Fitness

<h2>AITA for saying &quot;I don&#39;t want to die&quot; when a girl said she could spot me?</h2><p><a data-click-id="user" data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Substantial-Draw2078/">u/Substantial-Draw2078</a></p><blockquote> <p>Earlier today, I was benching in my school&#39;s gym. I usually don&#39;t go on Tuesdays but I&#39;m trying to throw in some more work throughout the week. There wasn&#39;t really anybody I know for real when I was up there so when I needed a spot I just called out to no one in particular asking for a spot.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The first person to say something is this girl who I knew would be no help. Not a beat after she finishes saying that she can spot me I say &quot;I&#39;m not tryna die today.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She had this offended look on her face and I was like &quot;Can you deadlift 315?&quot; She ain&#39;t say nothing and I said &quot;That&#39;s what I thought.&quot; I get somebody else to spot me and go on and finish my workout.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>When I&#39;m walking about trying to get to my car to go home; she comes up to me and starts jawing about how I was sexist and all that. That I was disrespectful just because she was a girl and I should apologize for being misogynistic.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>That&#39;s not true at all, I just knew she wouldn&#39;t be able to do anything if I were to fail the rep. When I&#39;m doing a hard workout I do tend to be short with people so maybe I could&#39;ve been a little more polite but I don&#39;t think I did anything wrong. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>After reading, here is what people had to say:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Kind_Independent_199/">Kind_Independent_199</a></p><blockquote> <p>YTA. You do not need to dead lift 315 to spot someone. A simple &ldquo;no thank you&rdquo; would have sufficed but you had to be rude. Your comment was most likely rooted in sexism.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Isomorphic_reasoning/">Isomorphic_reasoning</a></p><blockquote> <p>YTA, I bench press significantly more than you and I&#39;ve let girls spot me before. On a normal set if you know your limits the spotter should never have to apply more than 10-20lb of force to the bar. Even if you were going for a max attempt where you might experience total failure there are nicer ways to say it.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PassAsKatz/">PassAsKatz</a></p><blockquote> <p>From a female who CAN deadlift over 315#, YTA. As others have mentioned deadlifting the weight being benched isn&#39;t a prerequisite for being an effective spotter. Do you ask everyone if they can deadlift #315 before you let them spot you? Or just women?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BartholomewXXXII/">BartholomewXXXII</a></p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>That wasn&#39;t sexist, it was just a d*ck move. You ask for help then act like an a**hole when someone offers help.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Shouldmynamebehere/">Shouldmynamebehere</a></p><blockquote> <p>NTA you definitely could&#39;ve been nicer but the people calling you misogynistic are fucking ridiculous. If the objective statement &quot;the average man is physically stronger than the average woman&quot; hurts you you really need to get off Reddit for a while.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Yeah, maybe she could&#39;ve been strong enough to handle it. Maybe she could&#39;ve been stronger than OP. But in the maybe that she wasn&#39;t, he could&#39;ve been FUCKED.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If it&#39;s between random weirdos on AITA thinking I&#39;m sexist and potentially fucking dying in a gym, I&#39;ll graciously accept the title of misogynist, please and thank you.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>What do you think? Was this sexist or possibly just a safety precaution?</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man won't let woman spot him at the gym because 'that's a death wish.' AITA?

AITA for saying &quot;I don&#39;t want to die&quot; when a girl said she could spot me?u/Substantial-Draw2078 Earlier today, I was benching in my school&#39;s gym. I usually don&#39;t go on Tuesdays but I&#39;m trying to throw in some more work throughout the week. There wasn&#39;t really anybody I know for real when I was up there so when I needed a spot I just called out to no one in particular asking for a spot.  The first person to say something is this girl who I knew would be no help. Not a beat after she finishes saying that she can spot me I say &quot;I&#39;m not tryna die today.&quot;  She had this offended look on her face and I was like &quot;Can you deadlift 315?&quot; She ain&#39;t say nothing and I said &quot;That&#39;s what I thought.&quot; I get somebody else to spot me and go on and finish my workout.  When I&#39;m walking about trying to get to my car to go home; she comes up to me and starts jawing about how I was sexist and all that. That I was disrespectful just because she was a girl and I should apologize for being misogynistic.  That&#39;s not true at all, I just knew she wouldn&#39;t be able to do anything if I were to fail the rep. When I&#39;m doing a hard workout I do tend to be short with people so maybe I could&#39;ve been a little more polite but I don&#39;t think I did anything wrong. AITA? After reading, here is what people had to say:Kind_Independent_199 YTA. You do not need to dead lift 315 to spot someone. A simple &ldquo;no thank you&rdquo; would have sufficed but you had to be rude. Your comment was most likely rooted in sexism. Isomorphic_reasoning YTA, I bench press significantly more than you and I&#39;ve let girls spot me before. On a normal set if you know your limits the spotter should never have to apply more than 10-20lb of force to the bar. Even if you were going for a max attempt where you might experience total failure there are nicer ways to say it. PassAsKatz From a female who CAN deadlift over 315#, YTA. As others have mentioned deadlifting the weight being benched isn&#39;t a prerequisite for being an effective spotter. Do you ask everyone if they can deadlift #315 before you let them spot you? Or just women? BartholomewXXXII That wasn&#39;t sexist, it was just a d*ck move. You ask for help then act like an a**hole when someone offers help.  Shouldmynamebehere NTA you definitely could&#39;ve been nicer but the people calling you misogynistic are fucking ridiculous. If the objective statement &quot;the average man is physically stronger than the average woman&quot; hurts you you really need to get off Reddit for a while.  Yeah, maybe she could&#39;ve been strong enough to handle it. Maybe she could&#39;ve been stronger than OP. But in the maybe that she wasn&#39;t, he could&#39;ve been FUCKED.  If it&#39;s between random weirdos on AITA thinking I&#39;m sexist and potentially fucking dying in a gym, I&#39;ll graciously accept the title of misogynist, please and thank you. What do you think? Was this sexist or possibly just a safety precaution?

AITA for saying &quot;I don&#39;t want to die&quot; when a girl said she could spot me?  u/Substantial-Draw2078   Earlier today, I was benching in my school&#39;s gym. I usually don&#39;t go on Tuesdays but I&#39;m trying to throw in some...