Woman upset SIL is getting compliments over 'entry level job'; leaves Thanksgiving.
'AITA for leaving Thanksgiving dinner after my SIL got snarky with me and some people started defending her?'
I'm (27F) not close to my SIL (26F). We're not at each other's throats or anything, but she just seems to be slacking off sometimes. I've tried to help her out a bit and talk to her, but she never wanted to hear it. SIL recently got a new entry level job that she'll be relocating for.
We celebrated Thanksgiving with my husband's (29M) family this year, and it was a massive get together. A lot of people congratulated SIL on her new job, which is understandable. However, my in-laws were acting like they'd won a billion dollars.
Some relatives kept asking about SIL's new job, when she'll be moving etc. I tried to change the topic, but my SIL got kind of pissed and said something like 'You don't have to be a part of this conversation'. I replied that we're all proud of her, maybe people want to talk about other things sometimes too. SIL again, got very snarky and said 'Again, leave the conversation'.
I'll admit I got annoyed at that point and said 'Coming from the woman who's milking compliments for something most people achieve by the age of 16'.
My SIL got really mad and said I have no position saying that. There were a few people around that started going off at me. I eventually walked off and told my husband I was leaving. He didn't know what was going on at that point, but in the heat of the moment I just took the car and left. A cousin ended up dropping him off at home.
My SIL is obviously pissed at me and my husband heard the whole thing, he said I created a scene for no reason and should apologize to SIL (even though people started going off at me). I shared this with my mom and she said I wasn't wrong and people are coddling SIL.
I get that I might've overreacted a bit but I think it was justified. AITA?
From the comments:
yellowjacket1996 writes:
YTA and you sound bitter or jealous.
booksycat writes:
Absolutely YTA. Listen, you've been making this woman's life miserable for ages now with your 'I've tried to help her out a bit and talk to her, but she never wanted to hear it.' and now you want to not let her celebrate when she DOES make a positive change.
Maybe stay home next time so every single other person can enjoy the day.
Abolethdatingservice writes:
You were part of a conversation others were having, annoyed that they wouldn't change it for you, insulted someone who has a life achievement, degraded their worth. How could you possibly think you wouldn't be an asshole? YTA with bells on .