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<p>Even in 2019, when it comes to haircuts, the gender binary often prevails. Hair salons tend to cater to women, while barbers tend to cater to men. And while women with &quot;male&quot; haircuts and men with &quot;female&quot; haircuts are starting to bridge this divide, they sometimes receive pushback from the establishments themselves.</p><p>A woman in her 20&#39;s with &quot;very short hair&quot; who describes herself as &quot;very masculine/butch looking&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dyd8zi/aita_for_shaming_a_barber_online_that_refused_to/" target="_blank">shared</a> on Reddit what happened when a barber refused to serve her because of her gender.</p><h2>The woman says she has been getting her hair cut at a barber for the &quot;past couple years&quot; because it&#39;s &quot;cheaper&quot; and they don&#39;t try to push her into getting a more &quot;feminine&quot; cut.</h2><blockquote> <p>I am a woman in my 20s who has very short hair. It isn&#39;t just short, it is straight up a men&#39;s cut, as I am very masculine/butch looking in general. For the past couple years I have been getting my hair cut at a barber, since it&#39;s cheaper and they never try to push me to have a more feminine pixie cut.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Recently, her barber moved away so she walked into a new barbershop and requested a haircut. The barber looked at her &quot;strangely&quot; and refused, on the grounds that they &quot;don&#39;t do women&#39;s haircuts.&quot; He then directed her to go to a salon.</h2><p>She says she was shocked since she lives in a &quot;big diverse city&quot; and also women having short hair is not uncommon.</p><blockquote> <p>My barber moved away recently, so I have been looking for someone new. At the recommendation of my male friend, I found a place that looked good. I walked in and requested a haircut, and the barber looked at me strangely. He said they don&#39;t do women&#39;s haircuts. I clarified that I just wanted a men&#39;s barber haircut, but still he refused, telling me to go to a salon. I was shocked, since this is a big diverse city and short hair on women isn&#39;t THAT uncommon.</p> </blockquote><h2>After getting kicked out of the barbershop, the woman felt &quot;embarrassed and shocked.&quot; So she posted on the LGBT Facebook page for her city, writing: &quot;gender non-conforming women, don&#39;t bother with this barber. He doesn&#39;t serve us.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>After he kicked me out, I felt embarrassed and shocked. I went on the LGBT Facebook page for my city and made a post that said &quot;gender non-conforming women, don&#39;t bother with this barber. He doesn&#39;t serve us.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The post went viral, and one of her friends told her it was &quot;too much&quot; and that she could have jeopardized a small business. So she posted on Reddit to ask if what she did was wrong.</h2><blockquote> <p>The post went kind of viral in the group, getting thousands of comments and likes. One of my friends saw the post and told me it was too much, and that I could seriously hurt a small business. I thought it was appropriate but as the post gets bigger I&#39;m having doubts. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Most commenters are arguing that she didn&#39;t do anything wrong, since her review wasn&#39;t spiteful&mdash;she was simply sharing her experience.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/wobblebase/">wobblebase</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You left an accurate review based on them denying service.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SoupBucketeer/">SoupBucketeer</a> adds that it&#39;s the barber&#39;s fault for making a &quot;bad business choice&quot;:</p><blockquote> <p>The dude made a bad business choice. Instead of giving someone a haircut he told you to go to a competitor. Instead of seeing this as an opportunity to pick up more loyal clientele he effectively insured the opposite. He made the choice to drive away a potential customer. It&#39;s entirely on him as a barber to catch heat for turning away prospective clients. You were just communicating that non-conforming folks with short hair clearly aren&#39;t welcome at that establishment. NTA.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/chartreuse_chimay/">chartreuse_chimay</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>You know what hurts a small business? Turning away customers.</p> </blockquote><p>People are sharing stories about why more barbershops should give &quot;men&#39;s&quot; haircuts to women (and charge them the same).</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/kckaaaate/">kckaaaate</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>THIS. I have a friend who&#39;s a hairdresser. A few years back a butch lady came in and asked for what is clearly a mens cut, so he charged her for a mens cut. She was SO used to being charged for a woman&#39;s cut despite clearly getting men&#39;s cuts, that she told ALL her butch friends. His business BLEW up because of it, and he went from having a handful of loyal customers to having basically the whole butch community of our city going to him. Make decisions, live with the outcome!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Trania86/">Trania86</a> agrees, writing:</p><blockquote> <p>More hairdressers should do this. Or at least - have prices depending on the cut and length. I understand them charging more for long hair that needs a lot of product and more time vs. a pixie cut. But I don&#39;t like being charged more because of my gender - there are lots of men out there with longer hair.</p> </blockquote><p><br /> Seems fair to me! There&#39;s no reason that a person&#39;s gender or sex should determine how much they pay for a haircut. What do you think?</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong to post bad review of barbershop that won't give give her a 'men's' haircut.

