One of the most stressful parts of traveling with friends is deciding who gets which sleeping arrangements.
In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a man asked if he's wrong for telling his friend she's not entitled to a king bed just because she's the only woman. He wrote:
So bit of context. Me and my three friends have booked a boy's trip down the beach because a few of our other friends will be down there. Well one of our friends invited his girlfriend (let’s call her J) without telling any of us till 3 days before the trip. She hangs with us a lot and we’re all sweet with her coming, however the issue is we booked a house with 3 beds, a king and two singles.
Me and J are quite close, J is texting me at the moment saying her and her partner will take the king and they’ll bring a blow mattress for the person who doesn’t get a single. This is where my question comes in, I told her that we would all put our names in a hat, and whoever gets picked first gets first pick of beds and so on and till last person takes the blow-up.
She has gotten very angry at me saying because she’s a woman and in a couple she deserves the king bed with her partner. I understand this point, but she wasn’t originally invited to this trip and no one wants to sleep on a blow-up mattress. So am I the AH for telling her she can’t claim the king bed?
RedOrm23 wrote:
NTA. Is the rent being divided 4 ways? Either way, it needed to have been agreed upon ahead of time. She is TA for trying to take over a bed with no prior discussion.
OP responded:
Thing is if he had asked if she could come and we got a bigger house there would no issue. We’re splitting 4 ways because she’s not working at the moment but had promised she’ll pay us back when she starts working again.
Lamacorn wrote:
NTA. It’s a friend's trip, not a couple trip. You are being nice in my opinion. I would tell your friend that J needs to stay home.
JB500000 wrote:
NTA. Although if he was my friend, he'd be roasted for bringing his gf to a boy's trip. That's a no-no.
WhyAmIStillHere86 wrote:
Frankly, there are already four of you. Person who isn’t paying gets the couch/air mattress because beds are a buy-in privilege. NTA.
UPDATE: Thanks everyone for the comments and appreciate all the advice. Things took a dramatic turn and my friend and J got into a massive fight about this and they now have broken up.
Clearly, OP's friend's plan to bring his GF fully backfired in all of the possible ways.