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<h2>AITA for asking my sister to cover up when she leaves the bedroom?</h2><p><a data-click-id="user" data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/GiantDirtRida/">GiantDirtRida</a></p><blockquote> <p>I 25f and my Husband 27 have a home together with our 4 year old. My sister Julia20 lives with us because we live close to her college. She has her own room.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Julia likes to leave the bedroom in a big shirt and underwear, or just a robe, or walk around the house in her sports bra, booty shorts. I&rsquo;ve mentioned to her nicely to change before but she keeps doing it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The other night she did it again and I just simply said, cover up. She got angry and said she lived there too and accused me of being worried my husband would sexualize her. I told her that is definitely not the case, but there was a young child in this home and it wasn&rsquo;t appropriate, she needed to cover up before leaving her room.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We got into an argument and I basically said you could run around your room naked for all I care, but once you leave the bedroom you need to be covered. She didn&rsquo;t like that and has been avoiding me in the house the past few days. AITA</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what Reddit had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Visual_Humor_2838/">Visual_Humor_2838</a></p><blockquote> <p>NAH. I think you&rsquo;re within your rights as the homeowner to make this request&mdash;your house, your rules.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>But I agree with her that this doesn&rsquo;t seem like a big deal. I think it&rsquo;s weird that you&rsquo;re worried about your child seeing their aunt in athletic wear. Are you going to keep your 4yo away from pools where there could be women in two-piece bathing suits?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dirkdastardly/">dirkdastardly</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My daughter is much more uncomfortable with it than we are, so I warn her if she&rsquo;s about to walk in on me changing clothes. Sometimes she decides it&rsquo;s worth the trauma and comes in anyway. But when I was a kid I used to sit and chat with my mom while she got dressed after a shower, and we often shared a dressing room while clothes shopping. It&rsquo;s just a question of individual comfort level.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I think OP is being disingenuous, though. This isn&rsquo;t about her kid. This is about <em>her</em> being uncomfortable with it. She needs to think about why that is.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/CranberryObjective33/">CranberryObjective33</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA, Teaching children to keep their clothes on can be a challenge, she&#39;s setting a bad example walking around in her underwear.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/justahermit/">justahermit</a></p><blockquote> <p>You are def worried about your husband and not your child. Is she paying rent? If not then I guess it&#39;s your house and your rules but this is a stupid thing to be upset about shes not showing anything and it&#39;s no big deal for a 4 year old to see that. If you don&#39;t want your husband seeing it then just tell your sister that and don&#39;t make up bs.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Infinite-Variation31/">Infinite-Variation31</a></p><blockquote> <p>Considering the first thing the sister said was about the husband sexualizing her, it&rsquo;s entirely possible she is absolutely doing this on purpose to give hubby a show.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I can&rsquo;t really think of anyone I know who would be okay with a young woman flouncing around their spouse in a shirt and panties, regardless if she was a family member or not, or paid rent or not. If sis doesn&rsquo;t like it she can leave.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Euffy/">Euffy</a></p><blockquote> <p>Or she just likes being comfortable, geez.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I agree that she should cover up if OP wants her to. OP&#39;s house and all. But it all sounds like a completely normal way to walk around the house. It&#39;s casual and comfortable, especially if the house is warm. Not everything is malicious, she probably couldn&#39;t quite believe it really bothered OP that much because it&#39;s feels so natural to her.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/peppered_yolk/">peppered_yolk</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Normally I&#39;d say Y T A, but OP said in a comment the sister does not pay rent, pay for groceries, etc. That means OP rules go. Still seems a bit unnecessary and prudish, I&#39;m not sure what the issue is with her wearing what is comfortable. But it&#39;s technically not her house.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>OP, it might be helpful to have a conversation with your sister on why you want the rules. Why is it so important that your 4 yo doesn&#39;t see her dressed that way? Have a vulnerable and humble conversation and that might help more because it seems like a dumb rule from the surface level. NTA</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Happy_Flow826/">Happy_Flow826</a></p><blockquote> <p>I will say we have a new rule in the house that clothing isn&#39;t optional. Why? Because after seeing big brother and daddy running around the house in just boxers, our 3 year old who&#39;s not quite 100% potty trained decided it was okay to start stripping down wherever whenever with whoever at home.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Sure it&#39;s innocent toddler behavior, but a naked toddler trying to make a mad dash out the front door, or screaming for help to take his pants off in the car, or forgetting he&#39;s naked while watching TV and forgetting to go to the bathroom to go, is not fun.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We&#39;ve had a lot less strip-cidents since implementing that clothing isn&#39;t optional. We&#39;ve had more success with him leaving the pull up on and using his robe now that all the older people are modeling similar behaviors.</p> </blockquote><h2>Does this sound like a reasonable request for modesty around family or do you think there is more to the story?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman tells sister her nudity is inappropriate in front of her husband and son.

