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There is a time and a place for lies, and at your family home during the holidays is one of those times and places. Just because we&#39;re sharing a dinner table with our family members doesn&#39;t mean they need to know how we really feel about them. Because in the words of Lizzo, &quot;truth hurts.&quot; And holidays are painful enough without adding honesty into the mix.<h2>People on Reddit are <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ee87wm/what_is_something_you_dont_have_the_heart_to_tell/" target="_blank">answering</a> the question: &quot;What is something you don&rsquo;t have the heart to tell to your family?&quot; Here are 25 people who made a decision to omit the truth for the good of their families. Now that&#39;s love.</h2>1.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Shade0X/">Shade0X</a>:<blockquote> that I&#39;m getting annoyed by all the negativity they keep spreading it feels like they don&#39;t even want to be happy </blockquote>2.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ilovetotransfuse/">ilovetotransfuse</a>:<blockquote> I lost all respect for my Dad, I&#39;m starting to get sick of the family gatherings around Christmas time and I&#39;m seriously thinking about just taking vacation around the holidays to Florida. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>3.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/_-Boredatwork-_/">_-Boredatwork-_</a>:<blockquote> My wife hates them. </blockquote>4.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/EmperorOfNipples/" style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">EmperorOfNipples</a>:<blockquote> I still drink too much. I have just got much better at managing when I drink and when to stop so I can turn up fresh to family events and work. Maybe I am getting better. </blockquote>5.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LearningLifeAsIGo/">LearningLifeAsIGo</a>:<blockquote> How many of them I have blocked on social media. </blockquote>6.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/AndrewLBailey/">AndrewLBailey</a>:<blockquote> My parents house is about 4-5 degrees too warm. Makes it just a tad uncomfortable. </blockquote>Samesies.<div className="ad-splitter"></div>7.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/flooferkitty/">flooferkitty</a>:<blockquote> How much I truly loathe Christmas since my fianc&eacute;e died and how I&rsquo;d really rather not celebrate. It would really hurt them. </blockquote>8.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/OliviRamon/">OliviRamon</a>:<blockquote> The reason I stay in my room so much is to escape them. Whenever I am not in my room or out of the house, they insult me. </blockquote>10.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mizznomer/" style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">Mizznomer</a>:<blockquote> The amount of my student loan debt. My mother would faint. </blockquote>11.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/apizzascience/">apizzascience</a>:<blockquote> I had been going to a therapist and psychiatrist because of my family&#39;s constant discouragement to my career aspirations. I had other reasons to see a therapist, but this made me reach out for help. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>12.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Leelluu/" style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">Leelluu</a>:<blockquote> That the way they raised me was abuse and it seriously damaged me as a person. My parents think they were great parents, especially my mom, who was the more abusive one. And it&#39;s not even that I don&#39;t have the heart to tell them because I don&#39;t want to burst their bubble. I don&#39;t have the heart to tell them because I don&#39;t have the heart to sit through an hours-long lecture/beratement on why I&#39;m wrong and how what they did doesn&#39;t count as abuse and I have no right to be upset. I just keep not answering or returning their phone calls and texts, but they keep obliviously trying to reach out to me thinking that I&#39;m the asshole here and they have a right to speak to and see their daughter regardless of my feelings. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>13.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TTR1981/">TTR1981</a>:<blockquote> That the reason I hardly visit any more is because there is no effort. I take 2 flights across 3 states, rent a car, spend a decent amount of coin, and get to my folks house to find that they haven&#39;t even made the bed in the spare room. Or cleaned it up. Or taken some time off work. Or want to go anywhere or do anything. I love them dearly. They love me. But that always stings a bit. I don&#39;t want the world to stop, or revolve around me, but a bit would be nice. </blockquote>14.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Corporate-Asset-6375/" style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">Corporate-Asset-6375</a>:<blockquote> Well mine is, uh, less impactful than what&rsquo;s already on here but...they&rsquo;re all terrible cooks. Like don&rsquo;t even understand fundamental cooking techniques. I&rsquo;m no chef but their food is borderline inedible and it&rsquo;s a miracle they haven&rsquo;t given each other food poisoning multiple times. Problem is they LOVE cooking and are proud of their repulsive standard dishes. I could never tell them the truth and I don&rsquo;t want to ruin our family memories. So I roll with it, have a small helping of everything, and just hit a drive thu on the way home whenever I eat with them. