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<p>In theory, it makes sense to always back up your spouse.</p><p>But in reality, someone isn&#39;t infallible just because you married them, and sometimes the best thing to do is to call out their BS. Particularly, if they&#39;re pulling BS against other loved ones.</p><h2>In a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13s5srs/aita_for_not_taking_my_wifes_side_and_siding_with/" target="_blank">popular post on the AITA subreddit</a>, a man asked if he&#39;s wrong for not taking his wife&#39;s side after she crossed his parents&#39; boundary.</h2><p>He wrote:</p><blockquote> <p>AITA for not taking my wife&#39;s side and siding with my parents?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Background: My wife (28 F) and I (30 M), as well as my brother and his wife went to visit our parents as we haven&#39;t seen them in a while. My parents (57) had a box of $300 ginseng in the fridge to be given as a gift for their close friend&#39;s wedding anniversary tomorrow &mdash; we know this because it came up in conversation during lunch.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They also told us to help ourselves to anything in the fridge but to not touch the ginseng for obvious reasons. The problem came when a few hours later my parents called us in a panic saying that they couldn&#39;t find the ginseng and if anyone saw it. I didn&#39;t take it and at first I thought they just misplaced it somewhere.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>However, they insisted that they both agreed on not moving it out of the fridge drawer for that exact reason. All of us denied taking it and the conversation got more heated when my father started yelling that someone must have taken it since it only went missing when we came to visit.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>All of us continued to deny taking it, with my wife being really quiet, and my father said that if it doesn&#39;t turn up soon, he&#39;d have to have everyone&#39;s belongings checked. That was when my wife admitted that she took it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Apparently, it was some popular brand that my in-laws mentioned and she wanted to give it to them, and she thought that no one would notice since it was in an inconspicuous place in the fridge.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My MIL later called and said my parents overreacted over &#39;such an inconsequential thing&#39; and screamed at me that I was an a**hole for not defending my wife. The thing is, imo it wasn&#39;t a small thing, my wife literally stole hundreds of dollars from my parents and tried to lie her way out of it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>While I agree that my parents shouldn&#39;t have started yelling and accusing us, I feel like my wife was in the wrong for taking the ginseng in the first place. This situation has caused a lot of friction and we haven&#39;t been speaking since coming home. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>The post soon filled up with comments.</h2><p><strong><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ThomzLC/" target="_blank">ThomzLC</a> wrote:</strong></p><blockquote> <p>NTA your wife is a thief that literally stole something OF HIGH VALUE from your parents.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&#39;She thought that no one would notice since it was in an inconspicuous place in the fridge.&#39;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She is literally <strong>lying</strong> as you mentioned this topic was brought up during lunch it was an expensive gift not supposed to be touched.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&#39;My MIL later called and said my parents overreacted over &#39;such an inconsequential thing&#39; and screamed at me that I was an a**hole for not defending my wife.&#39;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>They are the a**holes for enabling this lying &amp; stealing behavior.</p> </blockquote><p><strong><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ProtectionFrequent18/" target="_blank">ProtectionFrequent18</a> wrote:</strong></p><blockquote> <p>NTA your wife literally stole a $300 item for your parents and her and MIL are mad she got caught. Honestly, if my husband did that id be having a long think about continuing the marriage.</p> </blockquote><p><strong><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/human-ish_/" target="_blank">human-ish_</a> wrote:</strong></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Unless we&#39;re missing a large part of the story, your wife more or less stole $300 from your parents and didn&#39;t think anybody would notice. Even if she didn&#39;t know it was a gift, she knew the brand, so she must have had a clue about the price. And for her mother to also brush it off as nothing major?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Eww. I wouldn&#39;t trust her in my house unless everything over $20 was locked away, even the couch. If MIL asks why she&#39;s not allowed over, it&#39;s because she thinks stealing from your family is totally fine and you disagree. (Also, steal a bunch of s**t from her and see how she feels. Like clean out an entire kitchen cabinet of spices.)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><strong><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Responsible_Judge007/" target="_blank">Responsible_Judge007</a> wrote:</strong></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. And would I be your parents, your wife wouldn&rsquo;t set foot in my home <strong>ever</strong> again. I would be petty enough to tell the hole family that if they ever invite her to a gathering to hide their expensive stuff.</p> </blockquote><p>Clearly, OP&#39;s wife is way out of line.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man sides with parents after discovering wife took their $300 ginseng for her parents.

