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<p>Some people love wedding ceremonies, some just like the hors d&#39;oeuvres. And some people don&#39;t really care to go to the wedding at all, but they will hold an invite-snub in their hearts for the rest of the lives.</p><h2>One woman asked <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/vuzycp/wibta_if_i_let_my_kids_be_in_their_dads_wedding/">Reddit</a> if she&#39;s wrong to consider denying her children a spot in her ex&#39;s wedding &mdash; unless she gets an invite as well.</h2><p>It starts with a family:</p><blockquote> <p>I, f34, have 2 kids, 10 and 13, with my ex, m35.</p> <p>My ex and his partner of 6 years, Ava, f31, are getting married in 3 weeks and my kids are meant to be junior bridesmaids for Ava.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My kids are really excited about being in the wedding and have loved picking out dresses and hair styles and I guess they also love Ava.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I can&#39;t stand her.</p> </blockquote><p>Ah, and there it is. Her grievances are listed as follows:</p><blockquote> <p>I feel that she often tries to mother them when they are staying with their Dad and Ava, she leaves them with her family when both her and their Dad are working during the holidays.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>And her family constantly refers to them as their grandchildren, even though they have their own grandchildren. My kids even call them Nana and Pop.</p> </blockquote><h2>This is not a Brady Bunch situation.</h2><p>The grievances will now get more specific.</p><blockquote> <p>Ava also doesn&#39;t back me up on issues that I have with my ex when it comes to the kids, and won&#39;t answer my calls or texts unless the kids are at their Dad&#39;s.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Aside from that, she ignores me because &#39;she shouldn&#39;t get in the middle of parenting issues&#39;.</p> </blockquote><p>We get a good picture of Ava&#39;s boundaries:</p><blockquote> <p>Ava also refuses to be alone with me when we do the drop off and pick up. When I demanded to know why, she said it&#39;s because I make her uncomfortable as I&#39;m always either running down my ex and saying all the crap things he did in our relationship, or I run down their relationship.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I admit to the first, but the second was when I told her he doesn&#39;t love her and he was using her to make me jealous, which was 3 years ago and I had been drinking and she&#39;s holding that against me still!!</p> </blockquote><p><font color="#4a4a4a"><span style="font-size: 21.6px; font-style: normal; letter-spacing: -0.432px;"><b>NO INVITE.</b></span></font></p><p>OP was shocked to find out that she would not be allowed to accompany her children to their father&#39;s wedding.</p><blockquote> <p>I found out I am not invited to the wedding, I assumed I was at least invited because my kids were involved.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When I got upset my ex said he was going to get photos done of just the kids and I could have a couple, but that he didn&#39;t want me there.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m pretty angry about that considering I should be invited at least to the ceremony. I&#39;m thinking of telling ex and Ava that I don&#39;t want my kids to be at their wedding unless I&#39;m there. Would I be the a**hole?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><font color="#4a4a4a"><span style="font-size: 21.6px; font-style: normal; letter-spacing: -0.432px;"><b>The internet weighed in.</b></span></font></p><p>And frankly, they thought this story belonged more on &quot;Am I the Devil?&quot; than &quot;Am I the a**hole?&quot;</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/StrongBlueberry5432/">StrongBlueberry5432</a> has strong opinions.</h2><blockquote> <p>You would be the a**hole. And quite frankly you already are the a**hole. An entitled one to boot.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Why on earth would you expect to be invited to your ex&#39;s wedding?! Get over yourself.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They, quite reasonably, don&#39;t want you there for obvious reasons. Do you ever stop to think about anyone other then your own ego?</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SiantheCrow/">SiantheCrow</a> does not mince words.</h2><blockquote> <p>YTA and you sound ever so slightly unhinged. I feel so bad for Ava having to deal with you.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>There is absolutely no reason that they should invite you and more to the point you should not be there full stop because you only wish ill for them.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;d be afraid you would be ready to start something. Your ex is your children&#39;s father, Ava is their stepmum, her parents are part of the kids&#39; lives and they all have every right to be with them.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>How is it a bad things to have more people who love and genuinely care for your children?</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/coldcoldiq/" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.35em; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">coldcoldiq</a> <span style="color: rgb(74, 74, 74); font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.35em; font-weight: 600; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">thinks this is too out of control to be real.</span></p><blockquote> <p>On the off chance that this is real:</p> <p>They&#39;re your ex&#39;s kids too. And you&#39;re not invited to the wedding because you clearly hate the bride.</p> </blockquote><h2>That&#39;s about it. Now we can most likely look forward to the sequel: &quot;Am I the A**hole for crashing my ex&#39;s wedding and screaming at the bride?&quot;</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she’s wrong to keep kids out of ex’s wedding unless she’s invited.