Even in 2019, when it comes to haircuts, the gender binary often prevails. Hair salons tend to cater to women, while barbers tend to cater to men. And while women with &quot;male&quot; haircuts and men with &quot;female&quot; haircuts are starting to bridge this divide, they sometimes receive pushback from the establishments themselves.A woman in her 20&#39;s with &quot;very short hair&quot; who describes herself as &quot;very masculine/butch looking&quot; shared on Reddit what happened when a barber refused to serve her because of her gender.The woman says she has been getting her hair cut at a barber for the &quot;past couple years&quot; because it&#39;s &quot;cheaper&quot; and they don&#39;t try to push her into getting a more &quot;feminine&quot; cut. I am a woman in my 20s who has very short hair. It isn&#39;t just short, it is straight up a men&#39;s cut, as I am very masculine/butch looking in general. For the past couple years I have been getting my hair cut at a barber, since it&#39;s cheaper and they never try to push me to have a more feminine pixie cut. Recently, her barber moved away so she walked into a new barbershop and requested a haircut. The barber looked at her &quot;strangely&quot; and refused, on the grounds that they &quot;don&#39;t do women&#39;s haircuts.&quot; He then directed her to go to a salon.She says she was shocked since she lives in a &quot;big diverse city&quot; and also women having short hair is not uncommon. My barber moved away recently, so I have been looking for someone new. At the recommendation of my male friend, I found a place that looked good. I walked in and requested a haircut, and the barber looked at me strangely. He said they don&#39;t do women&#39;s haircuts. I clarified that I just wanted a men&#39;s barber haircut, but still he refused, telling me to go to a salon. I was shocked, since this is a big diverse city and short hair on women isn&#39;t THAT uncommon. After getting kicked out of the barbershop, the woman felt &quot;embarrassed and shocked.&quot; So she posted on the LGBT Facebook page for her city, writing: &quot;gender non-conforming women, don&#39;t bother with this barber. He doesn&#39;t serve us.&quot; After he kicked me out, I felt embarrassed and shocked. I went on the LGBT Facebook page for my city and made a post that said &quot;gender non-conforming women, don&#39;t bother with this barber. He doesn&#39;t serve us.&quot; The post went viral, and one of her friends told her it was &quot;too much&quot; and that she could have jeopardized a small business. So she posted on Reddit to ask if what she did was wrong. The post went kind of viral in the group, getting thousands of comments and likes. One of my friends saw the post and told me it was too much, and that I could seriously hurt a small business. I thought it was appropriate but as the post gets bigger I&#39;m having doubts. AITA? Most commenters are arguing that she didn&#39;t do anything wrong, since her review wasn&#39;t spiteful&mdash;she was simply sharing her experience.wobblebase writes: NTA. You left an accurate review based on them denying service.  SoupBucketeer adds that it&#39;s the barber&#39;s fault for making a &quot;bad business choice&quot;: The dude made a bad business choice. Instead of giving someone a haircut he told you to go to a competitor. Instead of seeing this as an opportunity to pick up more loyal clientele he effectively insured the opposite. He made the choice to drive away a potential customer. It&#39;s entirely on him as a barber to catch heat for turning away prospective clients. You were just communicating that non-conforming folks with short hair clearly aren&#39;t welcome at that establishment. NTA.  And chartreuse_chimay writes: You know what hurts a small business? Turning away customers. People are sharing stories about why more barbershops should give &quot;men&#39;s&quot; haircuts to women (and charge them the same).kckaaaate writes: THIS. I have a friend who&#39;s a hairdresser. A few years back a butch lady came in and asked for what is clearly a mens cut, so he charged her for a mens cut. She was SO used to being charged for a woman&#39;s cut despite clearly getting men&#39;s cuts, that she told ALL her butch friends. His business BLEW up because of it, and he went from having a handful of loyal customers to having basically the whole butch community of our city going to him. Make decisions, live with the outcome! And Trania86 agrees, writing: More hairdressers should do this. Or at least - have prices depending on the cut and length. I understand them charging more for long hair that needs a lot of product and more time vs. a pixie cut. But I don&#39;t like being charged more because of my gender - there are lots of men out there with longer hair.  Seems fair to me! There&#39;s no reason that a person&#39;s gender or sex should determine how much they pay for a haircut. What do you think?

Even in 2019, when it comes to haircuts, the gender binary often prevails. Hair salons tend to cater to women, while barbers tend to cater to men. And while women with &quot;male&quot; haircuts and men with &quot;female&quot; haircuts are...