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>15.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/strvvy/">strvvy</a>:<blockquote> that i know you cheated on my mom. </blockquote>16.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PM-ME-UR-KNICKERS/">PM-ME-UR-KNICKERS</a>:<blockquote> You&rsquo;re getting really old and I&rsquo;m not ready to lose either of you. My dad is gonna be 76 in a few months and I&rsquo;m dreading him not being there for me. And to my younger brother. Get a fucking divorce bro </blockquote>17.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sesamedrive/">sesamedrive</a>:<blockquote> I really really need to go back to therapy. </blockquote>18.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ferorius/">Ferorius</a>:<blockquote> That I was actually traveling all over Europe and not studying in a university. After which I faked my University papers so that my parents would not worry. Though while traveling I met a good friend of mine, who is now my business partner. We started a small IT-business, I was able to earn a good amount and finally get my degree a few years back. So basically, no harm done. But I will never tell them that... Ever. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>19.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TourmalineDreams/">TourmalineDreams</a>:<blockquote> That I&#39;m so exhausted 24/7 that I just want to sleep and fade away. I&#39;m still battling depression every day, but I&#39;m &quot;functional&quot; because I&#39;m still able to get up and work and I&#39;m not suicidal. I&#39;m just constantly overwhelmed and so fucking tired. </blockquote>20.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TinyDino425/" style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">TinyDino425</a>:<blockquote> That the reason none of my friends came over when I was a kid is because I never invited them. I was embarrassed of my insane mom and messy house </blockquote>21.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ChewbaccasStylist/" style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">ChewbaccasStylist</a>:<blockquote> Hi fellow grown siblings, Now that our parents are both dead, it&#39;s become very apparent that we really have nothing in common. No real rapport. I don&#39;t feel like I really know you as people as you won&#39;t share anything real about your lives with me. And every time I tell you personal things about my life, you give me one word &quot;hmm&quot; or &quot;yeah&quot; answers that make me feel like you don&#39;t give a shit what I just told you. And then the subject changes to some meaningless bullshit topic. That&#39;s the one who actually answers the phone, the other one won&#39;t even do that or ever return a phone call. And if not for being related, I can&#39;t imagine why we would spend time together. And I also felt this uneasy detachment my whole life, but always blamed myself, and now that I am older I realize it&#39;s not just me, or maybe not me at all. And not only that but I kind of realize what a bunch of self centered jerks you all have been. And I feel like I went above and beyond to make things fair, work together, help and be supportive, while you guys just looked out for yourselves. And that hurts. It all hurts. And it hurts to realize now that I am an adult, I never knew better. I always just thought it was something I did. And I see how that set me up in life to be a people pleaser and a door mat, always trying to be a little more supportive, give a little more. While you all just looked out for yourselves. Thanks assholes, Your sibling </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>22.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lambofgun/">lambofgun</a>:<blockquote> i wish everyone just bought one sentimental and well thought out gift for eachother and save our time and money for things that matter like helping eachother with dr bills from extreme health problems, or other enormous bankrupting disasters, or large donations for the poor, or sending money to places that were crushed by hurricanes, or donation to our local community, or even saving money for ourselves when thats not needed and improving our families&rsquo; lives. instead we spend thousands on bullshit and stress our selves out, turning what should be an honest and exciting time for friends and family into some materialistic contest where everyone is anxious that they didnt buy enough or spend enough </blockquote>23.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/quivx/">quivx</a>:<blockquote> That I&rsquo;m questioning whether or not I still believe in God. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>24.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NoAwkwardHere/">NoAwkwardHere</a>:<blockquote> That my husband and I are divorced. I moved out a year ago. He and I can&rsquo;t bring ourselves to tell our families because we don&rsquo;t want to hurt them and we don&rsquo;t want to talk about it. After 16 years, we don&rsquo;t want to upset the families. Mine and his family spend all of the holidays together at either his or my parents&rsquo; house. We still do the holidays together because we don&rsquo;t want to talk to them about it. Our parents are up there in ages...so that&rsquo;s that. </blockquote>25.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dick-nipples/" style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">dick-nipples</a>:<blockquote> That my Reddit username is Dick Nipples </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

25 people share the secrets they're keeping from their families to protect their feelings.

