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<h2>AITA for forcing my parents to sleep in separate rooms when they visit even if my in-laws are allowed to sleep in one room?</h2><blockquote> <p>I 29(f) got married last year to my husband (28m). Before that we were dating for 3 years.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When I was finished with high school I went abroad to go to college and after college decided to stay there. Met my husband bought a house after we got married. Now during that time that I was abroad, I would always visit my parents and they would never visit me. The only time they came here was for the weeding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Also the first time they met my husband and I thought it&rsquo;s going great. After we settled from the weeding and everything I took him to my home town. The plan was we stay with our parents.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>When we arrived my dad informed us that we need to sleep in separate rooms because and I quote &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t want any funny business&rdquo; and I argued. My husband eventually calmed me down and said it&rsquo;s ok.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>In the end we shortened our visit from 10 to 5 days because it was frustrating for me that my marriage wasn&rsquo;t respected or my relationship and that I am an adult. Our relationship since then has been awkward.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This new year they decided to visit us, and when they arrived my husband (with prior discussion with me of his plan) informed them they have separate rooms.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My parents didn&rsquo;t take it well my dad started to argue but my husband said he doesn&rsquo;t want any funny business going on. My dad shut up, my mom told us we were being brats and they both took their bags and left. We have not had contact since.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My sister is called me and told me we were assholes for treating them like that, I don&rsquo;t think so. IMO how much respect you give is how much you get. But maybe I&rsquo;m wrong. AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Info from OP:</h2><blockquote> <p>His parents when we stay over allow us in one room, they have never disrespected me or my marriage this is not about his parents and our relationship with them. And he doesn&rsquo;t make the situation worse he defended himself and our marriage, and I am proud to stand beside him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I hope they will get over it I have my plans for mending it in a way but not bowing down.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>We are planning a visit to my hometown in spring (staying in a hotel) and during that time I will contact them for lunch or dinner, but my plan is in the future we stay in a hotel when we visit and they stay in a hotel when they visit.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what people had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WantonChrysanthemum/">WantonChrysanthemum</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>You&rsquo;re not the asshole if you want to go tit for tat in your relationships and potentially cause a serious rift with your parents, who, flawed as they might be, are your only parents, who will age, get sick, and die. Idk. Maybe that&rsquo;s too dramatic, but family is serious.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>If I were you, I would have told them separate rooms, then said OK now you see how it feels, then given them one room. I don&rsquo;t think there was any need to let it go as far as them leaving your house, that seems childish and callous on your part. I&rsquo;m going to go with ESH. Apologize! Make it better.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Throwsinglebed/">Throwsinglebed</a> OP responds:</p><blockquote> <p>Your point is valid, I will sit on it. Thank you for your input.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Heinrad_/">Heinrad_</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA that&rsquo;s f**king classic. Petty? Sure. Hopefully it&rsquo;s lesson learned on their part but I love it regardless</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Throwsinglebed/">Throwsinglebed</a> OP responds:</p><blockquote> <p>Husband thought of it I just agreed to it (he didn&rsquo;t want to do it unless I am onboard)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman makes parents sleep in separate rooms as revenge; says 'no funny business.'

AITA for forcing my parents to sleep in separate rooms when they visit even if my in-laws are allowed to sleep in one room? I 29(f) got married last year to my husband (28m). Before that we were dating for 3 years.  When I was finished with high school I went abroad to go to college and after college decided to stay there. Met my husband bought a house after we got married. Now during that time that I was abroad, I would always visit my parents and they would never visit me. The only time they came here was for the weeding.  Also the first time they met my husband and I thought it&rsquo;s going great. After we settled from the weeding and everything I took him to my home town. The plan was we stay with our parents.  When we arrived my dad informed us that we need to sleep in separate rooms because and I quote &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t want any funny business&rdquo; and I argued. My husband eventually calmed me down and said it&rsquo;s ok.  In the end we shortened our visit from 10 to 5 days because it was frustrating for me that my marriage wasn&rsquo;t respected or my relationship and that I am an adult. Our relationship since then has been awkward.  This new year they decided to visit us, and when they arrived my husband (with prior discussion with me of his plan) informed them they have separate rooms.  My parents didn&rsquo;t take it well my dad started to argue but my husband said he doesn&rsquo;t want any funny business going on. My dad shut up, my mom told us we were being brats and they both took their bags and left. We have not had contact since.  My sister is called me and told me we were assholes for treating them like that, I don&rsquo;t think so. IMO how much respect you give is how much you get. But maybe I&rsquo;m wrong. AITA? Info from OP: His parents when we stay over allow us in one room, they have never disrespected me or my marriage this is not about his parents and our relationship with them. And he doesn&rsquo;t make the situation worse he defended himself and our marriage, and I am proud to stand beside him.  I hope they will get over it I have my plans for mending it in a way but not bowing down.  We are planning a visit to my hometown in spring (staying in a hotel) and during that time I will contact them for lunch or dinner, but my plan is in the future we stay in a hotel when we visit and they stay in a hotel when they visit. Here&#39;s what people had to say:WantonChrysanthemum writes: You&rsquo;re not the asshole if you want to go tit for tat in your relationships and potentially cause a serious rift with your parents, who, flawed as they might be, are your only parents, who will age, get sick, and die. Idk. Maybe that&rsquo;s too dramatic, but family is serious.  If I were you, I would have told them separate rooms, then said OK now you see how it feels, then given them one room. I don&rsquo;t think there was any need to let it go as far as them leaving your house, that seems childish and callous on your part. I&rsquo;m going to go with ESH. Apologize! Make it better. Throwsinglebed OP responds: Your point is valid, I will sit on it. Thank you for your input. Heinrad_ writes: NTA that&rsquo;s f**king classic. Petty? Sure. Hopefully it&rsquo;s lesson learned on their part but I love it regardless Throwsinglebed OP responds: Husband thought of it I just agreed to it (he didn&rsquo;t want to do it unless I am onboard) 

AITA for forcing my parents to sleep in separate rooms when they visit even if my in-laws are allowed to sleep in one room?   I 29(f) got married last year to my husband (28m). Before that we were dating for 3 years.    When I was finished...