I (F23) recently read another AITA that was similar to this. I didn't think that I would be in the same, almost same, situation.
My family lives in my grandparents house just outside the city on an acreage. My dad works out of town and my mom liked having the help with me and she liked helping out her folks.
My mom passed away from cancer about 12 years ago. My dad still had to work so I just kept living with my grandparents. My dad always spent time with me when he was home. I wish my mom hadn't passed but I had a pretty good life. When he was home he would stay in their old room or we would go on vacations.
My grandparents both passed away over the last couple of years . My mom was an only child and so am I. My mom's life insurance went to my dad, and he used it to help renovate the house. My grandparents never charged him rent. Sorry I realize how confusing this is.
Anyways I am the only person in my grandmother's will. I got money and the house and my grandpa's truck.
My dad started dating a couple of years after my mom passed away. He never brought anyone to the house until this last one. She is young but pretty. She also has two young kids. He talked to me about it and asked if they could move in.
It's a big house and I have a large area to myself. So I agreed.
So she's been living with me for about six months. Now she just got pregnant. My dad asked her to marry him. I'm happy for him. He is a great dad. He is s**t at communicating though.
My step mom to be has started in on me about when I'm going to move out since they will need my room for the baby. I guess she wants her mom to come live with her and help. My dad never told it the house is mine.
So my dad came home last weekend and we had a long talk. The stepkids have been sharing my grandparents old room. I have my room with a big closet and en suite my dad put in and he has the other big bedroom with an en suite.
She wants me to move to the city while I finish my education. She offered me her apartment at a discount.
I waited for my dad to tell her. He didn't. So I did. I told her it's my house and I'm not giving up my room. I also said that my dad had a fair amount savings and could probably buy them a house. Especially if they sold her apartment and used it for a down payment.
Now I'm the asshole for making him use money he was planning on for his retirement and she doesn't want to sell her apartment because the market is going to keep going up and she wants to build equity.
I made it clear that they should move before the baby comes. AITA?
Edit: Sorry if I didn't make it clear. They are very definitely moving out.
No-Read402 more from OP:
I think that's my dad's fault. He should have told her.
My dad pays for groceries and pays the bills. Like cable and internet. All the bills are in my name.
My dad has like 20 years of savings to pay for a house. They aren't going to be homeless.
My grandparents left me set up for a good life. I can afford school debt free and I have money to supplement my income. I would still rather have them back. I don't think my dad would have tried to move another woman in if they were still here.
If they pool their resources they can afford a nice house.
I feel bad for my dad. He had a plan to retire. I personally don't care that much about the house it's not like my mom's childhood home or anything. I am considering selling I to them in exchange for the apartment and a lot of money.
Here's what people had to say to OP:
NTA. Facts are facts. You're not leaving them without options, and she wasn't leaving you without one (although, it irks me a bit that she wanted you to rent her apartment). Doesn't sound like there will be bad blood. Rest easy.