Wife gets revenge on husband who suddenly stops making her lunch; says it was a 'favor.'
When this woman is annoyed with her husband, she asks Reddit:
'AITA for not cooking dinner for my husband?'
I (f27) am an elementary school teacher and have been with my husband (m26) for a few years.
We have this unspoken scheduled ritual where he makes me a lunch every night before he goes to bed for me to bring with me to school the following day and I make dinner for him when I get home (which is usually a good 2 hours before him so it also gives me time to unwind, shower, watch a movie etc.)
Well yesterday out of the blue, my husband didn't make me a lunch like he has been the past 2.5 years. I was a little shocked and when I asked him why, he said that it's not his responsibility and he's just been doing me 'favors'.
I can understand where he's coming from, but he's been doing it for almost 3 years,, it's just our thing. He's does lunch, I do dinner.
Due to that, I ended up being late to my job and I retaliated by not making dinner. I told him it was a 'favor' and if he so pleases, he can make himself some food. He proceeded to get upset, telling me I'm being an unreasonable b*tch and then went and got himself take out food.
Am I being an asshole? I feel like I'm being reasonable but I may just be seeing this in the wrong perspective.
Let's find out.
iwroteanyway writes:
NTA. But something is up. You need to ask him if this is just about the food, or whether he’s been speaking with someone who’s influencing his misogyny. Or, something entirely different could be up. Either way, you two need to communicate more in depth about this.
dizzydance writes:
NTA. I'm going to agree with someone above who said there may a third party (friend, coworker, random misogynistic tiktok, etc 🤣) that's influencing this situation somehow?
I can envision it pretty easily. For instance, maybe he was having a random convo with a coworker and they were complaining about all the things they do for their partner and he says 'right? I even make all my wife's lunches!'
And the coworker gives him a hard time saying some stupid comment like 'man, she's got you whipped!' and suddenly his comment taken completely out of context goes to his head.
Invisible/unspoken household task divisions are fertile ground for resentment imo. Better to have them clearly delineated. I ALWAYS thank my husband for bringing home or making dinner.
He does when I do as well. It feels a bit routine at times (like, surely he knows I appreciate it, why do I have to say it out loud?) but it's something we've kept up and I think it helps, even if it feels a bit silly at times.