AITA for asking my sister to cover up when she leaves the bedroom?GiantDirtRida I 25f and my Husband 27 have a home together with our 4 year old. My sister Julia20 lives with us because we live close to her college. She has her own room.  Julia likes to leave the bedroom in a big shirt and underwear, or just a robe, or walk around the house in her sports bra, booty shorts. I&rsquo;ve mentioned to her nicely to change before but she keeps doing it.  The other night she did it again and I just simply said, cover up. She got angry and said she lived there too and accused me of being worried my husband would sexualize her. I told her that is definitely not the case, but there was a young child in this home and it wasn&rsquo;t appropriate, she needed to cover up before leaving her room.  We got into an argument and I basically said you could run around your room naked for all I care, but once you leave the bedroom you need to be covered. She didn&rsquo;t like that and has been avoiding me in the house the past few days. AITA Here&#39;s what Reddit had to say:Visual_Humor_2838 NAH. I think you&rsquo;re within your rights as the homeowner to make this request&mdash;your house, your rules.  But I agree with her that this doesn&rsquo;t seem like a big deal. I think it&rsquo;s weird that you&rsquo;re worried about your child seeing their aunt in athletic wear. Are you going to keep your 4yo away from pools where there could be women in two-piece bathing suits? dirkdastardly My daughter is much more uncomfortable with it than we are, so I warn her if she&rsquo;s about to walk in on me changing clothes. Sometimes she decides it&rsquo;s worth the trauma and comes in anyway. But when I was a kid I used to sit and chat with my mom while she got dressed after a shower, and we often shared a dressing room while clothes shopping. It&rsquo;s just a question of individual comfort level.  I think OP is being disingenuous, though. This isn&rsquo;t about her kid. This is about her being uncomfortable with it. She needs to think about why that is. CranberryObjective33 NTA, Teaching children to keep their clothes on can be a challenge, she&#39;s setting a bad example walking around in her underwear.  justahermit You are def worried about your husband and not your child. Is she paying rent? If not then I guess it&#39;s your house and your rules but this is a stupid thing to be upset about shes not showing anything and it&#39;s no big deal for a 4 year old to see that. If you don&#39;t want your husband seeing it then just tell your sister that and don&#39;t make up bs. Infinite-Variation31 Considering the first thing the sister said was about the husband sexualizing her, it&rsquo;s entirely possible she is absolutely doing this on purpose to give hubby a show.  I can&rsquo;t really think of anyone I know who would be okay with a young woman flouncing around their spouse in a shirt and panties, regardless if she was a family member or not, or paid rent or not. If sis doesn&rsquo;t like it she can leave. Euffy Or she just likes being comfortable, geez.  I agree that she should cover up if OP wants her to. OP&#39;s house and all. But it all sounds like a completely normal way to walk around the house. It&#39;s casual and comfortable, especially if the house is warm. Not everything is malicious, she probably couldn&#39;t quite believe it really bothered OP that much because it&#39;s feels so natural to her. peppered_yolk Normally I&#39;d say Y T A, but OP said in a comment the sister does not pay rent, pay for groceries, etc. That means OP rules go. Still seems a bit unnecessary and prudish, I&#39;m not sure what the issue is with her wearing what is comfortable. But it&#39;s technically not her house.  OP, it might be helpful to have a conversation with your sister on why you want the rules. Why is it so important that your 4 yo doesn&#39;t see her dressed that way? Have a vulnerable and humble conversation and that might help more because it seems like a dumb rule from the surface level. NTA  Happy_Flow826 I will say we have a new rule in the house that clothing isn&#39;t optional. Why? Because after seeing big brother and daddy running around the house in just boxers, our 3 year old who&#39;s not quite 100% potty trained decided it was okay to start stripping down wherever whenever with whoever at home.  Sure it&#39;s innocent toddler behavior, but a naked toddler trying to make a mad dash out the front door, or screaming for help to take his pants off in the car, or forgetting he&#39;s naked while watching TV and forgetting to go to the bathroom to go, is not fun.  We&#39;ve had a lot less strip-cidents since implementing that clothing isn&#39;t optional. We&#39;ve had more success with him leaving the pull up on and using his robe now that all the older people are modeling similar behaviors. Does this sound like a reasonable request for modesty around family or do you think there is more to the story?

AITA for asking my sister to cover up when she leaves the bedroom?  GiantDirtRida   I 25f and my Husband 27 have a home together with our 4 year old. My sister Julia20 lives with us because we live close to her college. She has her own...