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<h2>Being a renter these days is more than a hassle - it&#39;s a life or death struggle. So, if you could help out friends in need, wouldn&#39;t you? For two couples, the answer wasn&#39;t so easy...</h2><p>Friends and neighbors fell into an emotional dispute when one couple offered to buy the other couple&#39;s apartment when eviction became a real possibility. The boyfriend&#39;s reaction to this proposal was quick and downright hostile. So the &quot;generous&quot; couple took to Reddit&#39;s <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/w57xe0/aita_for_offering_my_friends_to_buy_their/">Am I The As*hole</a> forum to see why their offer may have upset their friends so much. Here is their story, followed by Reddit&#39;s top rulings:</p><h2>&quot;AITA (Am I the as*hole) for offering my friends to buy their apartment and rent it out to them?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>My friend, Zoey, and her boyfriend rent an apartment near us. They love living there, but their landlord announced that he will sell it soon. Zoey and her boyfriend are devastated, they even talked to someone from the bank and sadly, they can&#39;t afford to buy the place.</p> </blockquote><h2>Most of us couldn&#39;t!</h2><blockquote> <p>My husband and I talked and realized that we have enough money to buy the apartment. I told Zoey and her boyfriend that we could buy it and they could keep living there. The only difference for them would be that they are sending the rent money to a different account from now on.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>That would solve one problem, but could possibly create another one...?</h2><blockquote> <p>Zoey&#39;s boyfriend lost it, he basically started yelling at us. He said he doesn&#39;t need us taking away his apartment then getting rich off on his rent money. He said something about us making <em>him</em> buy an apartment for us, because the mortgage will be paid with his rent and we would be using him.</p> </blockquote><h2>Well, would you keep his rent the same while you made a profit off the mortgage? Because if so, it is more of a business for you than a favor for them, technically speaking.</h2><blockquote> <p>He called us arrogant among other things and meanwhile I&#39;m baffled by his overreaction, I&#39;m wandering... Was our offer really that offensive? AITA (Am I the as*hole)?</p> </blockquote><h2>Obviously, this is a great lesson in: don&#39;t mix friends with finances! So, who was in the wrong? The boyfriend who flipped out, or the couple who had a lot of savings and hubris?</h2><p>A lot of Redditors were torn on the official ruling of who the real AH is, but most agreed that all parties dodged a bullet here.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Apprehensive-Jelly42/">Apprehensive-Jelly42</a> had this to say:</p><blockquote> <p>Some people, for whatever reason, think that paying rent to a stranger is just paying rent, but paying rent to friends and family is subsidizing their lives in a way that is unfair and abusive to the renter. (Ignore the fact that rent prices are ridiculously abusive right now)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/procrastinating_b/">procrastinating_b</a> brings up good points:</p><blockquote> <p>I mean you aren&rsquo;t the as*hole but don&rsquo;t mix business with pleasure. It&rsquo;s literally bound to change your relationship even if they are the perfect tenant and you are the perfect landlords.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Just to add, your husband and you don&rsquo;t sound like you&rsquo;ve done any research in to what a landlord needs etc just &lsquo;we have money, let&rsquo;s go&rsquo; and he&rsquo;s reacted like that rather than exposing why it was insulting. So ima say neither of you would be perfect.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NeedsMaintenance_/">NeedsMaintenance_</a> offered some first hand experience on the matter:</p><blockquote> <p>Yeah I made this mistake once. My wife and I were the tenants of a prior acquaintance and <em>that</em> was perfectly fine, no problems. But then that prior acquaintance/landlord sold the house to their daughter and her husband, who were close friends.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We (wife and I) agreed to stay on as their tenants once the property was sold, and that was our mistake. We should have just moved. What followed was a whole mess of then expecting us to put our friendship ahead of our own interests and vice versa.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>It was a really terrible and stressful time for everyone, and I don&#39;t think anyone was great in that situation, though obviously they were worse just by virtue of having more power in the situation as the landlords. After that episode, I think I just generally had a feeling of distrust of them, and that probably made me more unreasonable and on the offensive with them than I normally would be.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/happybanana134/">happybanana134</a> had this to add:</p><blockquote> <p>ESH (everyone sucks here). The boyfriend&#39;s reaction was over the top. But I&#39;ll be honest, I&#39;d feel SO uncomfortable if one of my friend&#39;s suggested this.</p> <p>1.) The &#39;only difference&#39; is a significant one. I don&#39;t want a friend to be my landlord. It would change our relationship and suddenly &#39;my&#39; place would become &#39;their&#39; place. Visits would feel like an inspection. I&#39;d never be able to talk freely about my home to my friend. Mixing friendship and business...not good.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>2.) When something sh*tty happens to me, I don&#39;t necessarily need to be &#39;rescued&#39;. And especially not when it&#39;s a solution that my friend would ultimately profit off.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/certain_people/">certain_people</a> agreed with the boyfriend in the story!</p><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s just generic anger at how renting works now. Rents are often bigger than mortgage payments, so you have tenants paying for the mortgage while being told they can&#39;t afford the place. So he&#39;s not entirely wrong. If they lived there for 30 years, they would have paid the entire mortgage and then some, but OP would have 100% ownership.</p> </blockquote><h2>And that&#39;s the way the money flows (up)!</h2><p>Maybe the couple looking to invest in property should have lead with a better deal for the renters ... like discounted rent, or a rent-to-own agreement. Paying your landlord&#39;s living with your rent might not be fun, but it&#39;s probably less awkward than just being a source of extra income to your friends.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Couple asks if they were wrong to offer to become their close friend's landlords.

