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<p>&quot;My house, my rules&quot; can be a<a href="https://www.someecards.com/news/news/man-shares-list-house-rules-airbnb-seat-number-one/"> slightly inconsiderate mindset </a>in the best of times. And then there&#39;s this mess.</p><p>A woman posted on Reddit asking if it was normal for her boyfriend&#39;s mom to insist that while staying with the family, she must drive to a separate location to dispose of her used tampons and pads.</p><h2>Girl, that is <em>so</em> not normal.</h2><p>The poor soul posted her story of woe on Reddit <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ctmhr8/aita_for_disposing_of_copious_amounts_of_sanitary/">under the throwaway username DestroyerOfTampons</a> &mdash; at least she hasn&#39;t thrown away her sense of humor!</p><h2>Girlfriend has a particularly heavy flow, which is normal for many humans and nothing to be ashamed of.</h2><blockquote> <p>So I (24F) was visiting with my boyfriend&#39;s (26M) family and was having a particularly heavy period. I sometimes have to wear pads in addition to tampons when it gets this heavy to prevent leakage from destroying my underwear. I can&#39;t control it-I&#39;m on birth control and have spoken to my doctor but it is what it is.</p> <p>Anyway, BF and I are visiting with his family and I&#39;m trying to not go full Carrie with the bleeding so I have to change my tampon/pad every few hours. There&#39;s a guest bathroom that BF and I are using (staying at his parent&#39;s house) and there&#39;s a trashcan with a lid. Nobody but guests uses this bathroom.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>After a long day of period-having, GF sat down for dinner with the fam.</p><h2>BF&#39;s mom opened with a period joke, bizarrely, then made the sinister request:</h2><blockquote> <p>We&#39;re having dinner (BF, me, his mom, his dad, and his 14 year old sister) and my BF&#39;s mother says that she made steak cause she knows I can use the iron (lol). That was a bit embarrassing but whatever. But then she decides to use that as a segue to ask me to dispose of my sanitary products somewhere off their property.</p> </blockquote><p>This is an especially insane request because the family &quot; lives in a very rural area-the closest neighbor is a good 5 minute walk (on a dirt road) and the nearest store is ~10 minute drive.&quot;</p><p>So girlfriend is being asked to either walk five minutes to throw away her used pads at a NEIGHBOR&#39;S HOUSE (!!!) or <em>drive 10 minutes into town</em>.</p><p>For those who aren&#39;t in the know: someone with a heavy period might need to change pads or tampons once an hour. This means the GF would basically be shuttling back and forth from the parents&#39; house to a trash can every half hour. It&#39;s inconceivable, TBH.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>The girlfriend specified to the mom that she always takes care to wrap up her period stuff in toilet paper and dispose of it properly. She also pointed out there were no children or animals in the house that could accidentally unleash the contents of the garbage can. So what was the issue?</p><h2>The mom flipped out in response.</h2><blockquote> <p>She says that she just doesn&#39;t want &quot;toxic waste&quot; in the house. I&#39;m starting to feel uncomfortable and also wondering how exactly they handle BF&#39;s younger sister&#39;s period. But I don&#39;t want to embarrass her and the conversation&#39;s already ridiculous enough to be having at dinner that I quietly ask if we can talk later.</p> </blockquote><h2>Toxic waste?! It gets even worse:</h2><blockquote> <p>BF&#39;s mom erupts-she starts spewing this angry rant probably more intensely than my lady parts are spewing blood. Says I&#39;m disrespecting their house and their rules and if I can&#39;t comply, I need to leave.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>DestroyerOfTampons checked into a hotel 45 minutes away so she could bleed in peace. Menstruation hut, anyone?</h2><blockquote> <p>I went to a hotel about 45 minutes away (it was the closest) for the last nights and enjoyed room service while my period finished running its course. BF stayed with his family which I don&#39;t blame him for, we live on the other side of the country.</p> </blockquote><p>And the boyfriend decided to stay with his family. Girl... DUMP HIM.</p><h2>Now the trip is ruined (obviously) and the girlfriend is questioning her sanity.