Posted by throwaway22314157:
My f32, sister f28, and her husband m32 moved in with us 2 days ago after they lost their apartment to medical debts for their child (my nephew). My husband and I are more than happy to have them stay for few weeks til they get this resolved.
However, Yesterday at 7pm, I was in the kitchen when my husband rushed in and said that he saw both my sister and her husband walk out of the bathroom. They'd most likely taken a shower together. My husband said that it irked him and I agreed that what they did was somewhat inappropriate.
He asked me to speak to my sister on the matter and I did. She got defensive asking how this is affecting me or my husband in any way. I told her that it made my husband feel uncomfortable and would rather that they just take their showers separately.
She started ranting about being overwhelmed by their son's health problems and not having some alone time together as a married couple and found this activity as a bonding time to spend together. I apologized for how she felt, but requested that she just do as asked.
She got mad at me and said that I was being inconsiderate and she didn't understand my husband's hangup on what she and her husband do. We started arguing and she stormed off to the guests room where my nephew and BIL are.
She's not speaking to me but my husband said I did the right thing by speaking to her and setting this boundary.
AITA? Did I (and my husband) overreacted to this?
1. My husband did not mention hearing anything, just that he saw them go out of the bathroom. And yes they were clothed.
2. It's the only bathroom in the house.
3. They spent approximately 10+ minutes in the shower according to my husband.
EDIT* I'm gonna bring my husband to look at the responses and help answer some questions down here, okay? Just give me a few minutes.
EDIT* I'm sorry I can't respond to every single comment, but my husband says he's uncomfortable and doesn't want to expand on the situation.
You husband came 'rushing in' to tell you that your sister and her HUSBAND took a shower together? This is so dumb YTA. Get a life bruh. Leave them alone they're stressed enough as it is.
Can we get some compassion for these people? Can you leave your personal hangups behind and give them some support? Can you find happiness that they are making time and effort to spend together? What's really more important here?
I got second hand embarrassment from this post. He declined to answer questions because he knows his behavior is that of a 2nd grader boy in a playground full of girls. I can imagine how dead OP’s bedroom is…
If my partner did that, I would say 'good, they're saving water by sharing a shower.'
Wait til he finds out how they made his nephew in the first place!