'AITA for making the stuffing even though I was assigned other dishes?'
"AITA for making the stuffing even though I was assigned other dishes?"
My FIL passed away this year this was the first thanksgiving without him. He usually did all the cooking for holidays and was a really good cook.
This year his family decided everyone would make a dish and bring it. MIL sent a group text to organize what everyone was bringing. My husbands sister immediately said she would be making the stuffing from her dads recipe.
Everyone called other dishes by the time I got to the text I was assigned green beans, cranberry sauce , and sweet potatoes.
My husband loves this cornbread stuffing I make we were hoping I would get to make it this year. We are both sick of his sister always getting her way and no one consulted me I was just assigned whatever was left.
I asked if I could make the stuffing instead but his sister said she really wanted to make the stuffing recipe . MIL asks I just bring what was assigned. I decided screw it my husband wants it so I decided to make my stuffing anyway.
I showed up with my stuffing and at dinner we had a lot of stuffing, rolls, turkey, liquor and dessert. MIL and sister were upset with us for not bringing what he were assigned and thanksgiving dinner was mostly stuffing.
As we were leaving MIL asked why we couldn’t just go along with things this year but I feel like I should have been consulted about what I wanted to make just because his sister needed to have her way. AITA?
Here's what people had to say to OP:
widefeetwelcome writes:
YTA. If you’d made the stuffing AND the sides you’d been assigned that’d be fine, or made sure someone else would make those things. But you went rogue and it sounds like the dinner was just meat and bread based dishes. Nobody wants that.
SG131 writes:
Also, explain to me how OP thinks she wasn’t consulted. It was a GROUP text. She was included she was just the last to respond. It’s not like they had a secret meeting without her and then assigned her what to bring. She was just last to respond.
equivalentcolalr59 writes:
The funny thing about this is OP complaining she wasn’t consulted when in fact nobody was, a list was sent out and everybody had fair chance to call dibs but because OP didn’t get there first that’s somehow a personal slight against her and nobody should of decided without her or she should of got what she wanted.
and everyone else got last choice even though and I don’t mean this as a slight against in laws but it wasn’t her father that died it was SIL and she wanted to do something in memory of HER dead dad but OP just can’t handle not being the centre of everyone’s world.
YTA. FIL died and your SIL wanted to make his stuffing, you decide to get offended by that… weird flex but okay.
The main issue is your whole attitude, you were a guest in their home for the first thanksgiving since his death and you just decided to do whatever the f^%& you wanted instead of following a really simple request and bringing the things you were asked to bring. I don’t get it and you were incredibly rude.
Youre the a^&%ole. Damn. I was so ready to defend you because the entire time I was under the assumption you also made what you were asked to. That maybe the sister in law was just being a dick saying her stuffing could be the only stuffing. But you didn’t. A^&*ole. Spite move.
There’s never too much stuffing and multiple options are great. But by not making what you were asked to first, yeah. Huge a%&$ole. Those things are all important too and no one got them. Way to go. Get over your ego. You f(*&)d up thanksgiving your mother in law was right to call you out for it You go apologize to everyone involved. And on the phone too. Not text. Fall on your sword