Bronwyn Isaac

In theory, it makes sense to always back up your spouse.But in reality, someone isn&#39;t infallible just because you married them, and sometimes the best thing to do is to call out their BS. Particularly, if they&#39;re pulling BS against other loved ones.In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a man asked if he&#39;s wrong for not taking his wife&#39;s side after she crossed his parents&#39; boundary.He wrote: AITA for not taking my wife&#39;s side and siding with my parents?  Background: My wife (28 F) and I (30 M), as well as my brother and his wife went to visit our parents as we haven&#39;t seen them in a while. My parents (57) had a box of $300 ginseng in the fridge to be given as a gift for their close friend&#39;s wedding anniversary tomorrow &mdash; we know this because it came up in conversation during lunch.  They also told us to help ourselves to anything in the fridge but to not touch the ginseng for obvious reasons. The problem came when a few hours later my parents called us in a panic saying that they couldn&#39;t find the ginseng and if anyone saw it. I didn&#39;t take it and at first I thought they just misplaced it somewhere.  However, they insisted that they both agreed on not moving it out of the fridge drawer for that exact reason. All of us denied taking it and the conversation got more heated when my father started yelling that someone must have taken it since it only went missing when we came to visit.  All of us continued to deny taking it, with my wife being really quiet, and my father said that if it doesn&#39;t turn up soon, he&#39;d have to have everyone&#39;s belongings checked. That was when my wife admitted that she took it.  Apparently, it was some popular brand that my in-laws mentioned and she wanted to give it to them, and she thought that no one would notice since it was in an inconspicuous place in the fridge.  My MIL later called and said my parents overreacted over &#39;such an inconsequential thing&#39; and screamed at me that I was an a**hole for not defending my wife. The thing is, imo it wasn&#39;t a small thing, my wife literally stole hundreds of dollars from my parents and tried to lie her way out of it.  While I agree that my parents shouldn&#39;t have started yelling and accusing us, I feel like my wife was in the wrong for taking the ginseng in the first place. This situation has caused a lot of friction and we haven&#39;t been speaking since coming home. AITA? The post soon filled up with comments.ThomzLC wrote: NTA your wife is a thief that literally stole something OF HIGH VALUE from your parents.  &#39;She thought that no one would notice since it was in an inconspicuous place in the fridge.&#39;  She is literally lying as you mentioned this topic was brought up during lunch it was an expensive gift not supposed to be touched.  &#39;My MIL later called and said my parents overreacted over &#39;such an inconsequential thing&#39; and screamed at me that I was an a**hole for not defending my wife.&#39;  They are the a**holes for enabling this lying &amp; stealing behavior. ProtectionFrequent18 wrote: NTA your wife literally stole a $300 item for your parents and her and MIL are mad she got caught. Honestly, if my husband did that id be having a long think about continuing the marriage. human-ish_ wrote: NTA. Unless we&#39;re missing a large part of the story, your wife more or less stole $300 from your parents and didn&#39;t think anybody would notice. Even if she didn&#39;t know it was a gift, she knew the brand, so she must have had a clue about the price. And for her mother to also brush it off as nothing major?  Eww. I wouldn&#39;t trust her in my house unless everything over $20 was locked away, even the couch. If MIL asks why she&#39;s not allowed over, it&#39;s because she thinks stealing from your family is totally fine and you disagree. (Also, steal a bunch of s**t from her and see how she feels. Like clean out an entire kitchen cabinet of spices.) Responsible_Judge007 wrote: NTA. And would I be your parents, your wife wouldn&rsquo;t set foot in my home ever again. I would be petty enough to tell the hole family that if they ever invite her to a gathering to hide their expensive stuff. Clearly, OP&#39;s wife is way out of line.

In theory, it makes sense to always back up your spouse.  But in reality, someone isn&#39;t infallible just because you married them, and sometimes the best thing to do is to call out their BS. Particularly, if they&#39;re pulling BS...