</h2><blockquote> <p>However, the whole thing has now caused a huge rift. BF&#39;s family despises me and while BF kept quiet and tried to just keep the peace, he&#39;s in a really tough position with his family now. They&#39;re saying that if I couldn&#39;t compromise for something so small, then I&#39;ll be a terrible partner down the line.</p> <p>[Am I the a-hole] for getting a hotel instead of driving to a trash area every few hours? I honestly don&#39;t know what else I could have done, other than hoarding my used tampons and pads in my luggage, which seems horribly unsanitary and honestly fucking weird.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>It&#39;s sad to see that the girl&#39;s been so thoroughly gaslit that she thinks she could be anywhere near in the wrong in this situation.</p><h2>And thankfully, Reddit agrees: the girlfriend did nothing wrong.</h2><p>&quot;girl, run away from bf and his insane family like your tampon string is on fire,&quot; wrote <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ctmhr8/aita_for_disposing_of_copious_amounts_of_sanitary/exlucqd/">USMCWife647</a>.</p><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ctmhr8/aita_for_disposing_of_copious_amounts_of_sanitary/exlur9u/">blue_morpho_and_kano </a>says that the boyfriend is a dud: &quot;If your bf can&#39;t defend you from his family&#39;s period-inspired, reality-denying rage-fest, then HE&#39;S already a terrible partner, and his family will make terrible in-laws down the line.&quot;</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ctmhr8/aita_for_disposing_of_copious_amounts_of_sanitary/exm0liq/">EllyStar</a> agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>Your boyfriend is not in any type of difficult position. This was an outrageous demand, and I can understand that he might have been a little bit stunned or taken aback in the moment, but he let you stay at a hotel for three DAYS?</p> <p>Consider yourself blessed that this family&rsquo;s crazy was exposed so early and get out.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ctmhr8/aita_for_disposing_of_copious_amounts_of_sanitary/exlve59/">EnglishTeachers</a> suggests the couple get professional help before moving forward with their relationship:</p><blockquote> <p>Is future-husband going to be okay with visiting his parents without you from now on? I certainly wouldn&rsquo;t go back, and I wouldn&rsquo;t allow my kids to go, either. YOU can stand up for yourself against his psycho mother, but your kids won&rsquo;t be able to.</p> <p>She decided to call you out about your cycle in public, in front of the family, at dinner. She asked you to leave simply because you left pads in the trash - where they&rsquo;re supposed to go!</p> <p>Honestly OP you and him need some premarital counseling about this issue.</p> </blockquote><h2>You heard them, DestroyerOfTampons: Run for the hills away from this insane family.</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Boyfriend's mom tells woman she must leave the house to dispose of tampons and pads.

&quot;My house, my rules&quot; can be a slightly inconsiderate mindset in the best of times. And then there&#39;s this mess.A woman posted on Reddit asking if it was normal for her boyfriend&#39;s mom to insist that while staying with the family, she must drive to a separate location to dispose of her used tampons and pads.Girl, that is so not normal.The poor soul posted her story of woe on Reddit under the throwaway username DestroyerOfTampons &mdash; at least she hasn&#39;t thrown away her sense of humor!Girlfriend has a particularly heavy flow, which is normal for many humans and nothing to be ashamed of. So I (24F) was visiting with my boyfriend&#39;s (26M) family and was having a particularly heavy period. I sometimes have to wear pads in addition to tampons when it gets this heavy to prevent leakage from destroying my underwear. I can&#39;t control it-I&#39;m on birth control and have spoken to my doctor but it is what it is. Anyway, BF and I are visiting with his family and I&#39;m trying to not go full Carrie with the bleeding so I have to change my tampon/pad every few hours. There&#39;s a guest bathroom that BF and I are using (staying at his parent&#39;s house) and there&#39;s a trashcan with a lid. Nobody but guests uses this bathroom. After a long day of period-having, GF sat down for dinner with the fam.BF&#39;s mom opened with a period joke, bizarrely, then made the sinister request: We&#39;re having dinner (BF, me, his mom, his dad, and his 14 year old sister) and my BF&#39;s mother says that she made steak cause she knows I can use the iron (lol). That was a bit embarrassing but whatever. But then she decides to use that as a segue to ask me to dispose of my sanitary products somewhere off their property. This is an especially insane request because the family &quot; lives in a very rural area-the closest neighbor is a good 5 minute walk (on a dirt road) and the nearest store is ~10 minute drive.