There is a time and a place for lies, and at your family home during the holidays is one of those times and places. Just because we&#39;re sharing a dinner table with our family members doesn&#39;t mean they need to know how we really feel about them. Because in the words of Lizzo, &quot;truth hurts.&quot; And holidays are painful enough without adding honesty into the mix.People on Reddit are answering the question: &quot;What is something you don&rsquo;t have the heart to tell to your family?&quot; Here are 25 people who made a decision to omit the truth for the good of their families. Now that&#39;s love.1.) From Shade0X: that I&#39;m getting annoyed by all the negativity they keep spreading it feels like they don&#39;t even want to be happy 2.) From ilovetotransfuse: I lost all respect for my Dad, I&#39;m starting to get sick of the family gatherings around Christmas time and I&#39;m seriously thinking about just taking vacation around the holidays to Florida. 3.) From _-Boredatwork-_: My wife hates them. 4.) From EmperorOfNipples: I still drink too much. I have just got much better at managing when I drink and when to stop so I can turn up fresh to family events and work. Maybe I am getting better. 5.) From LearningLifeAsIGo: How many of them I have blocked on social media. 6.) From AndrewLBailey: My parents house is about 4-5 degrees too warm. Makes it just a tad uncomfortable. Samesies.7.) From flooferkitty: How much I truly loathe Christmas since my fianc&eacute;e died and how I&rsquo;d really rather not celebrate. It would really hurt them. 8.) From OliviRamon: The reason I stay in my room so much is to escape them. Whenever I am not in my room or out of the house, they insult me. 10.) From Mizznomer: The amount of my student loan debt. My mother would faint. 11.) From apizzascience: I had been going to a therapist and psychiatrist because of my family&#39;s constant discouragement to my career aspirations. I had other reasons to see a therapist, but this made me reach out for help. 12.) From Leelluu: That the way they raised me was abuse and it seriously damaged me as a person. My parents think they were great parents, especially my mom, who was the more abusive one. And it&#39;s not even that I don&#39;t have the heart to tell them because I don&#39;t want to burst their bubble. I don&#39;t have the heart to tell them because I don&#39;t have the heart to sit through an hours-long lecture/beratement on why I&#39;m wrong and how what they did doesn&#39;t count as abuse and I have no right to be upset. I just keep not answering or returning their phone calls and texts, but they keep obliviously trying to reach out to me thinking that I&#39;m the asshole here and they have a right to speak to and see their daughter regardless of my feelings. 13.) From TTR1981: That the reason I hardly visit any more is because there is no effort. I take 2 flights across 3 states, rent a car, spend a decent amount of coin, and get to my folks house to find that they haven&#39;t even made the bed in the spare room. Or cleaned it up. Or taken some time off work. Or want to go anywhere or do anything. I love them dearly. They love me. But that always stings a bit. I don&#39;t want the world to stop, or revolve around me, but a bit would be nice. 14.) From Corporate-Asset-6375: Well mine is, uh, less impactful than what&rsquo;s already on here but...they&rsquo;re all terrible cooks. Like don&rsquo;t even understand fundamental cooking techniques. I&rsquo;m no chef but their food is borderline inedible and it&rsquo;s a miracle they haven&rsquo;t given each other food poisoning multiple times. Problem is they LOVE cooking and are proud of their repulsive standard dishes. I could never tell them the truth and I don&rsquo;t want to ruin our family memories. So I roll with it, have a small helping of everything, and just hit a drive thu on the way home whenever I eat with them. 15.) From strvvy: that i know you cheated on my mom. 16.) From PM-ME-UR-KNICKERS: You&rsquo;re getting really old and I&rsquo;m not ready to lose either of you. My dad is gonna be 76 in a few months and I&rsquo;m dreading him not being there for me. And to my younger brother. Get a fucking divorce bro 17.) From sesamedrive: I really really need to go back to therapy. 