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<h2>Weddings are a time for your closest family and friends to come together and celebrate. It can be heartbreaking for a bride or groom to not have their parents not be able to attend their wedding, whatever the reason.</h2><p>That&#39;s the painful situation Reddit user <a data-click-id="user" data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Designer-Pay8281/">u/Designer-Pay8281</a> finds herself in. Her parents are alive and able to attend her upcoming wedding, but they have chosen to take a 2-year long vacation instead. Her siblings have offered to have a pre-wedding reception before her parents leave for their trip, but she&#39;s declined out of hurt and frustration.</p><h2>Now, this bride is asking the internet, &quot;<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/wf4ekh/aita_for_refusing_to_have_an_intimate_reception/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA </a>(Am I the A**hole) for refusing to have a pre-wedding reception for my parents who decided they will not attend our wedding?&quot;</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Me &amp; my boyfriend will get married this year and my parents will not attend it. For context, I&rsquo;m the youngest child &amp; I have 6 more siblings.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So here&rsquo;s the story&mdash; my oldest sister is abroad for more than half her life (I don&rsquo;t even remember most of our time together because I was really small when she left), about 2 years ago, she decided she&rsquo;ll invite our parents there for a 2-year vacation.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>To be fair to her &amp; my parents, this was planned even before my bf proposed to me. We were actively making a way for my parents to be there at our wedding, but I keep noticing these not-so-subtle remarks from my mom about how excited she is already to go to my sister&#39;s which evidently will result in them missing our wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s even throwing out relatives&rsquo; names of who alternatively can walk me down the aisle which really offended me at the time but I kept my mouth shut. I tried to ignore those and still hoping they&rsquo;ll make it to our day.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This week their VISA was approved &amp; mind you, they (my oldest sister and parents) can ultimately choose to fly next year, but they decided to push through with it before our wedding which really broke my heart, but they didn&rsquo;t hear a word from me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I was still supportive. Even though it shattered me knowing my dad won&rsquo;t even walk me down the aisle. I joked to him once about it and he said he really wanted to but my mom &amp; oldest sister are the ones deciding and he&rsquo;s just going along with it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I guess my oldest sister doesn&rsquo;t really think it is THAT important to me to have my own parents at my wedding. After all, she barely knows me, if I&rsquo;m being honest.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Now here&rsquo;s where I might be the AH. My 2nd &amp; 3rd oldest sisters are insisting we do an intimate reception to accommodate my parents because they will, obviously, miss our wedding, but I repeatedly refused to do it. I told them we no longer have funds to do that because we are saving what we have for our big day.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>They said don&rsquo;t worry about it they&rsquo;ll handle it, but I still refused and told them I don&rsquo;t think it is necessary. In my mind why would I do that if they can&rsquo;t even make a way to attend our wedding even though they clearly have a choice?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>To make it even more heartbreaking for me, while we were discussing who will walk me down the aisle, my oldest brother &amp; sister didn&rsquo;t want to do it either because they said it&rsquo;ll make them look &ldquo;old.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I cried about that for days. I think I might be the AH because why would I not want a small gathering to accommodate my parents? But I&rsquo;m also thinking, why am I the only one who always needs to adjust? Isn&rsquo;t this supposed to be special to me &amp; my partner? Why is it about them now?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I guess I&rsquo;m just really resentful right now to all of them because they don&rsquo;t care about my feelings enough to see I&rsquo;m hurting. I have NEVER asked them for anything. I just want them to at least show they care. So AITA?</p> </blockquote><p>My heart breaks for this poor bride who can&#39;t even find a family member to walk her down the aisle. She is not &quot;The A**hole&quot; here, but her parents most definitely are. Unless they are going to Mars, I&#39;m pretty sure they could easily fly home for a weekend to watch their youngest child get married.</p><p>Reddit agrees, these parents are major a-holes. With a family like this, a bride is better off walking herself down the aisle.</p><p>From <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/evelbug/">evelbug</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA- It would be one thing to ask you to plan around a previously booked 2 week trip, but they are going away for two years. It&#39;s crazy to ask you to put your life on hold for a two year holiday. If it is that important to them, they can come home for one weekend out of those two years.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>You do you and make your plans that best fit you. I&#39;m sorry that no one in your family really cares about you. Be a strong independent woman and walk yourself down the aisle. You don&#39;t need anyone to give you away, the already left you by the curb.