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<h2>AITA for telling my parents that they ruined my NYE celebration after they kicked my husband out over a joke?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve been married to my 2nd Husband &quot;Mike&quot; for 4 years now. He&#39;s a jokester and loves to crack jokes all the time. He especially like to joke with my brother &quot;Ethan&quot; and his wife. Ethan used to be okay with it til he started complaining about Mike taking it too far with his jokes.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Some context about Ethan. He and his wife couldn&#39;t have kids so they adopted a boy &quot;Joey&quot; 2 years ago. Mike has been making silly, lighthearted jokes that involving Joey&#39;s bio parents as a way to mess with Ethan and his wife. I already talked to Mike and I tell you that he&#39;s 100% means no harm and he was just trying to get them to react.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So fast forward to NYE, my parents hosted a big celebratory dinner and Ethan and his wife came. While we were eating dinner, Mike decided to tell a knock-knock joke to Ethan. He said &quot;Knock knock..&quot; Ethan laughed and said &quot;Who&#39;s there?&quot;.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Mike replied &quot;Joey&#39;s bio parents&quot; then he bursted out laughing. Silence took over and Ethan&#39;s facial experssions changed. His wife called Mike an &quot;idiot&quot; to which Mike replied with &quot;Hey...Relax it was just a joke&quot;. An argument ensued and dinner was paused. My parents suddenly told Mik to leave which I thought was too harsh.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I tried to speak to them and get them to calm down but mom insisted that Mike leave. We left and Mike was complaining the whole time about how they overreacted. I called mom later and she told me Mike was out of line with his hurtful jokes about this touchy topic and told me I was wrong for defending him and saying he was just joking.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She said he ruined NY for the family but I told her it was her and dad who ruined NY celebration for escalating the situation and kicking him out. I told her he could talk to them but again they were the ones who ruined NY celebration. She called me delusional for this statement and hung up.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We haven&#39;t talked to them for days. I tried contacting Ethan but no response.</p> </blockquote><p>Here&#39;s how people judged OP:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/CertainCertainties/">CertainCertainties</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Your husband likes to hurt people. It&#39;s nothing to do with jokes.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/HerefsAndrew/">HerefsAndrew</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>&#39;Hey it&#39;s just a joke&#39; is not a get-out from everything. No-one is obliged to find something funny just because you do and to insist that they should is bullying, no more, no less. Mike&#39;s &#39;jokes&#39; are unpleasant and not remotely funny, and I speak as someone with a very sick sense of humour indeed. He&#39;s an AH and OP is another one for enabling him.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PhillyMila215/">PhillyMila215</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>They teach this at school and work regarding harassment, bullying, sexual harassment and the like. Husband knows this and doesn&rsquo;t care. He is mean, he is a bully, and he is not funny. Without all of those things he has been asked to stop and still bulldozes and does what he wants.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/newlypeaceful/">newlypeaceful</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>&ldquo;He 100% means no harm and he was just trying to get them to react.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The reaction is hurt. That&rsquo;s the reaction he&rsquo;s trying to get- hurt. If it&rsquo;s not hurt, it&rsquo;s frustration or annoyance. It&rsquo;s shitty to purposefully make people feel hurt, frustration, or annoyance for your own amusement. Toying with people&rsquo;s emotions is harmful. THINK OP. YTA</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NotNormallyHere/">NotNormallyHere</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>OP, YTA. Your husband is a bully. Good for your parents for standing up to him.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/antonylockhart/">antonylockhart</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA so much, especially Mike</p> <p>Knock knock Who&rsquo;s there? Mike&#39;s an a**hole, f**k Mike.</p> <p>What? It&rsquo;s a joke??</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ceeyaz/">ceeyaz</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Girl, my bf jokes alot. Sometimes he makes awful jokes which are mean, which is where it&rsquo;s my job as his gf to tell him he&rsquo;s being rude. Not everything can be joked about, and definitely not a subject like this.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man makes rude joke at in-law's NYE party; is asked to leave; says 'It's just a joke.'