18.) From Ferorius: That I was actually traveling all over Europe and not studying in a university. After which I faked my University papers so that my parents would not worry. Though while traveling I met a good friend of mine, who is now my business partner. We started a small IT-business, I was able to earn a good amount and finally get my degree a few years back. So basically, no harm done. But I will never tell them that... Ever. 19.) From TourmalineDreams: That I&#39;m so exhausted 24/7 that I just want to sleep and fade away. I&#39;m still battling depression every day, but I&#39;m &quot;functional&quot; because I&#39;m still able to get up and work and I&#39;m not suicidal. I&#39;m just constantly overwhelmed and so fucking tired. 20.) From TinyDino425: That the reason none of my friends came over when I was a kid is because I never invited them. I was embarrassed of my insane mom and messy house 21.) From ChewbaccasStylist: Hi fellow grown siblings, Now that our parents are both dead, it&#39;s become very apparent that we really have nothing in common. No real rapport. I don&#39;t feel like I really know you as people as you won&#39;t share anything real about your lives with me. And every time I tell you personal things about my life, you give me one word &quot;hmm&quot; or &quot;yeah&quot; answers that make me feel like you don&#39;t give a shit what I just told you. And then the subject changes to some meaningless bullshit topic. That&#39;s the one who actually answers the phone, the other one won&#39;t even do that or ever return a phone call. And if not for being related, I can&#39;t imagine why we would spend time together. And I also felt this uneasy detachment my whole life, but always blamed myself, and now that I am older I realize it&#39;s not just me, or maybe not me at all. And not only that but I kind of realize what a bunch of self centered jerks you all have been. And I feel like I went above and beyond to make things fair, work together, help and be supportive, while you guys just looked out for yourselves. And that hurts. It all hurts. And it hurts to realize now that I am an adult, I never knew better. I always just thought it was something I did. And I see how that set me up in life to be a people pleaser and a door mat, always trying to be a little more supportive, give a little more. While you all just looked out for yourselves. Thanks assholes, Your sibling 22.) From lambofgun: i wish everyone just bought one sentimental and well thought out gift for eachother and save our time and money for things that matter like helping eachother with dr bills from extreme health problems, or other enormous bankrupting disasters, or large donations for the poor, or sending money to places that were crushed by hurricanes, or donation to our local community, or even saving money for ourselves when thats not needed and improving our families&rsquo; lives. instead we spend thousands on bullshit and stress our selves out, turning what should be an honest and exciting time for friends and family into some materialistic contest where everyone is anxious that they didnt buy enough or spend enough 23.) From quivx: That I&rsquo;m questioning whether or not I still believe in God. 24.) From NoAwkwardHere: That my husband and I are divorced. I moved out a year ago. He and I can&rsquo;t bring ourselves to tell our families because we don&rsquo;t want to hurt them and we don&rsquo;t want to talk about it. After 16 years, we don&rsquo;t want to upset the families. Mine and his family spend all of the holidays together at either his or my parents&rsquo; house. We still do the holidays together because we don&rsquo;t want to talk to them about it. Our parents are up there in ages...so that&rsquo;s that. 25.) From dick-nipples: That my Reddit username is Dick Nipples 

There is a time and a place for lies, and at your family home during the holidays is one of those times and places. Just because we&#39;re sharing a dinner table with our family members doesn&#39;t mean they need to know how we really feel...