Friendship

<p>We all have our pet peaves, but some things are universal. Sometimes you&#39;re just in a bad mood and get bugged by a friend, family or loved one, but sometimes there&#39;s something that always bugs you, no matter what mood you&#39;re in, or who the person is.</p><p>In <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/yjbpyi/what_is_an_exhausting_personality_trait_in_someone/">this list</a> people were asked to share the personality trait that exhausts them the most, and here are our 22 favorites (or least favorite, depending on how you think about it).</p><h2>1. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/CrystalQueen3000/">CrystalQueen3000</a> thinks the devil is in the details:</h2><blockquote> <p>Someone that plays devils advocate in every conversation to be controversial or turn it into a debate</p> </blockquote><h2>2. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/FitChickFourTwennie/">FitChickFourTwennie</a> thinks sometimes people need to just stop:</h2><blockquote> <p>Someone who always has to be right🙄</p> </blockquote><h2>3. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Time-Boss-3867/">Time-Boss-3867</a> hates coworkers are share too much:</h2><blockquote> <p>Trauma dumping. Especially coming from people you work with&hellip; like can you not???</p> </blockquote><h2>4. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/KnittinAndBitchin/">KnittinAndBitchin</a> doesn&#39;t want to be there for people who take advantage of the support:</h2><blockquote> <p>Someone with a super negative outlook on life that needs you personally to fluff them back up. Everything that happens to them is horrible so they need constant reassurance that it&#39;s going to be okay.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Anything that they do is terrible so tell them why they&#39;re doing great and what they&#39;re doing is actually pretty good. It&#39;s exhausting to have to spend a lot of emotional currency to try and prop them up, at some point it&#39;s like &quot;k&quot; whenever they go on a woe-is-me rant for the 8th time that week</p> </blockquote><h2>5. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/an0nym0uswr1ter/">an0nym0uswr1ter</a> isn&#39;t into the woe-is-me vibe:</h2><blockquote> <p>People who blame the world for their problems and think they are entitled to whatever they want.</p> </blockquote><h2>6. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mella_20/">Mella_20</a> doesn&#39;t like people who are the opposite of empathetic.</h2><blockquote> <p>People who never validate your experience. Things never just suck. You&#39;re always too sensitive or not built for the conflict you&#39;re experiencing.</p> </blockquote><h2>7. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Own-Emergency2166/">Own-Emergency2166</a> doesn&#39;t want to play tennis by themself.</h2><blockquote> <p>People who monologue. Relationships and conversations should be like a tennis game, with the ball going back and forth.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Some people treat them like an interpretative dance performance, just up their on stage doing their thing ,unable to see the audience. If you aren&rsquo;t taking cues from the people on the other end of the relationship or conversation , and changing course depending on what they say, it&rsquo;s exhausting .</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>8. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mugwumpen/">Mugwumpen</a> isn&#39;t into the &quot;that reminds me of something...&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Someone who&#39;s not listening to what other people have to say in a conversation, only waiting for their turn to speak.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2>9. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Sweeeetestofdreams/">Sweeeetestofdreams</a> thinks people need to keep an eye on their watch.</h2><blockquote> <p>Somebody who is chronically late. I&rsquo;ve had friends who are never on time to any plans no matter how important. We are talking 2-3 hours late. When you&rsquo;re waiting on a person for dinner or just to hangout, it drains you so much. I can understand a few times, but if it&rsquo;s every event? You&rsquo;re exhausting to be around</p> </blockquote><h2>10. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ok-Ganache-3273/">Ok-Ganache-3273</a> isn&#39;t into the &quot;look at me&quot; people.</h2><blockquote> <p>Constant need for attention</p> </blockquote><h2>11. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/StatementActive1998/">StatementActive1998</a> hates people talking behind other&#39;s backs.</h2><blockquote> <p>Gossipping. The person I think of always have bad things to say about everyone around her. She is funny and can be kind, but jeez man focus on your own life.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>12. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/neuro_illogical/">neuro_illogical</a> wants more positivity in the world.</h2><blockquote> <p>Constant negativity. I mean, I don&rsquo;t condone repressing negative emotions, but being around someone whose only conversational topics are complaints, cruel gossip/shittalking, and the like&hellip; thank you, no.