Some people love wedding ceremonies, some just like the hors d&#39;oeuvres. And some people don&#39;t really care to go to the wedding at all, but they will hold an invite-snub in their hearts for the rest of the lives.One woman asked Reddit if she&#39;s wrong to consider denying her children a spot in her ex&#39;s wedding &mdash; unless she gets an invite as well.It starts with a family: I, f34, have 2 kids, 10 and 13, with my ex, m35. My ex and his partner of 6 years, Ava, f31, are getting married in 3 weeks and my kids are meant to be junior bridesmaids for Ava.  My kids are really excited about being in the wedding and have loved picking out dresses and hair styles and I guess they also love Ava.  I can&#39;t stand her. Ah, and there it is. Her grievances are listed as follows: I feel that she often tries to mother them when they are staying with their Dad and Ava, she leaves them with her family when both her and their Dad are working during the holidays.  And her family constantly refers to them as their grandchildren, even though they have their own grandchildren. My kids even call them Nana and Pop. This is not a Brady Bunch situation.The grievances will now get more specific. Ava also doesn&#39;t back me up on issues that I have with my ex when it comes to the kids, and won&#39;t answer my calls or texts unless the kids are at their Dad&#39;s.  Aside from that, she ignores me because &#39;she shouldn&#39;t get in the middle of parenting issues&#39;. We get a good picture of Ava&#39;s boundaries: Ava also refuses to be alone with me when we do the drop off and pick up. When I demanded to know why, she said it&#39;s because I make her uncomfortable as I&#39;m always either running down my ex and saying all the crap things he did in our relationship, or I run down their relationship.  I admit to the first, but the second was when I told her he doesn&#39;t love her and he was using her to make me jealous, which was 3 years ago and I had been drinking and she&#39;s holding that against me still!! NO INVITE.OP was shocked to find out that she would not be allowed to accompany her children to their father&#39;s wedding. I found out I am not invited to the wedding, I assumed I was at least invited because my kids were involved.  When I got upset my ex said he was going to get photos done of just the kids and I could have a couple, but that he didn&#39;t want me there.  I&#39;m pretty angry about that considering I should be invited at least to the ceremony. I&#39;m thinking of telling ex and Ava that I don&#39;t want my kids to be at their wedding unless I&#39;m there. Would I be the a**hole? The internet weighed in.And frankly, they thought this story belonged more on &quot;Am I the Devil?&quot; than &quot;Am I the a**hole?&quot;StrongBlueberry5432 has strong opinions. You would be the a**hole. And quite frankly you already are the a**hole. An entitled one to boot.  Why on earth would you expect to be invited to your ex&#39;s wedding?! Get over yourself.  They, quite reasonably, don&#39;t want you there for obvious reasons. Do you ever stop to think about anyone other then your own ego? SiantheCrow does not mince words. YTA and you sound ever so slightly unhinged. I feel so bad for Ava having to deal with you.  There is absolutely no reason that they should invite you and more to the point you should not be there full stop because you only wish ill for them.  I&#39;d be afraid you would be ready to start something. Your ex is your children&#39;s father, Ava is their stepmum, her parents are part of the kids&#39; lives and they all have every right to be with them.  How is it a bad things to have more people who love and genuinely care for your children?  coldcoldiq thinks this is too out of control to be real. On the off chance that this is real: They&#39;re your ex&#39;s kids too. And you&#39;re not invited to the wedding because you clearly hate the bride. That&#39;s about it. Now we can most likely look forward to the sequel: &quot;Am I the A**hole for crashing my ex&#39;s wedding and screaming at the bride?&quot;

Some people love wedding ceremonies, some just like the hors d&#39;oeuvres. And some people don&#39;t really care to go to the wedding at all, but they will hold an invite-snub in their hearts for the rest of the lives.  One woman asked...