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<p>Everyone knows you&#39;re not supposed to wear white to a wedding, but what about lipstick or mascara? How good are you allowed to look without being rude? Reddit user <a data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/redthrowedding/">u/redthrowedding</a> apparently looked a little too cute at her Grandmother&#39;s most recent wedding and Nana was pissed.</p><p>This too-gorgeous granddaughter is now turning to the internet to ask:</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tahdaz/aita_for_upstaging_my_grandma_at_her_wedding/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for &quot;upstaging&quot; my grandma at her wedding?</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m 28F, maternal grandma is 71F. This past weekend she got married to her boyfriend of a couple of years. This is her 5th wedding, which I mention not to judge but because it&#39;s relevant later on.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The last time she got married, I was a junior in high school and wore a cranberry strapless dress that my grandma purchased for me, very much in line with the cocktail dress code.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I didn&#39;t try to do this, but in hindsight, I wore makeup that was too much for a wedding. I just wore what I would normally do--toned down smokey eye, eyeliner, and a nude lip.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>One of the granddaughters of the husband she was marrying then pulled me aside and told me I did too much, and that I should wipe the makeup off before photos.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was extremely embarrassed; the only other wedding I had ever been to was when I was six, so at the time I had no idea of the etiquette and was mortified that I had broken it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I ended up wiping off the eyeliner, replacing the eyeshadow with a nude eyeshadow, and putting on a clear chapstick.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>For this wedding, my grandma reminded me that I should do a very toned-down look and not upstage her at this wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>These days, I don&#39;t wear nearly as much makeup as I used to, so I went with my daily makeup routine--BB cream and a light concealer, a nude cream blush, some light mascara (that was dark brown instead of black), and a sheer/glossy pinky-nude lipstick.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I paired this with a navy blue dress that I tried my best to match my grandma&#39;s request that the dress code is &quot;in-between casual and cocktail.&quot; <a href="https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/twist-front-slip-mini-dress?color=040&amp;type=STANDARD&amp;quantity=1" rel="noopener nofollow ugc" target="_blank">Photo of the dress for reference</a>.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My grandma didn&#39;t say anything about how I looked during the wedding, nor did anyone else, so I assumed I did a good job of making sure she was still in the spotlight.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>However, today she got some of the photos back from her friend who was taking them. She said that I was the standout in all of the photos and it was a very tacky move to try to get all of the attention on me when it was her wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I apologized and said I tried to be as toned down as possible while still looking presentable, she said the right move would have been to wear no makeup at all and wear a more conservative pantsuit.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>At the time that I got this call, I was with my paternal grandmother. They do not get along in the slightest. PG told MG that it was unreasonable to expect me to dress &quot;frumpy&quot; to please her and that she had three sets of wedding photos for weddings before I was even born that she could look back on to be the &quot;star of the show&quot; if she wanted.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This led to MG telling me she wished to take a break from speaking to me for a while so I could reflect on my &quot;selfish actions.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I feel really bad, I didn&#39;t mean to wreck a special day for her, and in hindsight, maybe I should have approved my dress and makeup with her before the wedding. So I thought I&#39;d get some feedback here to see if I&#39;m the AH/if what I did is selfish.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>This grandma is actually kind of inspiring. She proves you&#39;re never too old to be a bridezilla. I don&#39;t know why she&#39;s so jealous of her granddaughter, she obviously has no problem reeling in men, this is her 5th marriage, after all.</p><p>If I was pulling in dudes like that I wouldn&#39;t be concerned with what anyone else was wearing. I&#39;d be too busy at the pharmacy refilling the viagra prescriptions and upping the life insurance policies. Get it together, Granny!</p><p>This granddaughter did nothing wrong. It&#39;s not like she showed up in a veil bragging about her 20/20 vision and lack of joint pain. She&#39;s clearly &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; here and the people of Reddit agreed big time.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ewearehere/">ewearehere</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA for either of her weddings. You do not owe her an apology. You did nothing wrong. She is ridiculous.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s not dissimilar to people who tear others down to feel better about themselves. That&#39;s essentially what she wants to do to her &#39;friends&#39; ... direct them to be &#39;lesser&#39; so she feels better about herself. Not on.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pineappledaphne/">pineappledaphne</a></p><blockquote> <p>Sounds like M.G. is jealous of how youthful and pretty OP is. NTA</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TomTheLad79/">TomTheLad79</a></p><blockquote> <p>OP is likely at the peak of her physical beauty. Gran is no doubt lovely in her own way (she has to be pulling all those husbands somehow!)</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s being insecure and blaming you for her insecurity in a way that is unreasonable. None of this is your fault. NTA.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BlueClouds42/">BlueClouds42</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. A woman in their 20s wearing no makeup and a burlap sack would upstage a 70-year-old. There is no way to avoid it. She can get over herself.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ladybuttfartmcgee/">Ladybuttfartmcgee</a></p><blockquote> <p>Normal grandmothers are <em>happy</em> when their grandkids look good and they can show them off. Trying to compete across two generations just sounds exhausting</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/js8420/">js8420</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Agreed. Damn this grandmother must be exhausting right? You have nothing to apologize for. Skip the 6th wedding.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Khanover7/">Khanover7</a></p><blockquote> <p>Yup. OP, NTA, she just sounds jealous. She&rsquo;s 71 on her 5th wedding and has a bad attitude toward younger attractive women.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Grandma I&rsquo;m sorry but my Pug would outshine you and your bad attitude. Don&rsquo;t feel bad OP she was never going to be happy.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/OTH17/">OTH17</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You&#39;ll do better for her 6th!!!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for 'upstaging' grandma at her 5th wedding.