&quot;So girlfriend is being asked to either walk five minutes to throw away her used pads at a NEIGHBOR&#39;S HOUSE (!!!) or drive 10 minutes into town.For those who aren&#39;t in the know: someone with a heavy period might need to change pads or tampons once an hour. This means the GF would basically be shuttling back and forth from the parents&#39; house to a trash can every half hour. It&#39;s inconceivable, TBH.The girlfriend specified to the mom that she always takes care to wrap up her period stuff in toilet paper and dispose of it properly. She also pointed out there were no children or animals in the house that could accidentally unleash the contents of the garbage can. So what was the issue?The mom flipped out in response. She says that she just doesn&#39;t want &quot;toxic waste&quot; in the house. I&#39;m starting to feel uncomfortable and also wondering how exactly they handle BF&#39;s younger sister&#39;s period. But I don&#39;t want to embarrass her and the conversation&#39;s already ridiculous enough to be having at dinner that I quietly ask if we can talk later. Toxic waste?! It gets even worse: BF&#39;s mom erupts-she starts spewing this angry rant probably more intensely than my lady parts are spewing blood. Says I&#39;m disrespecting their house and their rules and if I can&#39;t comply, I need to leave. DestroyerOfTampons checked into a hotel 45 minutes away so she could bleed in peace. Menstruation hut, anyone? I went to a hotel about 45 minutes away (it was the closest) for the last nights and enjoyed room service while my period finished running its course. BF stayed with his family which I don&#39;t blame him for, we live on the other side of the country. And the boyfriend decided to stay with his family. Girl... DUMP HIM.Now the trip is ruined (obviously) and the girlfriend is questioning her sanity. However, the whole thing has now caused a huge rift. BF&#39;s family despises me and while BF kept quiet and tried to just keep the peace, he&#39;s in a really tough position with his family now. They&#39;re saying that if I couldn&#39;t compromise for something so small, then I&#39;ll be a terrible partner down the line. [Am I the a-hole] for getting a hotel instead of driving to a trash area every few hours? I honestly don&#39;t know what else I could have done, other than hoarding my used tampons and pads in my luggage, which seems horribly unsanitary and honestly fucking weird. It&#39;s sad to see that the girl&#39;s been so thoroughly gaslit that she thinks she could be anywhere near in the wrong in this situation.And thankfully, Reddit agrees: the girlfriend did nothing wrong.&quot;girl, run away from bf and his insane family like your tampon string is on fire,&quot; wrote USMCWife647.And blue_morpho_and_kano says that the boyfriend is a dud: &quot;If your bf can&#39;t defend you from his family&#39;s period-inspired, reality-denying rage-fest, then HE&#39;S already a terrible partner, and his family will make terrible in-laws down the line.&quot;EllyStar agrees: Your boyfriend is not in any type of difficult position. This was an outrageous demand, and I can understand that he might have been a little bit stunned or taken aback in the moment, but he let you stay at a hotel for three DAYS? Consider yourself blessed that this family&rsquo;s crazy was exposed so early and get out. EnglishTeachers suggests the couple get professional help before moving forward with their relationship: Is future-husband going to be okay with visiting his parents without you from now on? I certainly wouldn&rsquo;t go back, and I wouldn&rsquo;t allow my kids to go, either. YOU can stand up for yourself against his psycho mother, but your kids won&rsquo;t be able to. She decided to call you out about your cycle in public, in front of the family, at dinner. She asked you to leave simply because you left pads in the trash - where they&rsquo;re supposed to go! Honestly OP you and him need some premarital counseling about this issue. You heard them, DestroyerOfTampons: Run for the hills away from this insane family.

&quot;My house, my rules&quot; can be a slightly inconsiderate mindset in the best of times. And then there&#39;s this mess.  A woman posted on Reddit asking if it was normal for her boyfriend&#39;s mom to insist that while staying with...