caveat that my older brother will be my “chaperone” for the night, and will follow me around and make sure that I’m not “getting into trouble” or “ruining the night.”
I told them this morning that if they were gonna treat me like I wasn’t able to be trusted and embarrass me like this, then I wasn’t going to attend.
My brother told me I was hurting my parents and that “this is the price” I had to pay for being fresh post-rehab. I told him fine but I wouldn’t be attending. He told me that he loved me but I was making a mistake and hung up.
I stole from my family once and I got high at my grandmothers funeral. I regret both of these things more than I can ever express.
AITA for refusing to attend?
Let's find out.
silverchariot writes:
You have a very valid point. Hes 100% an asshole for taking offense to it, but I think the commenters NAH point still stands. He was an addict, and hes fresh out of rehab. He has to rebuild himself and consider these things before rebuilding his relationships.
nickhmmmm says:
He will have to accept it if he wants his family to allow him back in . For better or for worse , his actions hurt them . Going to rehab and getting sober doesnt make the hurt he caused to disappear.
Right now , they dont trust him, and they are right not to . IF he wants that trust back (and he will need it for a closer relationship) , he will have to sacrifice things . He can of course refuse all that , but he cant expect his family to 'play by his rules' moving forward ...