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<p>When it comes to weddings, tales of parental overstepping are a dime a dozen. But one bride has found the perfect remedy to her mom&#39;s demands on her special day.</p><p>A Reddit user <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/">has asked the internet</a> if her response to her mom&#39;s wedding dress requests makes her an a-hole. And whether it does or not is kind of irrelevant, because her idea is hilarious.</p><h2>The bride&#39;s mom has requested that the bride wear her old wedding dress &mdash; but there&#39;s one problem.</h2><p>The dress is &quot;like Princess Diana&#39;s dress, but with more lace and frills,&quot; the bride writes. &quot;When my parents got married back in the 80s, my mom wore a big, poofy white gown that was in style at the time.&quot;</p><p>&quot;In style in the &#39;80s&quot; is a great way of saying &quot;fugly.&quot; For reference, here&#39;s what Diana&#39;s wedding dress looked like. Picture this with <em>more</em> lace and frills, and it&#39;s clear why the mom asking the daughter to re-wear this dress in the year of our lord 2019 is a little over the top.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><oembed>https://www.instagram.com/p/4mQABrD3Oi/</oembed><p>So the bride is not that into it:</p><blockquote> <p>I understand why she would want to see me in it, but I&#39;m not keen on the idea. One of the reasons is because it&#39;s just not my taste, and the other is because when you look at the dress, you know it came from the 80s. It is what you imagine the quintessential 80s wedding dress would look like, minus the teased hairstyle and frosted lipstick.</p> <p>It would look anachronistic in a setting with more modern fashions and wedding styles, as if the bride accidentally walked into a time slip and came out of it into 2019.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>In order to not disappoint her mom, she said she&#39;ll wear it... under one condition:</h2><blockquote> <p>...that the bridal party and the groomsmen wear clothes based on 80s wedding fashion, with an 80s themed wedding reception to follow.</p> </blockquote><p>Craft bride! She goes on:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m a history teacher who loves doing research into different time periods and eras, so researching wedding trends, music, tech, and fashion from the 1980s and then recreating it would be fun. And I&#39;m not so worried about my boyfriend and friends being opposed to the idea because they know how much I love history and historical reenactment (not to mention some of them partake it in themselves... one used to work at Williamsburg and boyfriend is a Civil War reenactor).</p> <p>My mom wasn&#39;t big on the idea. She thinks that the idea of an 80&#39;s themed wedding is stupid and that I sound like a bridezilla for suggesting that the wedding party go through with the idea.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Uhhh, news flash mom: insisting that your daughter wear a wedding dress she had no say in is what&#39;s stupid.</p><p>But the bride is nicer than us, so she didn&#39;t say that. She just said, &quot;Let&#39;s make the whole thing &#39;80s!&quot; Now she&#39;s asking Reddit if that was a d*ck move.</p><p>And they overwhelmingly agree that an &#39;80s-wedding would not only be the only fair compromise with her mom&#39;s demands, but also super fun.</p><p>&quot;I think that&rsquo;s amazing. Especially if you have a 16 candles-ish first dance. 😂,&quot; suggesed the aptly named <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/f76oahf/">Conspiring_B*tch</a>.</p><p>&quot;I wonder if you could rent a delorean instead of a limo,&quot; said <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/f770dys/">suzi63</a>.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/f76oovm/">Twopinkgiraffes</a> provided a more chill option:</p><blockquote> <p>It&rsquo;s your day! You do you!</p> <p>Another option is to take it to a talented seamstress to de-puff the sleeves, take the bow off the ass (I&rsquo;m guessing) and see what else can be done to bring the dress into this century. If that&rsquo;s possible.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And the bride confirmed that yes, there is a bow on the butt.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/f76oc4u/">Whathappenedwas</a> pointed out that if anyone&#39;s an a-hole here, it&#39;s the mom:</p><blockquote> <p>that&#39;s very kind of you to find a way to compromise. Your mom is TA for making this about her dream of seeing the dress worn by a daughter, but the thing is, you&#39;re offering that to her! I don&#39;t see why this period-costume context is problematic either. I would hate to wear my mom&#39;s dress for that reason. Not my style. I would not be as generous as you are being.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/f76u0ra/">Cman_yall</a> pointed out that it makes no sense for the mom to force an &#39;80s dress on her daughter, then backtrack on the &#39;80s vibe when it comes to everyone else:</p><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s really strange.</p> <p>Mom: wear my 80&#39;s dress!</p> <p>OP: everyone can wear 80&#39;s clothes!</p> <p>Mom: that&#39;s stupid.</p> <p>I really can&#39;t follow the thought process.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Another Redditor pointed out the mom might feel like using the dress in the context of a theme party could be seen as &quot;mocking&quot; it, but <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/f77n9wg/">Aggressivecleaning</a> said there&#39;s no shame in mocking the &#39;80s:</p><blockquote> <p>I wore 80s fashion. It absolutely deserves to be mocked non stop by everyone everywhere until the heat death of the universe.</p> </blockquote><p>And <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/duk0s1/aita_for_saying_i_would_wear_my_moms_wedding/f77p3m0/">E3946</a> came through with a post that <em>almost</em> makes us feel guilty for making fun of &#39;80s fashion. Almost.</p><blockquote> <p>Mom remembers choosing a dress that is elegant, sophisticated, gorgeous (all true *for the time period *). She offers it to OP, who then turns it around and implies that it&#39;s tacky, overdone, and outdated (or I&#39;m guessing that&#39;s how Mom heard it). The problem isn&#39;t whether the dress is modern; it&#39;s the emotional implication of realizing that this beautiful special thing she saved for decades for her own daughter might not be the elegant timeless gift she planned it to be.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>No matter who&#39;s the a-hole in this situation, one thing&#39;s before: if they go through with the &#39;80s theme, we&#39;re dying for an invite!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride says she'll only wear mom's wedding dress if she can make whole wedding '80s-themed.

