Man tells wife she's too 'antisocial with his friends'; makes her cry.
When this husband doesn't like his wife's behavior with his friends on her birthday, he asks Reddit:
'AITA for making my wife cry on her birthday?'
Last night I was playing with a band at our local bar. My wife came in and immediately latched on to a band members wife in the corner of the bar and spent 2+ hours not leaving the area.
She has maybe met the band members wife one time. Maybe twenty feet away was a group of our friends, she says they are my friends and her acquaintances. She would not leave the corner of the bar and waved hello to them. It was not a crowded bar.
During a break I asked if she would go and say hello to our friends. She told me she waved. I again said it would be great if you said hello to them considering they came out to support the band.
A little back story, these same friends invited us to their house two weeks ago and we spent hours at their house hanging out.
After the gig I guess I was visibly annoyed but didn’t want to say anything because her birthday is today. When we got home she pressed me on it and I told her I felt it was pretty rude to not have the courtesy to say hello to our friends.
She challenged me saying why does she have to go and say hi instead of them coming up to her. It's not my problem she said. Well, they were already there sitting at a table and it was a group of people.
It made me very uncomfortable how cold it felt that she couldn’t take one minute to go and say hello and seemingly hid in the corner on purpose with someone who is a relative stranger.
Now it’s her birthday and she’s crying saying I was very rude. I don’t believe I was rude at all and just told her on her request how I was feeling.
I’m ready for your judgment. Am I the asshole?
Let's find out.
aleroratking writes:
YTA. She waved and was hanging out with someone she considered her friend. This was also her birthday and it was nice of her to spend that time supporting you. This is the case of making a big deal out of nothing. Just let it go.
finkplamingoes agrees:
She spends her birthday coming out to watch YOUR band, and you get upset with her for not interacting with certain people exactly like you want her to??…yeah, YTA.
If you’re even going to have this stupid conversation, maybe ask why she preferred your band members wife’s company over theirs, or why she views them as more your friends than hers.