Being a renter these days is more than a hassle - it&#39;s a life or death struggle. So, if you could help out friends in need, wouldn&#39;t you? For two couples, the answer wasn&#39;t so easy...Friends and neighbors fell into an emotional dispute when one couple offered to buy the other couple&#39;s apartment when eviction became a real possibility. The boyfriend&#39;s reaction to this proposal was quick and downright hostile. So the &quot;generous&quot; couple took to Reddit&#39;s Am I The As*hole forum to see why their offer may have upset their friends so much. Here is their story, followed by Reddit&#39;s top rulings:&quot;AITA (Am I the as*hole) for offering my friends to buy their apartment and rent it out to them?&quot; My friend, Zoey, and her boyfriend rent an apartment near us. They love living there, but their landlord announced that he will sell it soon. Zoey and her boyfriend are devastated, they even talked to someone from the bank and sadly, they can&#39;t afford to buy the place. Most of us couldn&#39;t! My husband and I talked and realized that we have enough money to buy the apartment. I told Zoey and her boyfriend that we could buy it and they could keep living there. The only difference for them would be that they are sending the rent money to a different account from now on. That would solve one problem, but could possibly create another one...? Zoey&#39;s boyfriend lost it, he basically started yelling at us. He said he doesn&#39;t need us taking away his apartment then getting rich off on his rent money. He said something about us making him buy an apartment for us, because the mortgage will be paid with his rent and we would be using him. Well, would you keep his rent the same while you made a profit off the mortgage? Because if so, it is more of a business for you than a favor for them, technically speaking. He called us arrogant among other things and meanwhile I&#39;m baffled by his overreaction, I&#39;m wandering... Was our offer really that offensive? AITA (Am I the as*hole)? Obviously, this is a great lesson in: don&#39;t mix friends with finances! So, who was in the wrong? The boyfriend who flipped out, or the couple who had a lot of savings and hubris?A lot of Redditors were torn on the official ruling of who the real AH is, but most agreed that all parties dodged a bullet here.Apprehensive-Jelly42 had this to say: Some people, for whatever reason, think that paying rent to a stranger is just paying rent, but paying rent to friends and family is subsidizing their lives in a way that is unfair and abusive to the renter. (Ignore the fact that rent prices are ridiculously abusive right now) And procrastinating_b brings up good points: I mean you aren&rsquo;t the as*hole but don&rsquo;t mix business with pleasure. It&rsquo;s literally bound to change your relationship even if they are the perfect tenant and you are the perfect landlords.  Just to add, your husband and you don&rsquo;t sound like you&rsquo;ve done any research in to what a landlord needs etc just &lsquo;we have money, let&rsquo;s go&rsquo; and he&rsquo;s reacted like that rather than exposing why it was insulting. So ima say neither of you would be perfect. And NeedsMaintenance_ offered some first hand experience on the matter: Yeah I made this mistake once. My wife and I were the tenants of a prior acquaintance and that was perfectly fine, no problems. But then that prior acquaintance/landlord sold the house to their daughter and her husband, who were close friends.  We (wife and I) agreed to stay on as their tenants once the property was sold, and that was our mistake. We should have just moved. What followed was a whole mess of then expecting us to put our friendship ahead of our own interests and vice versa.  It was a really terrible and stressful time for everyone, and I don&#39;t think anyone was great in that situation, though obviously they were worse just by virtue of having more power in the situation as the landlords. After that episode, I think I just generally had a feeling of distrust of them, and that probably made me more unreasonable and on the offensive with them than I normally would be. And happybanana134 had this to add: ESH (everyone sucks here). The boyfriend&#39;s reaction was over the top. But I&#39;ll be honest, I&#39;d feel SO uncomfortable if one of my friend&#39;s suggested this. 1.) The &#39;only difference&#39; is a significant one. I don&#39;t want a friend to be my landlord. It would change our relationship and suddenly &#39;my&#39; place would become &#39;their&#39; place. Visits would feel like an inspection. I&#39;d never be able to talk freely about my home to my friend. Mixing friendship and business...not good.  2.) When something sh*tty happens to me, I don&#39;t necessarily need to be &#39;rescued&#39;. And especially not when it&#39;s a solution that my friend would ultimately profit off. And certain_people agreed with the boyfriend in the story! It&#39;s just generic anger at how renting works now. Rents are often bigger than mortgage payments, so you have tenants paying for the mortgage while being told they can&#39;t afford the place. So he&#39;s not entirely wrong. If they lived there for 30 years, they would have paid the entire mortgage and then some, but OP would have 100% ownership. And that&#39;s the way the money flows (up)!Maybe the couple looking to invest in property should have lead with a better deal for the renters ... like discounted rent, or a rent-to-own agreement. Paying your landlord&#39;s living with your rent might not be fun, but it&#39;s probably less awkward than just being a source of extra income to your friends.

Being a renter these days is more than a hassle - it&#39;s a life or death struggle. So, if you could help out friends in need, wouldn&#39;t you? For two couples, the answer wasn&#39;t so easy...  Friends and neighbors fell into an...

Couple asks if they were wrong to offer to become their close friend's landlords.

Being a renter these days is more than a hassle - it's a life or death struggle. So, if you could help out friends in need, wouldn't you? For two couples, the answer wasn't so easy...

"AITA (Am I the as*hole) for offering my friends to buy their apartment and rent it out to them?"

Most of us couldn't!