AITA for telling my parents that they ruined my NYE celebration after they kicked my husband out over a joke? I&#39;ve been married to my 2nd Husband &quot;Mike&quot; for 4 years now. He&#39;s a jokester and loves to crack jokes all the time. He especially like to joke with my brother &quot;Ethan&quot; and his wife. Ethan used to be okay with it til he started complaining about Mike taking it too far with his jokes.  Some context about Ethan. He and his wife couldn&#39;t have kids so they adopted a boy &quot;Joey&quot; 2 years ago. Mike has been making silly, lighthearted jokes that involving Joey&#39;s bio parents as a way to mess with Ethan and his wife. I already talked to Mike and I tell you that he&#39;s 100% means no harm and he was just trying to get them to react.  So fast forward to NYE, my parents hosted a big celebratory dinner and Ethan and his wife came. While we were eating dinner, Mike decided to tell a knock-knock joke to Ethan. He said &quot;Knock knock..&quot; Ethan laughed and said &quot;Who&#39;s there?&quot;.  Mike replied &quot;Joey&#39;s bio parents&quot; then he bursted out laughing. Silence took over and Ethan&#39;s facial experssions changed. His wife called Mike an &quot;idiot&quot; to which Mike replied with &quot;Hey...Relax it was just a joke&quot;. An argument ensued and dinner was paused. My parents suddenly told Mik to leave which I thought was too harsh.  I tried to speak to them and get them to calm down but mom insisted that Mike leave. We left and Mike was complaining the whole time about how they overreacted. I called mom later and she told me Mike was out of line with his hurtful jokes about this touchy topic and told me I was wrong for defending him and saying he was just joking.  She said he ruined NY for the family but I told her it was her and dad who ruined NY celebration for escalating the situation and kicking him out. I told her he could talk to them but again they were the ones who ruined NY celebration. She called me delusional for this statement and hung up.  We haven&#39;t talked to them for days. I tried contacting Ethan but no response. Here&#39;s how people judged OP:CertainCertainties writes: YTA. Your husband likes to hurt people. It&#39;s nothing to do with jokes. HerefsAndrew writes: &#39;Hey it&#39;s just a joke&#39; is not a get-out from everything. No-one is obliged to find something funny just because you do and to insist that they should is bullying, no more, no less. Mike&#39;s &#39;jokes&#39; are unpleasant and not remotely funny, and I speak as someone with a very sick sense of humour indeed. He&#39;s an AH and OP is another one for enabling him. PhillyMila215 writes: They teach this at school and work regarding harassment, bullying, sexual harassment and the like. Husband knows this and doesn&rsquo;t care. He is mean, he is a bully, and he is not funny. Without all of those things he has been asked to stop and still bulldozes and does what he wants. newlypeaceful writes: &ldquo;He 100% means no harm and he was just trying to get them to react.&rdquo;  The reaction is hurt. That&rsquo;s the reaction he&rsquo;s trying to get- hurt. If it&rsquo;s not hurt, it&rsquo;s frustration or annoyance. It&rsquo;s shitty to purposefully make people feel hurt, frustration, or annoyance for your own amusement. Toying with people&rsquo;s emotions is harmful. THINK OP. YTA NotNormallyHere writes: OP, YTA. Your husband is a bully. Good for your parents for standing up to him. antonylockhart writes: YTA so much, especially Mike Knock knock Who&rsquo;s there? Mike&#39;s an a**hole, f**k Mike. What? It&rsquo;s a joke?? ceeyaz writes: Girl, my bf jokes alot. Sometimes he makes awful jokes which are mean, which is where it&rsquo;s my job as his gf to tell him he&rsquo;s being rude. Not everything can be joked about, and definitely not a subject like this. 

AITA for telling my parents that they ruined my NYE celebration after they kicked my husband out over a joke?   I&#39;ve been married to my 2nd Husband &quot;Mike&quot; for 4 years now. He&#39;s a jokester and loves to crack jokes all the...