</p> </blockquote><p>From <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/freeadmins/">freeadmins</a></p><blockquote> <p>Yeah, the parents are 100% major assholes in this situation. Obviously they&#39;re not going to interrupt a 2-week or even 2-month long vacation to fly back for like a weekend/week.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>But TWO YEARS? They clearly have the fucking money to live on vacation for 2 years, if they can&#39;t budget enough to go back for a single weekend for their daughters wedding... that&#39;s just absolute 100% non-justifiable shitty behavior.</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SkrogedScourge/">SkrogedScourge</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>This is exactly what I was going to suggest walk yourself down that aisle head held high into your new life. This won&rsquo;t make you look bad but it will sure leave an impression on others tho.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Your family can&rsquo;t have it both ways they can&rsquo;t demand you accommodate everyone else while nobody else has your back. So no your under no obligation to hold a separate event just for people who can&rsquo;t be bothered to be there for you.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Enjoy your wedding, live your life for you and your future, make your own happiness. If and when you want to include family into your new life do so but never be bullied into it. NTA</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Etoiaster/">Etoiaster</a></p><blockquote> <p>I have a strained relationship with my family and let me tell you - they wouldn&rsquo;t miss my wedding for anything. Your parents should make an effort to be there for you. Stand up for yourself. And go have the best wedding you can.NTA</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/YMMV-But/">YMMV-But</a></p><blockquote> <p>ESH. Your parents &amp; your in country siblings who refused to walk down the aisle obviously suck. If I were your parents, as long as there are flights between the 2 countries, I would come back for at least wedding week.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>But you suck, too, for sitting on your feelings &amp; expecting people to read your mind about what&rsquo;s important to you. Look at what you said. &ldquo;Really offended me but I kept my mouth shut&rdquo;. &ldquo;Really broke my heart but they didn&rsquo;t hear it from me&rdquo;. It &ldquo;shattered&rdquo; you that your dad won&rsquo;t walk you down the aisle but you made a joke of it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Quit expecting people to read your mind. They aren&rsquo;t getting it. They may think you don&rsquo;t care if mom &amp; dad come to your wedding or not. Tell them what you want. They may still disappoint you, but at least you&rsquo;ll all know what happened &amp; who did it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mm172/">mm172</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA, but I don&rsquo;t think you&rsquo;re doing yourself any favors not being honest that you&rsquo;re hurt about all this. Tell them it sucks that no one wants to walk you down the aisle. Tell them you&rsquo;re tired of being the one who always has to be accommodating.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Tell them you don&rsquo;t expect it to change anything, but they don&rsquo;t get to keep pretending they have no idea it&rsquo;s not okay with you - and if they keep ignoring you and your feelings anyway, you&rsquo;re going to take that into account the next time they <em>do</em> happen to want something from you.</p> </blockquote><p>From​​​​​​​ <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/tatasz/">tatasz</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. They aren&#39;t even trying. There is this thing called plane, it carries people across countries for whenever they want to go to their child&#39;s wedding and spend a week there, and then go back.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride asks if it's wrong to be mad at parents for going on vacation instead of wedding.

Weddings are a time for your closest family and friends to come together and celebrate. It can be heartbreaking for a bride or groom to not have their parents not be able to attend their wedding, whatever the reason.That&#39;s the painful situation Reddit user u/Designer-Pay8281 finds herself in. Her parents are alive and able to attend her upcoming wedding, but they have chosen to take a 2-year long vacation instead. Her siblings have offered to have a pre-wedding reception before her parents leave for their trip, but she&#39;s declined out of hurt and frustration.Now, this bride is asking the internet, &quot;AITA (Am I the A**hole) for refusing to have a pre-wedding reception for my parents who decided they will not attend our wedding?&quot;She writes: Me &amp; my boyfriend will get married this year and my parents will not attend it. For context, I&rsquo;m the youngest child &amp; I have 6 more siblings.  So here&rsquo;s the story&mdash; my oldest sister is abroad for more than half her life (I don&rsquo;t even remember most of our time together because I was really small when she left), about 2 years ago, she decided she&rsquo;ll invite our parents there for a 2-year vacation.  To be fair to her &amp; my parents, this was planned even before my bf proposed to me. We were actively making a way for my parents to be there at our wedding, but I keep noticing these not-so-subtle remarks from my mom about how excited she is already to go to my sister&#39;s which evidently will result in them missing our wedding.  She&rsquo;s even throwing out relatives&rsquo; names of who alternatively can walk me down the aisle which really offended me at the time but I kept my mouth shut. I tried to ignore those and still hoping they&rsquo;ll make it to our day.  This week their VISA was approved &amp; mind you, they (my oldest sister and parents) can ultimately choose to fly next year, but they decided to push through with it before our wedding which really broke my heart, but they didn&rsquo;t hear a word from me.  