'AITA for a pose I did in front of boyfriend’s friends and family?'
"AITA for a pose I did in front of boyfriend’s friends and family?"
I (24f) was a gymnast in college, and I’ve gotten used to that being a topic of discussion when around new people. A few days ago, I was hanging out by the pool with my boyfriend, some of his friends and family, and one of his cousins asked me if I could still do all the moves and stretches.
I played along, put down my drink and did a standing split, lifting my leg and holding it behind my head. It was a seemingly normal cute moment, whatever. People clapped, we laughed, moved on. Anyway, my boyfriend’s sister mentioned to me that she thought it was an inappropriate thing for me to do in that setting.
She said it was “suggestive” to do that in a bikini in front of a mixed audience. I told her I didn’t agree, it was a very basic gymnasts (and even yoga) pose, just all in good fun. Now I’m getting the cold shoulder. AITA? Was I being naive?
Here is the opinion that readers had to share:
NTA. Anyone who s^%$alizes what you did, the problem lies with them.
To be really honest, there will be folks who find someone doing the splits in a swimsuit super hot. BUT, to say it's 'suggestive'? Which sounds close to slut shaming and potential victim blaming? That's wrong and completely out of line. NTA.
Even if it is hot - and any show of skill should be hot. Talent is hot! - you're not wrong or inappropriate to display your skills when asked. Sounds like someone is jealous of you.
NTA. You were asked. You showed them you could. I mean has his sister watched the Olympics. In most of the summer games, including gymnastics, women are basically in bikinis.
NTA. They asked and you demonstrated that you could. What you were wearing at the time was chance on your side, and likely made it easier to show your flexibility anyway, so kind of good luck even. I would chalk it up to “she’s uncomfortable,” and not take it to heart as being innately “inappropriate.”
NTA. People need to stop se^%$lizing everything women do. The pool is literally the perfect setting for playing around and having fun.