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I can&rsquo;t take that in large doses. Especially in coworkers. Jobs are stressful enough as it is, I shouldn&rsquo;t have to be someone&rsquo;s free trauma counsellor as well. I&rsquo;m not being paid enough to put up with that 40 hours a week.</p> </blockquote><h2>13. <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/forcryingoutmeow/">forcryingoutmeow</a> is annoyed be belittling real diseases.</h2><blockquote> <p>Self-diagnosed autism or self-diagnosed mental illness.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;LOL I&#39;m so OCD.&quot;</p> <p>No, you&#39;re just an attention-seeker. Buzz off.</p> </blockquote><h2>14. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Illtakeaquietlife/">Illtakeaquietlife</a> wants people to wait until their done.</h2><blockquote> <p>Interrupting. Why are you hanging out with me if you aren&#39;t interested in letting me finish a thought?????</p> </blockquote><h2>15. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/jazmine_likea_flower/">jazmine_likea_flower</a> brings up a new one to us, but it&#39;s interesting.</h2><blockquote> <p>Unpopular Opinion: People who spew toxic positivity and if you&rsquo;re not anything other than happy all the time they instantly equate it to you being ungrateful, too angry, too negative. It&rsquo;s exhausting to be around people who you can only be happy around and only accept that version of you. I don&rsquo;t want to have to perform or fake being pleasant for your comfort. It&rsquo;s honestly not realistic.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>16. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RedditNoobee/">RedditNoobee</a> is looking for consistency.</h2><blockquote> <p>Volatility. Never knowing which mood they&#39;ll be in or how they&#39;ll react to anything. It&#39;s exhausting.</p> </blockquote><h2>17. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/cranbeery/">cranbeery</a> isn&#39;t into people setting themeslves up to look smart.</h2><blockquote> <p>Someone who asks questions they already know the answer to.</p> </blockquote><h2>18. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Spinachandwaffles/">Spinachandwaffles</a> wants people to just sooosh already.</h2><p>People who need to fill every bit of silence by constantly talking.</p><h2>19. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/T-Flexercise/">T-Flexercise</a> wants some people to keep their ideas to themeslves.</h2><blockquote> <p>Someoneshoulditis.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You know, the person who every time you get together, particularly in workplace or volunteer committee scenarios, is just full of ideas that someone should do. Or &quot;we&quot; should do. We should host a paint night fundraiser! We should have one of those murder mystery parties!</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Oh we can&#39;t not have a secret santa for Christmas, everyone loves that! Just always the driving force on the idea that the group as a whole should be doing more stuff, rather than volunteering to do the stuff they&#39;re willing to do.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>20. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/moodyvee/">moodyvee</a> wants people to make a decision.</h2><blockquote> <p>Honestly indecisive people annoy the shit out of me. I have anxiety too but like I asked if you wanted swiss or cheddar its not life or death just pick one ffs</p> </blockquote><h2>21. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/hotnikki08/">hotnikki08</a> wants honesty.</h2><blockquote> <p>Liars</p> </blockquote><h2>22. ​​​​​​​<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/eternititi/">eternititi</a> thinks this is phoney.</h2><blockquote> <p>Self-deprecation</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

22 people share the personality trait they think is most exhausting.

We all have our pet peaves, but some things are universal. Sometimes you&#39;re just in a bad mood and get bugged by a friend, family or loved one, but sometimes there&#39;s something that always bugs you, no matter what mood you&#39;re in, or who the person is.In this list people were asked to share the personality trait that exhausts them the most, and here are our 22 favorites (or least favorite, depending on how you think about it).1. CrystalQueen3000 thinks the devil is in the details: Someone that plays devils advocate in every conversation to be controversial or turn it into a debate 2. FitChickFourTwennie thinks sometimes people need to just stop: Someone who always has to be right🙄 3. Time-Boss-3867 hates coworkers are share too much: Trauma dumping. Especially coming from people you work with&hellip; like can you not??? 4. KnittinAndBitchin doesn&#39;t want to be there for people who take advantage of the support: Someone with a super negative outlook on life that needs you personally to fluff them back up. Everything that happens to them is horrible so they need constant reassurance that it&#39;s going to be okay.  