I was still supportive. Even though it shattered me knowing my dad won&rsquo;t even walk me down the aisle. I joked to him once about it and he said he really wanted to but my mom &amp; oldest sister are the ones deciding and he&rsquo;s just going along with it.  I guess my oldest sister doesn&rsquo;t really think it is THAT important to me to have my own parents at my wedding. After all, she barely knows me, if I&rsquo;m being honest.  Now here&rsquo;s where I might be the AH. My 2nd &amp; 3rd oldest sisters are insisting we do an intimate reception to accommodate my parents because they will, obviously, miss our wedding, but I repeatedly refused to do it. I told them we no longer have funds to do that because we are saving what we have for our big day.  They said don&rsquo;t worry about it they&rsquo;ll handle it, but I still refused and told them I don&rsquo;t think it is necessary. In my mind why would I do that if they can&rsquo;t even make a way to attend our wedding even though they clearly have a choice?  To make it even more heartbreaking for me, while we were discussing who will walk me down the aisle, my oldest brother &amp; sister didn&rsquo;t want to do it either because they said it&rsquo;ll make them look &ldquo;old.&quot;  I cried about that for days. I think I might be the AH because why would I not want a small gathering to accommodate my parents? But I&rsquo;m also thinking, why am I the only one who always needs to adjust? Isn&rsquo;t this supposed to be special to me &amp; my partner? Why is it about them now?  I guess I&rsquo;m just really resentful right now to all of them because they don&rsquo;t care about my feelings enough to see I&rsquo;m hurting. I have NEVER asked them for anything. I just want them to at least show they care. So AITA? My heart breaks for this poor bride who can&#39;t even find a family member to walk her down the aisle. She is not &quot;The A**hole&quot; here, but her parents most definitely are. Unless they are going to Mars, I&#39;m pretty sure they could easily fly home for a weekend to watch their youngest child get married.Reddit agrees, these parents are major a-holes. With a family like this, a bride is better off walking herself down the aisle.From evelbug NTA- It would be one thing to ask you to plan around a previously booked 2 week trip, but they are going away for two years. It&#39;s crazy to ask you to put your life on hold for a two year holiday. If it is that important to them, they can come home for one weekend out of those two years.  You do you and make your plans that best fit you. I&#39;m sorry that no one in your family really cares about you. Be a strong independent woman and walk yourself down the aisle. You don&#39;t need anyone to give you away, the already left you by the curb. From freeadmins Yeah, the parents are 100% major assholes in this situation. Obviously they&#39;re not going to interrupt a 2-week or even 2-month long vacation to fly back for like a weekend/week.  But TWO YEARS? They clearly have the fucking money to live on vacation for 2 years, if they can&#39;t budget enough to go back for a single weekend for their daughters wedding... that&#39;s just absolute 100% non-justifiable shitty behavior. From​​​​​​​ SkrogedScourge This is exactly what I was going to suggest walk yourself down that aisle head held high into your new life. This won&rsquo;t make you look bad but it will sure leave an impression on others tho.  Your family can&rsquo;t have it both ways they can&rsquo;t demand you accommodate everyone else while nobody else has your back. So no your under no obligation to hold a separate event just for people who can&rsquo;t be bothered to be there for you.  Enjoy your wedding, live your life for you and your future, make your own happiness. If and when you want to include family into your new life do so but never be bullied into it. NTA From​​​​​​​ Etoiaster I have a strained relationship with my family and let me tell you - they wouldn&rsquo;t miss my wedding for anything. Your parents should make an effort to be there for you. Stand up for yourself. And go have the best wedding you can.NTA From​​​​​​​ YMMV-But ESH. Your parents &amp; your in country siblings who refused to walk down the aisle obviously suck. If I were your parents, as long as there are flights between the 2 countries, I would come back for at least wedding week.  But you suck, too, for sitting on your feelings &amp; expecting people to read your mind about what&rsquo;s important to you. Look at what you said. &ldquo;Really offended me but I kept my mouth shut&rdquo;. &ldquo;Really broke my heart but they didn&rsquo;t hear it from me&rdquo;. It &ldquo;shattered&rdquo; you that your dad won&rsquo;t walk you down the aisle but you made a joke of it.  Quit expecting people to read your mind. They aren&rsquo;t getting it. They may think you don&rsquo;t care if mom &amp; dad come to your wedding or not. Tell them what you want. They may still disappoint you, but at least you&rsquo;ll all know what happened &amp; who did it. From​​​​​​​ mm172 NTA, but I don&rsquo;t think you&rsquo;re doing yourself any favors not being honest that you&rsquo;re hurt about all this. Tell them it sucks that no one wants to walk you down the aisle. Tell them you&rsquo;re tired of being the one who always has to be accommodating.  Tell them you don&rsquo;t expect it to change anything, but they don&rsquo;t get to keep pretending they have no idea it&rsquo;s not okay with you - and if they keep ignoring you and your feelings anyway, you&rsquo;re going to take that into account the next time they do happen to want something from you. From​​​​​​​ tatasz NTA. They aren&#39;t even trying. There is this thing called plane, it carries people across countries for whenever they want to go to their child&#39;s wedding and spend a week there, and then go back. 

Weddings are a time for your closest family and friends to come together and celebrate. It can be heartbreaking for a bride or groom to not have their parents not be able to attend their wedding, whatever the reason.  That&#39;s the...