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<p>We all know <a href="https://www.someecards.com/news/news/adeles-hilarious-response-to-her-divorce-is-even-better-than-someone-like-you/">divorce battles can get ugly</a>. So whenever someone posts on the internet asking for advice about their own, it&#39;s time to whip up some popcorn and<a href="https://www.someecards.com/news/news/divorce-lawyer-relatable-memes/"> watch what happens</a>.</p><p>Yesterday, a man <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/">posted about his child support agreement</a> with his wife on Reddit &mdash; and the answers to his query were surprisingly unanimous.</p><p>Agreements? On Reddit?! Weird.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><div><div class="video-correcting-container" style="left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 0px;position: relative;padding-bottom: 56.2493%;"><iframe src="https://giphy.com/embed/VTDX9pZyVic5q" width="500" height="281" frameborder="0" class="giphy-embed" allowfullscreen style="top: 0px;left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 100%;position: absolute;"></iframe></div></div></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s his post: </h2><blockquote> <p>I lost a lot of friends over this. My ex wife is an anesthesiologist and makes quite a bit more money than me. I filed for divorce when I caught her cheating on me with some doctor from her hospital. We got 50/50 custody of our 2 daughters aged 5 and 7 and our 2 year old son. I am getting almost $5500 in child support a month and a lot of my friends think I&rsquo;m an asshole and I&rsquo;m taking advantage of her. She despises me and ask me to drop the child support many times because I make decent money as an attorney. I told her no and I won&rsquo;t even entertain the idea. AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>First question: why pay child support at all when custody is split 50/50? <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/et8fngg/">Huskeya4</a> has an answer.</h2><blockquote> <p>It&rsquo;s meant to equalize the standard of living at both homes for the children. One parent could be struggling to afford the extra food, rooms, bills, and entertainment costs that come with three kids. If one parent has all the extras that come with money and can get their kids a ton of high priced things, they&rsquo;ll probably prefer to live with the richer parent, ruining the custody agreement and probably negatively affecting the relationship with the lower income parent.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>One user, <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/et8lqwv/">sizzler_sisters,</a> pointed out that the payment is pretty steep.</h2><blockquote> <p>$5,000 is an insane amount for child support in most states, and in every state child support is a calculation based on income and overnights. If it is 50/50 parenting time, that is one hell of an income gap. Like hundreds of thousands of dollars.</p> </blockquote><h2>Others, like <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/et896un/">nokittythatsmypie</a>, agreed that $5,500 seems like a lot.</h2><blockquote> <p>I think it&rsquo;d be tough to spend $5500 a month on 3 kids (unless you&rsquo;re buying like, Gucci and Versace kids clothes) . A lot of families with kids get by very comfortably on $5500 a moth total income. And that&rsquo;s including mortgage/rent, car payments, insurance, all the expenses coming out of that payment already.</p> </blockquote><h2>But overall, people agreed that the man in this situation is not the a**hole.</h2><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><div><div class="video-correcting-container" style="left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 0px;position: relative;padding-bottom: 56.2493%;"><iframe src="https://giphy.com/embed/oOi0uJV5k9pSWtByI4" width="480" height="480" frameborder="0" class="giphy-embed" allowfullscreen style="top: 0px;left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 100%;position: absolute;"></iframe></div></div></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>For <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/et7tpgp/" target="_blank">pinkprioress</a>, it comes down to the court&#39;s decision:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. The courts settled on that. She has the means to provide it. If she wants, she can oppose it in court.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/et7tte5/">TheWonderfulPanda</a> agrees: the court made its choice.</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. Money isn&rsquo;t for you. Money goes towards helping raise the children. If she doesn&rsquo;t like it or wants to drop it, she can go to court.</p> </blockquote><h2>Some, like <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/et7tudr/">GingerGerbera</a>, took the OP&#39;s friends to task for dumping him over the payments.</h2><blockquote> <p>Assuming you have a judgment indicating how much she is supposed to pay, you are doing nothing wrong. Your friends are the assholes, because they shouldn&#39;t make you feel bad that you&#39;re getting the support your kids deserve.</p> </blockquote><h2>And of course one person &mdash; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cacs5f/aita_for_making_my_wife_pay_child_support/et7u3m4/">helleborekitty</a> &mdash; brought up the ex&#39;s cheating.</h2><blockquote> <p>If she didn&#39;t wanna be stuck paying child support, she shouldn&#39;t have cheated on you. Tough shit she doesn&#39;t wanna do it.</p> </blockquote><p>Kind of petty, but okay.</p><p>At the end of the day, pretty much all of Reddit agreed that this guy&#39;s not wrong for accepting the payments. Yes, the people of the internet agreed on something for once!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><div><div class="video-correcting-container" style="left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 0px;position: relative;padding-bottom: 56.2493%;"><iframe src="https://giphy.com/embed/TEFplLVRDMWBi" width="480" height="271" frameborder="0" class="giphy-embed" allowfullscreen style="top: 0px;left: 0px;width: 100%;height: 100%;position: absolute;"></iframe></div></div></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guy asks if he's an a**hole for making his wife pay 'insane amount' of child support to him.