When it comes to weddings, tales of parental overstepping are a dime a dozen. But one bride has found the perfect remedy to her mom&#39;s demands on her special day.A Reddit user has asked the internet if her response to her mom&#39;s wedding dress requests makes her an a-hole. And whether it does or not is kind of irrelevant, because her idea is hilarious.The bride&#39;s mom has requested that the bride wear her old wedding dress &mdash; but there&#39;s one problem.The dress is &quot;like Princess Diana&#39;s dress, but with more lace and frills,&quot; the bride writes. &quot;When my parents got married back in the 80s, my mom wore a big, poofy white gown that was in style at the time.&quot;&quot;In style in the &#39;80s&quot; is a great way of saying &quot;fugly.&quot; For reference, here&#39;s what Diana&#39;s wedding dress looked like. Picture this with more lace and frills, and it&#39;s clear why the mom asking the daughter to re-wear this dress in the year of our lord 2019 is a little over the top.https://www.instagram.com/p/4mQABrD3Oi/So the bride is not that into it: I understand why she would want to see me in it, but I&#39;m not keen on the idea. One of the reasons is because it&#39;s just not my taste, and the other is because when you look at the dress, you know it came from the 80s. It is what you imagine the quintessential 80s wedding dress would look like, minus the teased hairstyle and frosted lipstick. It would look anachronistic in a setting with more modern fashions and wedding styles, as if the bride accidentally walked into a time slip and came out of it into 2019. In order to not disappoint her mom, she said she&#39;ll wear it... under one condition: ...that the bridal party and the groomsmen wear clothes based on 80s wedding fashion, with an 80s themed wedding reception to follow. Craft bride! She goes on: I&#39;m a history teacher who loves doing research into different time periods and eras, so researching wedding trends, music, tech, and fashion from the 1980s and then recreating it would be fun. And I&#39;m not so worried about my boyfriend and friends being opposed to the idea because they know how much I love history and historical reenactment (not to mention some of them partake it in themselves... one used to work at Williamsburg and boyfriend is a Civil War reenactor). My mom wasn&#39;t big on the idea. She thinks that the idea of an 80&#39;s themed wedding is stupid and that I sound like a bridezilla for suggesting that the wedding party go through with the idea. Uhhh, news flash mom: insisting that your daughter wear a wedding dress she had no say in is what&#39;s stupid.But the bride is nicer than us, so she didn&#39;t say that. She just said, &quot;Let&#39;s make the whole thing &#39;80s!&quot; Now she&#39;s asking Reddit if that was a d*ck move.And they overwhelmingly agree that an &#39;80s-wedding would not only be the only fair compromise with her mom&#39;s demands, but also super fun.&quot;I think that&rsquo;s amazing. Especially if you have a 16 candles-ish first dance. 😂,&quot; suggesed the aptly named Conspiring_B*tch.&quot;I wonder if you could rent a delorean instead of a limo,&quot; said suzi63.Twopinkgiraffes provided a more chill option: It&rsquo;s your day! You do you! Another option is to take it to a talented seamstress to de-puff the sleeves, take the bow off the ass (I&rsquo;m guessing) and see what else can be done to bring the dress into this century. If that&rsquo;s possible. And the bride confirmed that yes, there is a bow on the butt.Whathappenedwas pointed out that if anyone&#39;s an a-hole here, it&#39;s the mom: that&#39;s very kind of you to find a way to compromise. Your mom is TA for making this about her dream of seeing the dress worn by a daughter, but the thing is, you&#39;re offering that to her! I don&#39;t see why this period-costume context is problematic either. I would hate to wear my mom&#39;s dress for that reason. Not my style. I would not be as generous as you are being. Cman_yall pointed out that it makes no sense for the mom to force an &#39;80s dress on her daughter, then backtrack on the &#39;80s vibe when it comes to everyone else: It&#39;s really strange. Mom: wear my 80&#39;s dress! OP: everyone can wear 80&#39;s clothes! Mom: that&#39;s stupid. I really can&#39;t follow the thought process. Another Redditor pointed out the mom might feel like using the dress in the context of a theme party could be seen as &quot;mocking&quot; it, but Aggressivecleaning said there&#39;s no shame in mocking the &#39;80s: I wore 80s fashion. It absolutely deserves to be mocked non stop by everyone everywhere until the heat death of the universe. And E3946 came through with a post that almost makes us feel guilty for making fun of &#39;80s fashion. Almost. Mom remembers choosing a dress that is elegant, sophisticated, gorgeous (all true *for the time period *). She offers it to OP, who then turns it around and implies that it&#39;s tacky, overdone, and outdated (or I&#39;m guessing that&#39;s how Mom heard it). The problem isn&#39;t whether the dress is modern; it&#39;s the emotional implication of realizing that this beautiful special thing she saved for decades for her own daughter might not be the elegant timeless gift she planned it to be. No matter who&#39;s the a-hole in this situation, one thing&#39;s before: if they go through with the &#39;80s theme, we&#39;re dying for an invite!

When it comes to weddings, tales of parental overstepping are a dime a dozen. But one bride has found the perfect remedy to her mom&#39;s demands on her special day.  A Reddit user has asked the internet if her response to her mom&#39;s...