Everyone knows you&#39;re not supposed to wear white to a wedding, but what about lipstick or mascara? How good are you allowed to look without being rude? Reddit user u/redthrowedding apparently looked a little too cute at her Grandmother&#39;s most recent wedding and Nana was pissed.This too-gorgeous granddaughter is now turning to the internet to ask:AITA (Am I the As*hole) for &quot;upstaging&quot; my grandma at her wedding?She writes: I&#39;m 28F, maternal grandma is 71F. This past weekend she got married to her boyfriend of a couple of years. This is her 5th wedding, which I mention not to judge but because it&#39;s relevant later on.  The last time she got married, I was a junior in high school and wore a cranberry strapless dress that my grandma purchased for me, very much in line with the cocktail dress code.  I didn&#39;t try to do this, but in hindsight, I wore makeup that was too much for a wedding. I just wore what I would normally do--toned down smokey eye, eyeliner, and a nude lip.  One of the granddaughters of the husband she was marrying then pulled me aside and told me I did too much, and that I should wipe the makeup off before photos.  I was extremely embarrassed; the only other wedding I had ever been to was when I was six, so at the time I had no idea of the etiquette and was mortified that I had broken it.  I ended up wiping off the eyeliner, replacing the eyeshadow with a nude eyeshadow, and putting on a clear chapstick.  For this wedding, my grandma reminded me that I should do a very toned-down look and not upstage her at this wedding.  These days, I don&#39;t wear nearly as much makeup as I used to, so I went with my daily makeup routine--BB cream and a light concealer, a nude cream blush, some light mascara (that was dark brown instead of black), and a sheer/glossy pinky-nude lipstick.  I paired this with a navy blue dress that I tried my best to match my grandma&#39;s request that the dress code is &quot;in-between casual and cocktail.&quot; Photo of the dress for reference.  My grandma didn&#39;t say anything about how I looked during the wedding, nor did anyone else, so I assumed I did a good job of making sure she was still in the spotlight.  However, today she got some of the photos back from her friend who was taking them. She said that I was the standout in all of the photos and it was a very tacky move to try to get all of the attention on me when it was her wedding.  I apologized and said I tried to be as toned down as possible while still looking presentable, she said the right move would have been to wear no makeup at all and wear a more conservative pantsuit.  At the time that I got this call, I was with my paternal grandmother. They do not get along in the slightest. PG told MG that it was unreasonable to expect me to dress &quot;frumpy&quot; to please her and that she had three sets of wedding photos for weddings before I was even born that she could look back on to be the &quot;star of the show&quot; if she wanted.  This led to MG telling me she wished to take a break from speaking to me for a while so I could reflect on my &quot;selfish actions.&quot;  I feel really bad, I didn&#39;t mean to wreck a special day for her, and in hindsight, maybe I should have approved my dress and makeup with her before the wedding. So I thought I&#39;d get some feedback here to see if I&#39;m the AH/if what I did is selfish. This grandma is actually kind of inspiring. She proves you&#39;re never too old to be a bridezilla. I don&#39;t know why she&#39;s so jealous of her granddaughter, she obviously has no problem reeling in men, this is her 5th marriage, after all.If I was pulling in dudes like that I wouldn&#39;t be concerned with what anyone else was wearing. I&#39;d be too busy at the pharmacy refilling the viagra prescriptions and upping the life insurance policies. Get it together, Granny!This granddaughter did nothing wrong. It&#39;s not like she showed up in a veil bragging about her 20/20 vision and lack of joint pain. She&#39;s clearly &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; here and the people of Reddit agreed big time.ewearehere NTA for either of her weddings. You do not owe her an apology. You did nothing wrong. She is ridiculous.  It&#39;s not dissimilar to people who tear others down to feel better about themselves. That&#39;s essentially what she wants to do to her &#39;friends&#39; ... direct them to be &#39;lesser&#39; so she feels better about herself. Not on. pineappledaphne Sounds like M.G. is jealous of how youthful and pretty OP is. NTA TomTheLad79 OP is likely at the peak of her physical beauty. Gran is no doubt lovely in her own way (she has to be pulling all those husbands somehow!)  She&#39;s being insecure and blaming you for her insecurity in a way that is unreasonable. None of this is your fault. NTA. BlueClouds42 NTA. A woman in their 20s wearing no makeup and a burlap sack would upstage a 70-year-old. There is no way to avoid it. She can get over herself. Ladybuttfartmcgee Normal grandmothers are happy when their grandkids look good and they can show them off. Trying to compete across two generations just sounds exhausting js8420 NTA. Agreed. Damn this grandmother must be exhausting right? You have nothing to apologize for. Skip the 6th wedding. Khanover7 Yup. OP, NTA, she just sounds jealous. She&rsquo;s 71 on her 5th wedding and has a bad attitude toward younger attractive women.  Grandma I&rsquo;m sorry but my Pug would outshine you and your bad attitude. Don&rsquo;t feel bad OP she was never going to be happy. OTH17 NTA. You&#39;ll do better for her 6th!!! 

Everyone knows you&#39;re not supposed to wear white to a wedding, but what about lipstick or mascara? How good are you allowed to look without being rude? Reddit user u/redthrowedding apparently looked a little too cute at her...