Unappreciated wife wants to record everything she does so her husband can see.

No one likes to feel like they're pulling most of the weight around the house, no matter your living situation. But when two people feel that way about each other, how do you handle it?

When a very young wife and mother came to Reddit's popular 'Am I the A-hole' forum for advice, she got what she wished for. Here's the story:

'WIBTA (Would I be the A-hole) if I recorded everything I did during my day for a week and showed my husband?'

u/wifeyptsdthrow writes:

So today, I (22F) had an amazing start to my day. My husband (30M) and I dropped our eldest child (2M) at his day care and went shopping for a couple things we needed.

When we got home I started to make our food and had gotten part way through when my husband groaned and mentioned we had no rice cooked. I told him to just go to the store (which would take less than five minutes there and back) and buy microwave rice for now and I’ll cook the rice once we finish eating.

He instantly got moody and after I had finished cooking and was setting the table he said he wasn’t eating and started slamming around, tidying, washing up and, eventually, making rice.

We didn’t end up eating until 2.5 hours later and the food had to be remade.

After eating in a very tense silence my husband asked why nothing in the house is ever done. He said that I don’t do much in my day and the least I can do is keep the house organised and clean.

I tidy every. single day. All whilst wearing our ‘newborn’ (3 months M) in the carrier on my chest. I’m exhausted and burnt out constantly from night feeding and staying on top of the house.

So, I want to record a timelapse of every single thing I do throughout the day up until our son comes home from daycare for a week and play it on our TV and ask my husband if he still thinks I do nothing. WIBTA (Would I be the a-hole) if I did this?

What did Reddit have to say?

The comments were an outpouring of support for this young woman, and the suggestions were abundant.

nikkesen says:

NTA (Not the a-hole). I get it, the temptation to say , 'here! Look! See, you're wrong!' is great but I wonder if instead of recording, you took inaction. For one day, don't carry out your usual tasks - except for childcare. Make it a mommy and baby day.

Leave the house and let him truly appreciate the little things when he witnesses what happens when you actually drop the rope. After all, actions speak louder than words.

salmonberrycreek answers:

You WNBTA (would not be the a-hole), but is this going to do anything to solve your problem? Extremely unlikely.

gcot802 writes:

NTA but you have a bigger issue here. Besides the massive age gap and the fact that your husband at 28 had a baby with a 20 y/o he seems frankly abusive. He’s belittling your work and slamming things around. Over what? Not having pre-cooked rice? I don’t think this is a solvable problem, and if you don’t want to leave him at minimum please get some counseling

1st-African-princess rants:

We are talking about a 27 year old who impregnated a teenager. It's like a trend on this sub. An older a-hole husband with a younger wife who they mistreat and the wife wondering whether she's the AH.

Loud-Foundation4567 adds:

I am so angry for you. He’s being an uncaring ass and was unable to regulate himself enough to not throw a tantrum over rice. Caring for a newborn is a full time, 24 hour a day job. Housekeeping and cooking aside. You shouldn’t have to track what you do for him to understand that.

kittycat33070 says:

YWNBTA. But from my experience even if you had solid proof it wouldn't matter he would either overlook it or find something else or my favorite get mad at you for recording everything. Basically you or someone else will always be blamed not him.

So, there you have it!

OP is definitely not the AH, but it does sound like she lives with one. Good luck out there!