Man won't let woman spot him at the gym because 'that's a death wish.' AITA?
'AITA for saying 'I don't want to die' when a girl said she could spot me?'
Earlier today, I was benching in my school's gym. I usually don't go on Tuesdays but I'm trying to throw in some more work throughout the week. There wasn't really anybody I know for real when I was up there so when I needed a spot I just called out to no one in particular asking for a spot.
The first person to say something is this girl who I knew would be no help. Not a beat after she finishes saying that she can spot me I say 'I'm not tryna die today.'
She had this offended look on her face and I was like 'Can you deadlift 315?' She ain't say nothing and I said 'That's what I thought.' I get somebody else to spot me and go on and finish my workout.
When I'm walking about trying to get to my car to go home; she comes up to me and starts jawing about how I was sexist and all that. That I was disrespectful just because she was a girl and I should apologize for being misogynistic.
That's not true at all, I just knew she wouldn't be able to do anything if I were to fail the rep. When I'm doing a hard workout I do tend to be short with people so maybe I could've been a little more polite but I don't think I did anything wrong. AITA?
After reading, here is what people had to say:
YTA. You do not need to dead lift 315 to spot someone. A simple “no thank you” would have sufficed but you had to be rude. Your comment was most likely rooted in sexism.
YTA, I bench press significantly more than you and I've let girls spot me before. On a normal set if you know your limits the spotter should never have to apply more than 10-20lb of force to the bar. Even if you were going for a max attempt where you might experience total failure there are nicer ways to say it.
From a female who CAN deadlift over 315#, YTA. As others have mentioned deadlifting the weight being benched isn't a prerequisite for being an effective spotter. Do you ask everyone if they can deadlift #315 before you let them spot you? Or just women?
That wasn't sexist, it was just a d*ck move. You ask for help then act like an a**hole when someone offers help.
NTA you definitely could've been nicer but the people calling you misogynistic are f**king ridiculous. If the objective statement 'the average man is physically stronger than the average woman' hurts you you really need to get off Reddit for a while.
Yeah, maybe she could've been strong enough to handle it. Maybe she could've been stronger than OP. But in the maybe that she wasn't, he could've been F**KED. If it's between random weirdos on AITA thinking I'm sexist and potentially f**king dying in a gym, I'll graciously accept the title of misogynist, please and thank you.