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<p>It&#39;s nice to be inclusive when a sibling&#39;s divorce leads <a href="https://www.someecards.com/news/news/bride-uninvite-12-year-old-stepdaughter-wedding/">your extended family to become blended</a>. But one bride is in a bit of a pickle because her brother decided to cheat on his wife and get his mistress pregnant &mdash; and now he wants to bring the mistress to the wedding.</p><p>A Reddit user with a throwaway account <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cu4bdr/aita_for_not_letting_my_brother_taking_his/">posted on the &quot;Am I the A-Hole?&quot; subreddit</a> about the situation.</p><p>&quot;My older half brother who I didn&rsquo;t know growing up and lives out of state recently went through a very nasty divorce that he actually hid from me for about a year,&quot; she wrote. &quot;It all basically goes back to my brother turning very cold hearted towards his wife, eventually cheating on her followed up by lots of mind games.&quot;</p><p>Long story short: he cheated and got another woman pregnant. Now the brother and his wife are divorced. The bride is still &quot;extremely close&quot; to the brother&#39;s ex, and &quot;loves her deeply.&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s where it gets (even more) dramatic:</h2><blockquote> <p>I am getting married in two months and I invited both my brother and his ex wife to my wedding. His ex has made it pretty clear she does not intend to go to the wedding because my brother will be in attendance which I understand. While my brother has recently been pestering me to allow him to take his new girlfriend to the wedding. His new girlfriend is the same girl he cheated with which makes me uncomfortable as well as my other sisters.</p> </blockquote><h2>The bride told her brother that his girlfriend was persona non grata at the wedding.</h2><p>He was okay with it at first, but now he keeps asking if she can come &mdash; and the bride <em>just</em> found out she&#39;s actually six months pregnant.</p><blockquote> <p>Today he gave me an ultimatum that if she can&rsquo;t go he will not go. I expressed to him that if that&rsquo;s how he felt about it I would be sad by his decision but would understand but I wasn&rsquo;t changing my mind. As soon as he saw I wasn&rsquo;t backing off he took it back and than confessed she is 6months pregnant. This came as a shocker, I congratulated him but said that didn&rsquo;t change my mind and the conversation was over. One of my sisters says I&rsquo;m an asshole for not letting her go considering now she will be the mother to our niece or nephew while my other sister says she shouldn&rsquo;t go to the wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The bride also says she&#39;d be fine with meeting the girlfriend &mdash; but the brother swears the girlfriend has no time to meet before the wedding.</h2><blockquote> <p>It&rsquo;s important to note my sisters and I have no issue with meeting her in general, we just want it to be in a neutral situation not at the wedding. I feel like it&rsquo;s ridiculous to meet her for the first time at my wedding because of how busy I will be and for whatever reason my brother says we can not meet her prior due to scheduling. I honestly just don&rsquo;t want wedding day drama.</p> <p>Am I the asshole for not letting my brother take his pregnant girlfriend to my wedding?</p> </blockquote><h2>The people of Reddit agree that this bride is not the a-hole.</h2><p>&quot;It&rsquo;s your wedding, you get to decide who comes or not. Inviting her could easily cause loads of unnecessary drama when that day is supposed to be for you and your S.O. Your brother is TA for his ultimatum,&quot; wrote <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cu4bdr/aita_for_not_letting_my_brother_taking_his/exr4gvx/">Shaewz</a>.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cu4bdr/aita_for_not_letting_my_brother_taking_his/exr5wiq/">Lala0073</a> suggested the brother &quot;tried to use the pregnancy as leverage.&quot; The bride basically agreed, saying, &quot;Felt like odd timing to bring up fact that she was pregnant. I mean I get waiting till first trimester is done but 6 months he didn&rsquo;t tell my other sisters either about that detail.&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cu4bdr/aita_for_not_letting_my_brother_taking_his/exrbexr/">tcbyma</a> pointed out the brother and his girlfriend might be hoping the cheery atmosphere of the wedding will make people forgive them for doing something really, really crappy:</p><blockquote> <p>Most people wouldn&rsquo;t invite a homewrecker to their wedding months after the fact. It&rsquo;s up to your brother and his new girlfriend to dig themselves out of that hole. Your wedding isn&rsquo;t remotely the place for that.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cu4bdr/aita_for_not_letting_my_brother_taking_his/exrvl7b/">SnarkyLalaith</a> had a slightly more petty suggestion:</p><blockquote> <p>This will piss him off, but I would say that I am getting married because I believe in making and keeping these sacred vows. And that, while no one is perfect, flaunting a relationship which breaks those vows in so many ways (to his wife, to his children, etc) is not appropriate for a wedding. That while you will accept his girlfriend and love the new niece or nephew in your life, the wedding is not the place for that. That is a place to celebrate a union, not an ending.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Either way, mazel tov to the bride and groom &mdash; and hopefully the half-brother will get the point soon...</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride asks if it's okay to exclude her cheating brother's pregnant girlfriend from wedding.

