I (F23) have been planning a family vacation with my older brother (M30) and his wife, my two nieces (F4 and F2) and my parents. Everyone is paying for their own tickets.
The vacation is booked for February. We hadn't discussed room arrangements before, but I knew the room we'd be staying in would have three bedrooms.
So we discussed room arrangements yesterday, and my brother and parents just kind of assumed that I wouldn't mind sharing a room with my nieces, whilst my brother and his wife and my parents get their own rooms.
I said I didn't want to share a room with them, and said that they should be sleeping in my brother and SIL's room since they're their parents. My parents called me dramatic and said that it's not a big deal, and said that my nieces won't give me any trouble. I told them I don't care. They said I'm being a bad aunt and told me to grow up.
I told them if I don't get my own room I'll cancel my ticket, which would result in everyone else having to pay more or find someone else to go in my place because we got a group discount with the resort. I will also have to pay a small cancellation fee.
My brother said I'm a whiny asshole and accused me of being a narcissist.
From the comments:
luvduvbunny says:
NTA. Your nieces are 4 and 2. They should sleep in the room with their parents because of their age. If they were teens, I can understand giving them their own room.
I think your brother and SIL just want a free babysitter. I hate when people with kids want to go on vacation, bring their kids, and dump them on someone else. This is your vacation and you don’t have kids.
Ursula2071 says:
It is actually worse. She is going to be PAYING TO BE THE NANNY. if they want them in the room, they need to pay for 2/3 the cost OP is paying and OP should refuse to watch them during the day. After all, she had to watch them all night.
VoidScreaming101 says:
It’s fun being punished for being single.
RaqMountainMama says:
NTA - I dealt with this too many times myself. Paid my fair share & got a couch or an air mattress because so & so was older, married, injured, whatever & needed a bed. Then when I was married & with small kids got the same treatment.
10 years of sharing the cost of the annual family ski trip & never slept in a bed. I'm telling you - mark your boundaries now, OP!