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<h2>AITA for excluding my nephew from a vacation because of what I overheard his dad say about me?</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m a 33M (divorced) have 2 sisters and a brother all with children. I go on 3-4 trips annually to see different parts of the world (used to do it for work). For the past 3 years things were difficult because my ex wife and I were having issues.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I divorced her after she spread a rumor questioning my manhood and accusing me of lack of intimacy that resulted in divorce. She also said it&#39;s part of the reason why we couldn&#39;t have kids.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s all in the past now, and my family never brings it up. Since I needed a break I decided to go on a vacation (3 days). This time I wanted to take my nieces and nephew with me (along with my new girlfriend). My sisters were thrilled with the idea. All was going according to plan. I booked tickets and took care of everything and we needed for next week.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>2 days ago, I was visiting my parents house and I found my eldest nephew and his mom there too as well as my brother. I was sitting outside but then decided to go to use the bathroom.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>On my way inside, I overheard my brother question where I got the money to fund this vacation after my ex basically &quot;screwed me out&quot; of everything, and &quot;rightfully so.&quot; Then he said that he felt sorry for her for thinking she could make up for all the time she wasted in a sexless marriage with some money.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was shocked and furious. I confronted him and he was stunned to see me in front of him. I told him that if this is how he thinks of me then his son won&#39;t be included on the vacation. He tried to argue and attempted to explain saying I took what he said out of context, but I refused to argue and left.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My brother is upset by my decision. Our parents are saying I&#39;m punishing my nephew when he&#39;s the innocent one here and his dad&#39;s big mouth isn&#39;t his fault. I refused to argue about it, and told him I&#39;d take my nephew if his dad pays for his ticket and room, which he refused to do since the others are going for free.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Now I&#39;m being called bitter and being accused of treating the kids differently based on how I feel about the parents.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>AITA for excluding my nephew from a vacation because of what I overheard his dad say about me?</p> </blockquote><p>Comments:</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BeddingtonBlvd/">BeddingtonBlvd</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Adults don&rsquo;t punish kids for someone else&rsquo;s screw up. Kids aren&rsquo;t &ldquo;collateral damage &ldquo;. It&rsquo;s a small human, for goodness sake. Whatever issue the OP has with his brother, it&rsquo;s not his nephew&rsquo;s fault.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NTDP1994/">NTDP1994</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>To everyone who is complaining about OP punishing the nephew, please, tell me, how do you expect OP then to punish his brother? NTA, OP. I understand why people are upset about your nephew being collateral damage, I truly, truly get it. But that&#39;s the part of your brother&#39;s consequences &quot;play around and find out&quot;, his kid gets excluded if he doesn&#39;t pay up and he loses a free trip to his kid.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Meeoco/">Meeoco</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>He has offered to let his brother pay for the nephew which, frankly, seems more than fair.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/maleia/">maleia</a> says:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s a vacation, not life needing food and water. The kid&#39;s father made his kid &quot;collateral damage&quot; in this. You&#39;re not gonna sit there and try to say OP has to finance an uncomfortable situation.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/veganvampirebat/">veganvampirebat</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>He could &ldquo;punish&rdquo; his brother by limiting the relationship between them as much as possible while maintaining the relationship with his nephew.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man overhears brother insulting him, so he disinvites nephew from vacation.

AITA for excluding my nephew from a vacation because of what I overheard his dad say about me? I&#39;m a 33M (divorced) have 2 sisters and a brother all with children. I go on 3-4 trips annually to see different parts of the world (used to do it for work). For the past 3 years things were difficult because my ex wife and I were having issues.  I divorced her after she spread a rumor questioning my manhood and accusing me of lack of intimacy that resulted in divorce. She also said it&#39;s part of the reason why we couldn&#39;t have kids.  It&#39;s all in the past now, and my family never brings it up. Since I needed a break I decided to go on a vacation (3 days). This time I wanted to take my nieces and nephew with me (along with my new girlfriend). My sisters were thrilled with the idea. All was going according to plan. I booked tickets and took care of everything and we needed for next week.  2 days ago, I was visiting my parents house and I found my eldest nephew and his mom there too as well as my brother. I was sitting outside but then decided to go to use the bathroom.  On my way inside, I overheard my brother question where I got the money to fund this vacation after my ex basically &quot;screwed me out&quot; of everything, and &quot;rightfully so.&quot; Then he said that he felt sorry for her for thinking she could make up for all the time she wasted in a sexless marriage with some money.  I was shocked and furious. I confronted him and he was stunned to see me in front of him. I told him that if this is how he thinks of me then his son won&#39;t be included on the vacation. He tried to argue and attempted to explain saying I took what he said out of context, but I refused to argue and left.  My brother is upset by my decision. Our parents are saying I&#39;m punishing my nephew when he&#39;s the innocent one here and his dad&#39;s big mouth isn&#39;t his fault. I refused to argue about it, and told him I&#39;d take my nephew if his dad pays for his ticket and room, which he refused to do since the others are going for free.  Now I&#39;m being called bitter and being accused of treating the kids differently based on how I feel about the parents.  AITA for excluding my nephew from a vacation because of what I overheard his dad say about me? Comments:BeddingtonBlvd says: Adults don&rsquo;t punish kids for someone else&rsquo;s screw up. Kids aren&rsquo;t &ldquo;collateral damage &ldquo;. It&rsquo;s a small human, for goodness sake. Whatever issue the OP has with his brother, it&rsquo;s not his nephew&rsquo;s fault. NTDP1994 says: To everyone who is complaining about OP punishing the nephew, please, tell me, how do you expect OP then to punish his brother? NTA, OP. I understand why people are upset about your nephew being collateral damage, I truly, truly get it. But that&#39;s the part of your brother&#39;s consequences &quot;play around and find out&quot;, his kid gets excluded if he doesn&#39;t pay up and he loses a free trip to his kid. Meeoco says: He has offered to let his brother pay for the nephew which, frankly, seems more than fair.  maleia says: It&#39;s a vacation, not life needing food and water. The kid&#39;s father made his kid &quot;collateral damage&quot; in this. You&#39;re not gonna sit there and try to say OP has to finance an uncomfortable situation. veganvampirebat says: He could &ldquo;punish&rdquo; his brother by limiting the relationship between them as much as possible while maintaining the relationship with his nephew. 

AITA for excluding my nephew from a vacation because of what I overheard his dad say about me?   I&#39;m a 33M (divorced) have 2 sisters and a brother all with children. I go on 3-4 trips annually to see different parts of the world (used...