So, when a conflicted man decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about the dog his ex-girlfriend 'abandoned,' people were quick to help deem a verdict.
I (m23) have an ex girlfriend Lexi (f23). Lexi and I had known each other since we were 14. We dated for nearly a year before I broke up with Lexi.
We lived together in my one bedroom apartment, so Lexi was going to have to find somewhere else to stay. She has a little dog that was also staying in the apartment, a Welsh Corgi named Elvis. Lexi already had Elvis before she started dating.
Lexi went to go stay with her parents temporarily whilst she looked for somewhere more permanent to live as she understandably felt uncomfortable staying in the apartment. She asked if I could look after Elvis until she found somewhere to live and I said I would, this was in June.
The next week I asked Lexi how her search was going but she left me on read. I thought maybe it wasn't going well and she didn't want to talk about it. The week after, I tried to call Lexi but she didn't pick up, I left a voicemail telling her how her dog is doing.
July rolls around and I've still not heard anything. I messaged Lexi's parents and one of her friends on Facebook and explained that I still have Lexi's dog. No response. August time, I try to call Lexi again but she's blocked my number.
A few times from August to now, I knock on Lexi's parents' house door but no one answers. I slide a note under the door but I still don't hear anything. At this point, I'm feeling very stuck.
Elvis is a lovely dog but I do not want a dog and never asked for the responsibility of one. Even if I did want a dog, Elvis living in a small apartment when I work full-time isn't the best conditions for a dog. Of course I walk him multiple times a day, but I think he'd be better off living with someone else to live his best canine life.
I started looking for a new home for Elvis, and eventually my aunt offers to have him. She's a SAHM with a husband, and they have two kids aged 10 and 13 who love dogs.
She has the time to walk Elvis during the day and they have a large yard which he can play in. They took Elvis home and got him microchipped. I feel like I've done the right thing.
Lexi saw one of my aunt's Facebook posts that had a photo of Elvis and she started blowing up my phone, telling me I'm a horrible person. She said to give her the dog back right now. I told Lexi she ignored me for so long she's basically abandoned Elvis.
Lexi said she was having a depressive episode and couldn't talk to me. I told her Elvis deserved a better home that I couldn't provide and she's too late. Lexi said I'm a heartless jerk.
If this woman always intended to get her dog back, she probably should've been more communicative about his wellbeing and safety. Regardless of her mental health or how the relationship came to an end, this man made a responsible choice of putting the dog's happiness and health first.
NTA. 'Hey Lexi, nice to hear from you finally and to see that you finally unblocked my number! Elvis certainly missed you for awhile but he got over it. Unfortunately, I'm starting a depressive episode of my own now, so you'll be blocked on this end until it runs it's course about 5 months from now. Talk to you then!'
NTA if she was too depressed to respond she could have had her parents or a friend reach out. She abandoned her dog and you found it a loving home.
NTA. She abandoned the dog. You tried several MONTHS to reach out. And not being whatever...but she could have told her parents to contact you (or a friend) and have you drop him off somewhere.
NTA! What is she thinking?? You can’t ghost someone for 3+ months then feign surprise when they give your dog away. Sounds like he’s better off.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man wasn't wrong to find a happy home within the family for his ex's dog, and if Lexi really was concerned with her pet, she would've found a way to respond. Good luck, everyone!