Here's a short scenario that got Reddit up in arms and ready for battle. You decide who's right and who's wrong here...
My daughter (25) doesn't like meatloaf. She came from college and stayed with us for a week and asked me not to make meatloaf in that week.
Problem is that I have 2 younger kids (9 and 13) who are both picky and one of the few things that they eat is meatloaf, so even though I tried not to make it, eventually I made it twice.
My daughter got angry. I told her she is old enough and if she doesn't like the food, she can cook instead. She yelled at me and said she is tired and just wanted to rest for a week.
I think she is being unreasonable but she called me an a-hole so am I the a-hole?
And the AH rulings were all over the board. Here are the various responses:
ESH (Everyone sucks here). Your daughter shouldn't be demanding you not make something. Or, she could have asked if she could share in the sides, and make her own protein. But - you made meatloaf TWICE? In the one week she's there? That seems.... like waving red in front of a bull.
I realize you're not a short-order cook, but I'd have taken some of the burger meat and made a smaller meatloaf and made her a burger, or asked if she could make the burger. Maybe she feels by making meatloaf when it's the one thing she specifically cannot stand, you're catering to them and ignoring her...?
So, not only did she make NO effort for her daughter, she intentionally made it the highest she ever does in one week. And if you read her comments she keeps blaming the daughter “she could see I was making it…” “She didn’t even try and cook…”
Oh. And my favourite: bitching about how she “always complains she’s tired” - because, guess what… she’s currently working through med school. Obviously she’s just falling being tired for attention because med school is an easy ride - right OP?
NTA (Not the a-hole). If she doesn't like what's made, she can cook for herself. I don't care if you made meatloaf everyday. She is 25, she can fend for herself.
But Cara_Caeth says:
YTA (You're the a-hole). Yes, you’re not obligated to cook for her. Yes, she can cook for herself. Everyone in my family except my youngest loves mushrooms; we don’t eliminate mushrooms when he comes home. But come on, twice in one week?
If your younger kids are so picky you have to make meatloaf twice in one week bc they simply won’t eat anything else, that’s your fault. Either you make concessions for all your kids, or none of them.
Wtf? I'm sorry but your daughter is 25, not 15. She can 100% cook for herself, especially seeing as she's there for a week. I really don't get these YTA votes.
ESH (Everyone sucks here). Both of you sound immature and inconsiderate - her for the demands and overreaction, you for making it twice in the week and acting dodgy about doing so (excessive and definitely not an accident). Did you tell her you wouldn’t make the meatloaf when she made the request?
When I was a kid I hated meatloaf and my brother hated spaghetti and meatballs. We each loved the food the other hated. When my mom would cook either, she’d use some of the ground beef she’d use anyway to make a hamburger patty for the one who didn’t like the food that night. Just an idea for future visits that shouldn’t be too inconvenient.
NTA Your daughter is an entitled brat. So what if it’s meat loaf twice DON’T EAT IT if you don’t want it. That’s 2 picky eaters. Why should the mom stress out and change the menu when it works for her. Just because she came from college the world doesn’t revolve around her and she has no right to disrupt the routine.
She’s using that if you love me THEN YOU’LL DO (or don’t do)ULTIMATUM BULL 💩 on the mom. Peanut butter and jelly is always an option.
I'm going with YTA. She's in med school and has a week off and you can't be bothered to accommodate her at all? You better hope your youngest makes money because she'll be picking your retirement home.
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