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<p>Wedding etiquette is complex and ever-changing, but there are some things we can all agree are tacky.</p><p>At least, you might think that&#39;s the case &mdash; until one of your friends goes completely off the rails. One woman <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/es1zp2/aita_for_telling_my_friend_her_plan_was_tacky/">is asking Reddit for advice</a> about a friend&#39;s d&eacute;class&eacute; wedding behavior, after the friend talked about hassling people for gifts when she didn&#39;t even invite them to her nuptials.</p><h2>It starts innocently enough, with the bride&#39;s small, 12-person wedding:</h2><blockquote> <p>A friend (29F) of mine (26F) got married last fall, the wedding was tiny, only 12 people, mostly their parents and siblings, so I was not at the wedding. She sent out an engagement announcement/save the date thing.</p> </blockquote><h2>It gets a little weird when the bride sends out &quot;save the date&quot; cards to people who aren&#39;t going to be invited &mdash; along with a registry link:</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m not sure how to describe it since it was kind of a hybrid of the two, with a link to their registry, which was just a honeymoon donation fund, she&#39;s also posted links to the registry several times on her social media and IG stories.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Guests who weren&#39;t invited unsurprisingly decided to pass on donating to the couple:</h2><blockquote> <p>We got drinks last week and she was complaining that almost no one had donated to the fund and they were having to scale their planned trip to Europe back. At first I sympathized, but then she said she wanted to send out an email to the friends and family that she had sent the announcement to, but not invited to the wedding, that the registry was still up.</p> </blockquote><h2>Scaling back their Europe trip? Say it ain&#39;t so! The friend told the bride that sending an email with <em>another</em> link to the registry would be pretty uncouth:</h2><blockquote> <p>I told her I thought that sounded kind of tacky, and that she shouldn&#39;t expect gifts from people she hadn&#39;t invited to her wedding. She got offended and said that she shouldn&#39;t have to invite people to her wedding is she didn&#39;t want to, which I agree with... but I still think it&#39;s tacky to expect them to give you money for a trip to Europe.</p> </blockquote><h2>Now they&#39;re not speaking and the friend wonders if she&#39;s in the wrong:</h2><blockquote> <p>Anyway, we haven&#39;t spoken since last week and I&#39;m beginning to wonder if I was the [a**hole]?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>It&#39;s pretty unanimous that the friend was being gross.</h2><p>Current bride <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/es1zp2/aita_for_telling_my_friend_her_plan_was_tacky/ff7amle/">onelonelystringbean</a> is gobsmacked by the gall:</p><blockquote> <p>As someone who is currently planning their wedding this blew my mind.</p> <p>&quot;We aren&#39;t close enough to invite you to our wedding, but we&#39;re definitely close enough to ask you for money for our wedding/honeymoon.&quot;</p> <p>You don&#39;t get to have it both ways. Tacky AF.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/es1zp2/aita_for_telling_my_friend_her_plan_was_tacky/ff7ap0o/">Sh3kk_Wpg </a>agreed that you don&#39;t get the ease of a small wedding with the payday of a big one:</p><blockquote> <p>No one should expect to throw an extremely small wedding but expect gifts and money from people who were not invited. That is very tacky. You may have hurt your friend&#39;s feelings but it was the truth.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/es1zp2/aita_for_telling_my_friend_her_plan_was_tacky/ff7atwh/">LucyWritesSmut</a> put it succinctly:</p><blockquote> <p>At least feed me rubbery chicken if you&rsquo;re gonna mug me.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/es1zp2/aita_for_telling_my_friend_her_plan_was_tacky/ff7qaom/">I_like_it_yo</a> thinks the friend could&#39;ve confronted the bride even earlier than she did:</p><blockquote> <p>Lollll what was tacky was sending a link to the registry / donate to the fund to people who aren&#39;t even invited!! Who does that?! NTA</p> </blockquote><p>Still, even though OP is right in this situation, that doesn&#39;t mean the bride will change her tune &mdash; or ever speak to her again.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for saying bride's plan to get gifts from non-guests was 'tacky.'

Wedding etiquette is complex and ever-changing, but there are some things we can all agree are tacky.At least, you might think that&#39;s the case &mdash; until one of your friends goes completely off the rails. One woman is asking Reddit for advice about a friend&#39;s d&eacute;class&eacute; wedding behavior, after the friend talked about hassling people for gifts when she didn&#39;t even invite them to her nuptials.It starts innocently enough, with the bride&#39;s small, 12-person wedding: A friend (29F) of mine (26F) got married last fall, the wedding was tiny, only 12 people, mostly their parents and siblings, so I was not at the wedding. She sent out an engagement announcement/save the date thing. It gets a little weird when the bride sends out &quot;save the date&quot; cards to people who aren&#39;t going to be invited &mdash; along with a registry link: I&#39;m not sure how to describe it since it was kind of a hybrid of the two, with a link to their registry, which was just a honeymoon donation fund, she&#39;s also posted links to the registry several times on her social media and IG stories. Guests who weren&#39;t invited unsurprisingly decided to pass on donating to the couple: We got drinks last week and she was complaining that almost no one had donated to the fund and they were having to scale their planned trip to Europe back. At first I sympathized, but then she said she wanted to send out an email to the friends and family that she had sent the announcement to, but not invited to the wedding, that the registry was still up. Scaling back their Europe trip? Say it ain&#39;t so! The friend told the bride that sending an email with another link to the registry would be pretty uncouth: I told her I thought that sounded kind of tacky, and that she shouldn&#39;t expect gifts from people she hadn&#39;t invited to her wedding. She got offended and said that she shouldn&#39;t have to invite people to her wedding is she didn&#39;t want to, which I agree with... but I still think it&#39;s tacky to expect them to give you money for a trip to Europe. Now they&#39;re not speaking and the friend wonders if she&#39;s in the wrong: Anyway, we haven&#39;t spoken since last week and I&#39;m beginning to wonder if I was the [a**hole]? It&#39;s pretty unanimous that the friend was being gross.Current bride onelonelystringbean is gobsmacked by the gall: As someone who is currently planning their wedding this blew my mind. &quot;We aren&#39;t close enough to invite you to our wedding, but we&#39;re definitely close enough to ask you for money for our wedding/honeymoon.&quot; You don&#39;t get to have it both ways. Tacky AF. Sh3kk_Wpg agreed that you don&#39;t get the ease of a small wedding with the payday of a big one: No one should expect to throw an extremely small wedding but expect gifts and money from people who were not invited. That is very tacky. You may have hurt your friend&#39;s feelings but it was the truth. LucyWritesSmut put it succinctly: At least feed me rubbery chicken if you&rsquo;re gonna mug me. I_like_it_yo thinks the friend could&#39;ve confronted the bride even earlier than she did: Lollll what was tacky was sending a link to the registry / donate to the fund to people who aren&#39;t even invited!! Who does that?! NTA Still, even though OP is right in this situation, that doesn&#39;t mean the bride will change her tune &mdash; or ever speak to her again.

Wedding etiquette is complex and ever-changing, but there are some things we can all agree are tacky.  At least, you might think that&#39;s the case &mdash; until one of your friends goes completely off the rails. One woman is asking...

Woman asks if she's wrong for saying bride's plan to get gifts from non-guests was 'tacky.'

It starts innocently enough, with the bride's small, 12-person wedding:

It gets a little weird when the bride sends out "save the date" cards to people who aren't going to be invited — along with a registry link: