Very recently, I found out that my husband had installed a tracking device in his sister's car (he's a mechanic) while he was fixing it for her. I confronted him and he refused to tell me what was going on or expand on the situation. His sister and I are close.
I threatened him to tell her and her husband but he lashed out saying that this has nothing to do with me and that I was out of line to get myself involved. He told me 'it's complicated' that he can't say anything to me now and that I should keep my nose out of it. We had an argument and he started avoiding me saying there's gonna be an issue if I go through with my threat.
AITA for threatning to tell her? Should I back off?
I was asked to put more context but I'm not sure what is and isn't relevent. But I found out about the tracking device when I heard him talking on the phone, he said his mom was on the phone and she knew about it but I doubt it because she's close to my SIL and also, when he was talking on the phone it didn't sound like he was talking to his mom. His tone was more formal than usual.
Here's what some people think:
YTA for not telling her already. Also, all of your devices are probably tracked. If he does this to his sister he likely does it to you as well. Hi OP's husband, we know you're reading this. You're a creep.
Hey OP's husband... This one is specifically for you. Did you know that tracking people without their knowledge is illegal in most places? You are one messed up person. OP, please tell everyone in your family that this is happening.
When we are stuck between different people we love, the clear right choice can quickly appear far more murky. We have to give grace to people working on doing what is right, even if they haven’t fully arrived there yet.
OP is NTA. She is trying to do the right thing. Choosing between husband and SIL is difficult, even though husband is clearly wrong.
It’s probably the SIL husband who wants her tracked, and that’s who he was talking to !
Exactly what I was thinking. More than likely BIL thinks his wife is having an affair and wanted her tracked and Op's husband obliged to hel