So, my MIL (I'm a gal btw lol) came to stay with us for few weeks til her home is renovated. The problem is that she has been randomly walking in on me while I'm in the bathroom. Thankfully not once has she seen me naked because I started picking up on her behavior after the second time in a week.
She'd barge in, then turns and says 'oh sorry' then close the door. I tried talking to my husband about it but he kept ignoring me then flatout said 'so what if she accidently seen you naked? She's faaaammmillly!!'. He seriously said that!.
We have a lock and I could've used it but I have past trauma from the idea of locking/being locked in a room after my brother locked me in the bathroom when I was 5.
So I came up with this idea. I'd go inside the bathroom pretending to use it and wait for her to come (cause honestly? It's deliberate at the this point). When she 'accidently' barges in she'd see me in a weird/awkward position. For example doing a ballet stand, standing on the toilet, or standing facing the wall with my hands up, (fully clothed of course).
I could see how awkward and weird this would be for her because she'd stand there for few seconds trying to figure out what I was doing. It was hilarious at first seeing her initial confusion, but she told my husband about it claiming 'she's caught me practicing rituals in the bathroom'.
I cleared things up and revealed the reason why. My husband was livid. He called me childish and said that I made his mom feel 'terrified/weirded out' by my behavior. He said I should've acted maturely and locked the damn door instead of playing mind games.
Lol. Um what? I just came back on here and saw literally 1000s? of people? OMG now I feel embarrassed Glad I went anonymous Lol. But seriously...I'm looking at my screen and am like ....I'm famous? Seriously though...My husband and his mom are extremely upset with me.
He still thinks it was ridiculous and is demanding an apology before she goes back to her home. I'm not sure if I will apologize because yes while it was a 'me problem' that I couldn't use the lock. It's still feels wrong what she did and maybe I'm wrong too but at least I got (so did you apparently lol) a bit of a chuckle out of it 😅🤣
Also, I'm sure Thanksgiving dinner will hella awkward. Especially after what happened. Lol.
NTA. You went the funny way and that's dope. Your husband, however, is an a**#ole. He expects YOU to be mature about it, but he doesn't expect his mother to KNOCK ON THE F**$#NG DOOR before walking in?
Sneak in there in your best business attire and some glasses and with a pen and note pad. Be sitting on the toilet like a chair, and when she comes in say, “for our session today, we need to talk about your sexual fetish of sneaking in while women are using the toilet.”
I think MIL knows how to knock. This is a weird power play.
I say get a water spray bottle, and treat her like a naughty cat.