Husband refuses to participate in wife's 'trashy' valentines day family tradition.
When this husband questions his wife's family tradition, he asks Reddit:
'WIBTA Breaking wife’s tradition?'
So my my wife and I recently got married and have our first Valentine’s Day coming up. She has this tradition that her and her family have dinner and get DQ. I really don’t want to do this.
I would like to have something more special and romantic. I asked politely if there was anyway we could change this year around, being it our first, to have something a little more intimate.
She immediately said no, saying that she doesn’t think there is anything more romantic than I honor her tradition and be apart of their tradition. She wanted no further discussion and that was that.
WIBTA if I took a harder stance and tried to talk her into not breaking the tradition this year? Or spoke to her family about my feelings about wanting something special in hopes they would side with me?
I don’t want to be a dick, but it would mean a lot to make it a special night. AITA?
Well, let's find out.
bocceburger writes:
NTA. Seems totally reasonable to start a new tradition in your new marriage. She should be more open to your ideas, not so rigid.
nationalprioirty729 disagrees:
YTA. You don't have to participate but you can't decide what your wife can and can't do. You've been married less than a year, you should still be very much in love and not need a specific day to be romantic.