It&#39;s nice to be inclusive when a sibling&#39;s divorce leads your extended family to become blended. But one bride is in a bit of a pickle because her brother decided to cheat on his wife and get his mistress pregnant &mdash; and now he wants to bring the mistress to the wedding.A Reddit user with a throwaway account posted on the &quot;Am I the A-Hole?&quot; subreddit about the situation.&quot;My older half brother who I didn&rsquo;t know growing up and lives out of state recently went through a very nasty divorce that he actually hid from me for about a year,&quot; she wrote. &quot;It all basically goes back to my brother turning very cold hearted towards his wife, eventually cheating on her followed up by lots of mind games.&quot;Long story short: he cheated and got another woman pregnant. Now the brother and his wife are divorced. The bride is still &quot;extremely close&quot; to the brother&#39;s ex, and &quot;loves her deeply.&quot;Here&#39;s where it gets (even more) dramatic: I am getting married in two months and I invited both my brother and his ex wife to my wedding. His ex has made it pretty clear she does not intend to go to the wedding because my brother will be in attendance which I understand. While my brother has recently been pestering me to allow him to take his new girlfriend to the wedding. His new girlfriend is the same girl he cheated with which makes me uncomfortable as well as my other sisters. The bride told her brother that his girlfriend was persona non grata at the wedding.He was okay with it at first, but now he keeps asking if she can come &mdash; and the bride just found out she&#39;s actually six months pregnant. Today he gave me an ultimatum that if she can&rsquo;t go he will not go. I expressed to him that if that&rsquo;s how he felt about it I would be sad by his decision but would understand but I wasn&rsquo;t changing my mind. As soon as he saw I wasn&rsquo;t backing off he took it back and than confessed she is 6months pregnant. This came as a shocker, I congratulated him but said that didn&rsquo;t change my mind and the conversation was over. One of my sisters says I&rsquo;m an asshole for not letting her go considering now she will be the mother to our niece or nephew while my other sister says she shouldn&rsquo;t go to the wedding. The bride also says she&#39;d be fine with meeting the girlfriend &mdash; but the brother swears the girlfriend has no time to meet before the wedding. It&rsquo;s important to note my sisters and I have no issue with meeting her in general, we just want it to be in a neutral situation not at the wedding. I feel like it&rsquo;s ridiculous to meet her for the first time at my wedding because of how busy I will be and for whatever reason my brother says we can not meet her prior due to scheduling. I honestly just don&rsquo;t want wedding day drama. Am I the asshole for not letting my brother take his pregnant girlfriend to my wedding? The people of Reddit agree that this bride is not the a-hole.&quot;It&rsquo;s your wedding, you get to decide who comes or not. Inviting her could easily cause loads of unnecessary drama when that day is supposed to be for you and your S.O. Your brother is TA for his ultimatum,&quot; wrote Shaewz.Lala0073 suggested the brother &quot;tried to use the pregnancy as leverage.&quot; The bride basically agreed, saying, &quot;Felt like odd timing to bring up fact that she was pregnant. I mean I get waiting till first trimester is done but 6 months he didn&rsquo;t tell my other sisters either about that detail.&quot;tcbyma pointed out the brother and his girlfriend might be hoping the cheery atmosphere of the wedding will make people forgive them for doing something really, really crappy: Most people wouldn&rsquo;t invite a homewrecker to their wedding months after the fact. It&rsquo;s up to your brother and his new girlfriend to dig themselves out of that hole. Your wedding isn&rsquo;t remotely the place for that. And SnarkyLalaith had a slightly more petty suggestion: This will piss him off, but I would say that I am getting married because I believe in making and keeping these sacred vows. And that, while no one is perfect, flaunting a relationship which breaks those vows in so many ways (to his wife, to his children, etc) is not appropriate for a wedding. That while you will accept his girlfriend and love the new niece or nephew in your life, the wedding is not the place for that. That is a place to celebrate a union, not an ending. Either way, mazel tov to the bride and groom &mdash; and hopefully the half-brother will get the point soon...

It&#39;s nice to be inclusive when a sibling&#39;s divorce leads your extended family to become blended. But one bride is in a bit of a pickle because her brother decided to cheat on his wife and get his mistress pregnant &mdash; and now...