When this man is upset with his wife's behavior, he asks Reddit:
I feel bad right now but here we go. I work for a pretty pretentious company where everyone tries to kiss the boss's ass. We have a huge holiday party every year. It is always a fancy venue, cocktail attire, and great food.
When I first started working there it was something I was excited to take my wife to, but it is now something I dread.
My wife gets herself so stressed over it that she is miserable for weeks leading up to it. She agonizes over what to wear, always goes over budget, and spends the whole day on hair and makeup.
Then when we get there she honestly embarrasses me (and again i feel bad) Every year she tries so hard to befriend my boss's wife who clearly wants nothing to do with her and literally looks at her husband like save me.
I always feel my boss is laughing at me. Then she spends the next couple days making fun of my boss's wife and calling her a bitch which I'm terrified is going to get back to them, because you know how gossip works. It's all very hard for me to watch.
I have tried to talk to her about her behavior, but she gets defensive and nothing changes. This year I just couldn't take it. I told her there wasn't going to be a party, just a lunch during the work day for employees only.
My plan was to go alone and make an excuse for her. I hate lying but I felt I'd given her multiple chances to change her behavior, so what am I going to do. At this point she is hurting my career and hurting herself mentally.
Unfortunately she found out and is obviously furious. She feels i took away a huge night from her, and is very hurt that I am embarrassed by her behavior. AITA?
Maybe not very popular, but I say NTA.
You have talked to your wife several times about this, and still she doesn't listen.
It could harm your career.
Talk to her again and keep repeating why you did this, then maybe she will get the hint.
At this point she is hurting my career and hurting herself mentally.' NTA. You're being responsible. Tell her you're sorry for lying. Take her to a dolled-up expensive outing and do it annually, the week after the office party.
Of course she's hurt and you shouldn't have lied. But, some people need saving from themselves. And, of course, you need to protect your career for both you AND your wife.
Good luck, OP. Sorry you won't be having s*x for the next two months....(he, he).