Anything that they do is terrible so tell them why they&#39;re doing great and what they&#39;re doing is actually pretty good. It&#39;s exhausting to have to spend a lot of emotional currency to try and prop them up, at some point it&#39;s like &quot;k&quot; whenever they go on a woe-is-me rant for the 8th time that week 5. an0nym0uswr1ter isn&#39;t into the woe-is-me vibe: People who blame the world for their problems and think they are entitled to whatever they want. 6. Mella_20 doesn&#39;t like people who are the opposite of empathetic. People who never validate your experience. Things never just suck. You&#39;re always too sensitive or not built for the conflict you&#39;re experiencing. 7. ​​​​​​​Own-Emergency2166 doesn&#39;t want to play tennis by themself. People who monologue. Relationships and conversations should be like a tennis game, with the ball going back and forth.  Some people treat them like an interpretative dance performance, just up their on stage doing their thing ,unable to see the audience. If you aren&rsquo;t taking cues from the people on the other end of the relationship or conversation , and changing course depending on what they say, it&rsquo;s exhausting . 8. ​​​​​​​Mugwumpen isn&#39;t into the &quot;that reminds me of something...&quot; Someone who&#39;s not listening to what other people have to say in a conversation, only waiting for their turn to speak.  9. ​​​​​​​Sweeeetestofdreams thinks people need to keep an eye on their watch. Somebody who is chronically late. I&rsquo;ve had friends who are never on time to any plans no matter how important. We are talking 2-3 hours late. When you&rsquo;re waiting on a person for dinner or just to hangout, it drains you so much. I can understand a few times, but if it&rsquo;s every event? You&rsquo;re exhausting to be around 10. ​​​​​​​Ok-Ganache-3273 isn&#39;t into the &quot;look at me&quot; people. Constant need for attention 11. StatementActive1998 hates people talking behind other&#39;s backs. Gossipping. The person I think of always have bad things to say about everyone around her. She is funny and can be kind, but jeez man focus on your own life. 12. ​​​​​​​neuro_illogical wants more positivity in the world. Constant negativity. I mean, I don&rsquo;t condone repressing negative emotions, but being around someone whose only conversational topics are complaints, cruel gossip/shittalking, and the like&hellip; thank you, no.  I can&rsquo;t take that in large doses. Especially in coworkers. Jobs are stressful enough as it is, I shouldn&rsquo;t have to be someone&rsquo;s free trauma counsellor as well. I&rsquo;m not being paid enough to put up with that 40 hours a week. 13. forcryingoutmeow is annoyed be belittling real diseases. Self-diagnosed autism or self-diagnosed mental illness.  &quot;LOL I&#39;m so OCD.&quot; No, you&#39;re just an attention-seeker. Buzz off. 14. ​​​​​​​Illtakeaquietlife wants people to wait until their done. Interrupting. Why are you hanging out with me if you aren&#39;t interested in letting me finish a thought????? 15. ​​​​​​​jazmine_likea_flower brings up a new one to us, but it&#39;s interesting. Unpopular Opinion: People who spew toxic positivity and if you&rsquo;re not anything other than happy all the time they instantly equate it to you being ungrateful, too angry, too negative. It&rsquo;s exhausting to be around people who you can only be happy around and only accept that version of you. I don&rsquo;t want to have to perform or fake being pleasant for your comfort. It&rsquo;s honestly not realistic. 16. ​​​​​​​RedditNoobee is looking for consistency. Volatility. Never knowing which mood they&#39;ll be in or how they&#39;ll react to anything. It&#39;s exhausting. 17. ​​​​​​​cranbeery isn&#39;t into people setting themeslves up to look smart. Someone who asks questions they already know the answer to. 18. ​​​​​​​Spinachandwaffles wants people to just sooosh already.People who need to fill every bit of silence by constantly talking.19. ​​​​​​​T-Flexercise wants some people to keep their ideas to themeslves. Someoneshoulditis.  You know, the person who every time you get together, particularly in workplace or volunteer committee scenarios, is just full of ideas that someone should do. Or &quot;we&quot; should do. We should host a paint night fundraiser! We should have one of those murder mystery parties!  Oh we can&#39;t not have a secret santa for Christmas, everyone loves that! Just always the driving force on the idea that the group as a whole should be doing more stuff, rather than volunteering to do the stuff they&#39;re willing to do. 20. ​​​​​​​moodyvee wants people to make a decision. Honestly indecisive people annoy the shit out of me. I have anxiety too but like I asked if you wanted swiss or cheddar its not life or death just pick one ffs 21. ​​​​​​​hotnikki08 wants honesty. Liars 22. ​​​​​​​eternititi thinks this is phoney. Self-deprecation 

We all have our pet peaves, but some things are universal. Sometimes you&#39;re just in a bad mood and get bugged by a friend, family or loved one, but sometimes there&#39;s something that always bugs you, no matter what mood you&#39;re...