'AITA for canceling plans to take my nephew to a Super Bowl party because of a girl I just met? UPDATED

"AITA for canceling plans to take my nephew to a Super Bowl party because of a girl I just met?"

So nothing has happened yet…I’m feeling out what I should do. My nephew is 9 and a massive football fan…like lives and dies with with it. My boss is hosting a Super Bowl party and he went to college with a guy who was a pretty decent sized name in the NFL in mid 2010s.

I asked my boss if my nephew (edit: and his best friend) could come and he said this player loves kids who the love the game so for sure. I told nephew and he’s been so excited.

Part 2: I stayed in last night and decided to get take out from a local “chicken wing place.” Order was 7 shades of screwed so as I waited for them to fix it I started chatting with the bar tender and we hit it off big time. Like as in she was getting off work and she asked me if I wanted to come watch TV her at her apartment.

Quite literally the funnest night of my life because it was so easy. We made blanket forts and popcorn and watched the show. I’m going to marry her without question. I asked her if she wanted to come to the party with us and she said she always takes the day off to go solo hiking but asked if I wanted to come. Without even thinking of my nephew I said yes.

I left her house being totally in love and excited to see her again but then it hit me that I can’t do both. One one hand if I skip the date I don’t get to see this girl again and risk that but if I don’t take my nephew it will break his heart. But if I’m being honest I would much rather be outside with her than in a room watching a game I don’t care about. AITA if I cancel the plans with my nephew?

Here's what people had to say to OP:

definitelynotcasper writes:

Buddy you are aware this chick probably f**ks different dudes in this same manner like all the time right?

Gallowjob OP replies:

We actually didn’t have sex.

NicoleD84 writes:

YTA and also YAI… you’re an idiot. Who asks someone to marry them after a few hours? Why would missing this date mean you never see her again (and who marries somebody who dumps them so easily)? Grow up, honor your commitment to your nephew and not the commitment to a complete stranger!

Gallowjob OP responded:

I didn’t ask her to marry me bruh, but I sat there looking at her as with no makeup on, her hair a mess, popcorn all over her clothes and thinking she was the most beautiful person I’d ever seen and every minute that I can spend with her would be a gift.

Icy-Marzipan610 writes:

YTA for even considering this. How is this really a once in a life time opportunity to hang out with her? You can’t just be honest and tell her you double booked and you need to honor your previous commitment? She goes hiking every weekend. Go with her next weekend.

This actually is likely a once in a lifetime event for your nephew. I would be furious if one of my siblings canceled on my son for something like this. He would be devastated. This would be like a go no contact situation for the level of cruelty.

Gallowjob OP:

Ha…I’m so in love with her I’ve already fast forwarded the beginning of “up” where one lifetime isn’t enough.

anitarielleliphe says:

Yes, you will be an a-hole if you ditch your nephew for such big plans to him in favor of a girl you just met, regardless of your prediction of marrying her. Besides, what will it tell this girl about you that you would crush a 9-year-old's dreams in such a way.

She will have much more respect for you if you are honest, explain that you had so much fun with her that when she asked you to go on the hike with her, you forgot all about the promise you made to your nephew.

Gallowjob OP responded:

You don’t think she’d see it as breaking a promise to her?

Lo_tessa writes:

You don't think your nephew would see it as breaking a promise to him?

Gallowjob OP responded:

He’s 9 my sister is hosting a party too is one way to rationalize it.

skillz7930 asks:

You don’t think it’s a problem to break promises to children?

Gallowjob OP responded:

Well yeah he’s why I’m asking here. I guess I got the answer though ?

Update from OP after reading comments:

I called her, she totally understood she was very sweet. I’m taking my nephew and his friend to my bosses party.