We all know divorce battles can get ugly. So whenever someone posts on the internet asking for advice about their own, it&#39;s time to whip up some popcorn and watch what happens.Yesterday, a man posted about his child support agreement with his wife on Reddit &mdash; and the answers to his query were surprisingly unanimous.Agreements? On Reddit?! Weird.Here&#39;s his post:  I lost a lot of friends over this. My ex wife is an anesthesiologist and makes quite a bit more money than me. I filed for divorce when I caught her cheating on me with some doctor from her hospital. We got 50/50 custody of our 2 daughters aged 5 and 7 and our 2 year old son. I am getting almost $5500 in child support a month and a lot of my friends think I&rsquo;m an asshole and I&rsquo;m taking advantage of her. She despises me and ask me to drop the child support many times because I make decent money as an attorney. I told her no and I won&rsquo;t even entertain the idea. AITA? First question: why pay child support at all when custody is split 50/50? Huskeya4 has an answer. It&rsquo;s meant to equalize the standard of living at both homes for the children. One parent could be struggling to afford the extra food, rooms, bills, and entertainment costs that come with three kids. If one parent has all the extras that come with money and can get their kids a ton of high priced things, they&rsquo;ll probably prefer to live with the richer parent, ruining the custody agreement and probably negatively affecting the relationship with the lower income parent. One user, sizzler_sisters, pointed out that the payment is pretty steep. $5,000 is an insane amount for child support in most states, and in every state child support is a calculation based on income and overnights. If it is 50/50 parenting time, that is one hell of an income gap. Like hundreds of thousands of dollars. Others, like nokittythatsmypie, agreed that $5,500 seems like a lot. I think it&rsquo;d be tough to spend $5500 a month on 3 kids (unless you&rsquo;re buying like, Gucci and Versace kids clothes) . A lot of families with kids get by very comfortably on $5500 a moth total income. And that&rsquo;s including mortgage/rent, car payments, insurance, all the expenses coming out of that payment already. But overall, people agreed that the man in this situation is not the a**hole.For pinkprioress, it comes down to the court&#39;s decision: NTA. The courts settled on that. She has the means to provide it. If she wants, she can oppose it in court. TheWonderfulPanda agrees: the court made its choice. NTA. Money isn&rsquo;t for you. Money goes towards helping raise the children. If she doesn&rsquo;t like it or wants to drop it, she can go to court. Some, like GingerGerbera, took the OP&#39;s friends to task for dumping him over the payments. Assuming you have a judgment indicating how much she is supposed to pay, you are doing nothing wrong. Your friends are the assholes, because they shouldn&#39;t make you feel bad that you&#39;re getting the support your kids deserve. And of course one person &mdash; helleborekitty &mdash; brought up the ex&#39;s cheating. If she didn&#39;t wanna be stuck paying child support, she shouldn&#39;t have cheated on you. Tough shit she doesn&#39;t wanna do it. Kind of petty, but okay.At the end of the day, pretty much all of Reddit agreed that this guy&#39;s not wrong for accepting the payments. Yes, the people of the internet agreed on something for once!

We all know divorce battles can get ugly. So whenever someone posts on the internet asking for advice about their own, it&#39;s time to whip up some popcorn and watch what happens.  Yesterday, a man posted about his child support agreement...