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<h2>'AITA because I won&rsquo;t childproof my new house?'</h2><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m (f30) am a new house owner, I bought it earlier this year and moved in a few months ago. I don&rsquo;t have kids hence no need to childproof my house. Of course I don&rsquo;t have swords sticking out of my walls but my stairs don&rsquo;t have baby gates, etc.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I also have quite a few pets, parrots of different species. I turned my top floor into parrot space where they have a massive room to fly freely all day and all plants and treats and toys. It&rsquo;s a lot of stuff. But parrots are easily stressed and they can be fragile, especially the smaller ones.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My family have been pushing for me to host thanksgiving at my house as it&rsquo;s the biggest one. I have 5 siblings who all have their own kids (between 2-4 each). It&rsquo;s a lot of people when you add my parents, aunts, uncles, etc.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I didn&rsquo;t want to do it as it&rsquo;s a lot of prep work with cooking and then cleaning after but I eventually agreed but laid down some ground rules.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>1. I planned the menu and everyone brings a dish so we can all contribute.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>2. Bring entertainment for your kids. I&rsquo;ll make one room into a quiet space where they can go and take a nap if they&rsquo;re overstimulated or they can go in and play quietly but they have to provide tots and whatever their kids will need.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>3. Absolutely no one without me goes to the parrot room (it&rsquo;ll be locked anyway).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I thought these were simple and fair but my siblings are now demanding that I baby proof my house because it&rsquo;s unsafe. What if a kid falls off the stairs. That I must allow kids to see the parrots as they want to play with them and it&rsquo;ll keep the kids quiet.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told them that they would have to keep an eye on their kids because I&rsquo;m not going to install childproof system for one day and they will simply have to keep an eye on their kids. I also said that there was absolutely no way that I would allow kids inside the parrot room. They&rsquo;re calling me an a**hole, spoiled kid (I&rsquo;m the oldest but okay), lazy bum, etc.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I threatened that if they keep on going I would cancel Thanksgiving at my house and they can host it but they keep on going. Because of this situation, I&rsquo;m currently not on speaking terms with 2 of my sisters.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They keep complaining and ganging up on me. My father is on my side but my mother has my siblings side and I&rsquo;m not sure anymore. Should I cave in? Am I really the a**hole in this situation?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Comments:</p><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MastodonMiddle3883/" target="_blank">MastodonMiddle3883</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>This will not end well. I also have animals, cats, and siblings with kids. One of my cats are really sensitive of sounds, wild people and children. Her domain are my bedroom where she can feel safe.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/daisyiris/" target="_blank">daisyiris</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. This. They will break all of his rules. Her birds are going to be injured, frightened, or killed. The family is disrespectful. Cancel. Set your boundaries in stone now.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ThotsforTaterTots/" target="_blank">ThotsforTaterTots</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Cancel thanksgiving and go to the Bahamas or something solo</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/hbgbees/" target="_blank">hbgbees</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>I bet the parrots would enjoy the Bahamas</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/asquared3/" target="_blank">asquared3</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Seriously! As a mother of a 3 year old, I fully get that it&#39;s a pain to follow after a toddler and make sure they don&#39;t kill themselves in a non child proofed home. But that&#39;s why I literally begged to host all major holidays in the past few years! And when we did go to other people&#39;s houses, I never would&#39;ve expected them to do any baby proofing...that shit is expensive.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>OP&#39;s best bet is to cancel. They&#39;d be blamed for anything that went wrong no matter what.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/JWJulie/" target="_blank">JWJulie</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA - BUT I would strongly recommend you get a stairgate anyway. If they are all drinking and chatting there is no way they will be keeping an eye on their kids 100%. It will keep them away from your parrots, your bedroom, everything you don&rsquo;t want them touching.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man with no kids asks if he's wrong to not child-proof house for family Thanksgiving.

'AITA because I won&rsquo;t childproof my new house?' I&rsquo;m (f30) am a new house owner, I bought it earlier this year and moved in a few months ago. I don&rsquo;t have kids hence no need to childproof my house. Of course I don&rsquo;t have swords sticking out of my walls but my stairs don&rsquo;t have baby gates, etc.  I also have quite a few pets, parrots of different species. I turned my top floor into parrot space where they have a massive room to fly freely all day and all plants and treats and toys. It&rsquo;s a lot of stuff. But parrots are easily stressed and they can be fragile, especially the smaller ones.  My family have been pushing for me to host thanksgiving at my house as it&rsquo;s the biggest one. I have 5 siblings who all have their own kids (between 2-4 each). It&rsquo;s a lot of people when you add my parents, aunts, uncles, etc.  I didn&rsquo;t want to do it as it&rsquo;s a lot of prep work with cooking and then cleaning after but I eventually agreed but laid down some ground rules.  1. I planned the menu and everyone brings a dish so we can all contribute.  2. Bring entertainment for your kids. I&rsquo;ll make one room into a quiet space where they can go and take a nap if they&rsquo;re overstimulated or they can go in and play quietly but they have to provide tots and whatever their kids will need.  3. Absolutely no one without me goes to the parrot room (it&rsquo;ll be locked anyway).  I thought these were simple and fair but my siblings are now demanding that I baby proof my house because it&rsquo;s unsafe. What if a kid falls off the stairs. That I must allow kids to see the parrots as they want to play with them and it&rsquo;ll keep the kids quiet.  I told them that they would have to keep an eye on their kids because I&rsquo;m not going to install childproof system for one day and they will simply have to keep an eye on their kids. I also said that there was absolutely no way that I would allow kids inside the parrot room. They&rsquo;re calling me an a**hole, spoiled kid (I&rsquo;m the oldest but okay), lazy bum, etc.  I threatened that if they keep on going I would cancel Thanksgiving at my house and they can host it but they keep on going. Because of this situation, I&rsquo;m currently not on speaking terms with 2 of my sisters.  They keep complaining and ganging up on me. My father is on my side but my mother has my siblings side and I&rsquo;m not sure anymore. Should I cave in? Am I really the a**hole in this situation? Comments: MastodonMiddle3883 says: This will not end well. I also have animals, cats, and siblings with kids. One of my cats are really sensitive of sounds, wild people and children. Her domain are my bedroom where she can feel safe. daisyiris says: NTA. This. They will break all of his rules. Her birds are going to be injured, frightened, or killed. The family is disrespectful. Cancel. Set your boundaries in stone now. ThotsforTaterTots says: NTA. Cancel thanksgiving and go to the Bahamas or something solo hbgbees says: I bet the parrots would enjoy the Bahamas  asquared3 says: Seriously! As a mother of a 3 year old, I fully get that it&#39;s a pain to follow after a toddler and make sure they don&#39;t kill themselves in a non child proofed home. But that&#39;s why I literally begged to host all major holidays in the past few years! And when we did go to other people&#39;s houses, I never would&#39;ve expected them to do any baby proofing...that shit is expensive.  OP&#39;s best bet is to cancel. They&#39;d be blamed for anything that went wrong no matter what.  JWJulie says: NTA - BUT I would strongly recommend you get a stairgate anyway. If they are all drinking and chatting there is no way they will be keeping an eye on their kids 100%. It will keep them away from your parrots, your bedroom, everything you don&rsquo;t want them touching. 

'AITA because I won&rsquo;t childproof my new house?'   I&rsquo;m (f30) am a new house owner, I bought it earlier this year and moved in a few months ago. I don&rsquo;t have kids hence no need to childproof my house. Of course I...