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<p>Everyone&#39;s had one or two awkward Thanksgiving dinners with their family &mdash; but this guy&#39;s story has to take the cake.</p><p>A man <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/k6hk8y/aita_for_exposing_the_fact_that_my_homophobic/">has taken to Reddit</a> to ask if he was in the wrong for outing his uncle at Thanksgiving dinner. The uncle is now getting a divorce from his wife, and the man&#39;s family is peeved.</p><h2>The man says his uncle is &quot;extremely homophobic&quot;:</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I (18M) am gay, and have been out since I was 12. My uncle is extremely homophobic, and whenever he is in my presence never wastes an opportunity to tell me that I&#39;m going to hell, etc.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My parents seem to be completely okay with this, and tells me that he&#39;s simply old and stuck in his ways, and that I need to learn to deal with it because he&#39;s family. My parents decided to invite him and his wife to our Thanksgiving dinner last week, despite my pleading with them not to do so.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>But a few weeks ago, he found his uncle on a gay dating app:</h2><blockquote> <p>Unbeknownst to my parents nor anybody else, about a month ago I was browsing on Grindr, when I came across my uncle&#39;s profile. For those who don&#39;t know, Grindr is a gay hookup app. I opened it and screenshotted his profile with all his pictures, and immediately blocked him. I had no idea what I was going to do with this back then, so I just kept the screenshots.</p> </blockquote><h2>The uncle predictably started saying homophobic things at the table:</h2><blockquote> <p>Fast forward to Thanksgiving, when my uncle and his wife came over, it started out fairly smoothly. So I was hopeful that it wasn&#39;t going to turn nasty. But then during dinner, he started going on a homophobic rant, although not about me specifically. I asked him to please stop, but he continued to argue and told me that what I&#39;m going against the Bible and that I&#39;m going to hell.</p> </blockquote><h2>So the man spilled his screenshots:</h2><blockquote> <p>At once point he told me to shut up, and I was at my wit&#39;s end with him. In a fit of momentary rage, I pulled out my phone with the screenshots and asked him to explain what this is. His face suddenly turned pale, and his wife started crying. They left immediately after.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Now the uncle and aunt are getting a divorce, and family members are angry:</h2><blockquote> <p>Predictably, he and his wife are now in the process of getting a divorce. My parents are now mad at me, saying that my nieces and nephews will now grow up without a stable family because of me. I snapped back at them, reminding them that it was him who backed me into a corner, and I had no other choice. They also demanded that I stop using Grindr, so I lied to them and said that I&#39;m not using it anymore.</p> </blockquote><h2>So is he the a-hole? The people of the internet say abso<em>lutely</em> not.</h2><p>User lrprc2000 said simply:</p><blockquote> <p>Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.</p> </blockquote><p>And Mesapholis added:</p><blockquote> <p>and I want to add, their family might not have been very stable if the uncle shows outbursts like this publicly. I don&#39;t want to know how he treated his family behind closed doors.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>cheating, homophobia, aggressive, combative language in public</p> <p>this is the summary of a very sad, closeted man. Could have been happier if he just accepted himself. But maybe now he can be, now that he is out and has to adapt</p> </blockquote><p>Stoat__King points out none of this is the post writer&#39;s fault:</p><blockquote> <p>&quot; my nieces and nephews will now grow up without a stable family because of me&quot;</p> <p>Because of him, more like.</p> <p>Have to give credit to the enormity of his hypocrisy though. Wow!</p> </blockquote><p>And shtpouch pointed out how common this scenario seems to be:</p><blockquote> <p>It&rsquo;s funny how homophobic people always end up hiding something right?.... he&rsquo;s the cheater, liar, and homophobe who backed you up into a corner and got exactly what he deserved.</p> </blockquote><p>And ajh3327 pointed out an important distinction:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>If he was in the closet, using Grindr occasionally and not being a homophobic dick all the time it would be different. He&#39;d still be in the wrong but then yeah you would be [the a-hole] for outting him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>But given the years of abuse you&#39;ve endured from him, you are absolutely fine to use this method to make it end. I don&#39;t believe you were trying to break up a family, just to make this verbal assault end. The consequences are on his plate, not yours.</p> </blockquote><p>And pandatree_157 agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m usually strongly opposed to outing people without their consent but in this case he was being horribly bigoted and a hypocrite. I can&rsquo;t blame you for losing your cool like that.</p> </blockquote><h2>So there you have it. The uncle did it to himself!</h2><p>Hope the original poster has a better Thanksgiving next year...</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he was wrong for outing homophobic uncle.

Everyone&#39;s had one or two awkward Thanksgiving dinners with their family &mdash; but this guy&#39;s story has to take the cake.A man has taken to Reddit to ask if he was in the wrong for outing his uncle at Thanksgiving dinner. The uncle is now getting a divorce from his wife, and the man&#39;s family is peeved.The man says his uncle is &quot;extremely homophobic&quot;:  I (18M) am gay, and have been out since I was 12. My uncle is extremely homophobic, and whenever he is in my presence never wastes an opportunity to tell me that I&#39;m going to hell, etc.  My parents seem to be completely okay with this, and tells me that he&#39;s simply old and stuck in his ways, and that I need to learn to deal with it because he&#39;s family. My parents decided to invite him and his wife to our Thanksgiving dinner last week, despite my pleading with them not to do so. But a few weeks ago, he found his uncle on a gay dating app: Unbeknownst to my parents nor anybody else, about a month ago I was browsing on Grindr, when I came across my uncle&#39;s profile. For those who don&#39;t know, Grindr is a gay hookup app. I opened it and screenshotted his profile with all his pictures, and immediately blocked him. I had no idea what I was going to do with this back then, so I just kept the screenshots. The uncle predictably started saying homophobic things at the table: Fast forward to Thanksgiving, when my uncle and his wife came over, it started out fairly smoothly. So I was hopeful that it wasn&#39;t going to turn nasty. But then during dinner, he started going on a homophobic rant, although not about me specifically. I asked him to please stop, but he continued to argue and told me that what I&#39;m going against the Bible and that I&#39;m going to hell. So the man spilled his screenshots: At once point he told me to shut up, and I was at my wit&#39;s end with him. In a fit of momentary rage, I pulled out my phone with the screenshots and asked him to explain what this is. His face suddenly turned pale, and his wife started crying. They left immediately after. Now the uncle and aunt are getting a divorce, and family members are angry: Predictably, he and his wife are now in the process of getting a divorce. My parents are now mad at me, saying that my nieces and nephews will now grow up without a stable family because of me. I snapped back at them, reminding them that it was him who backed me into a corner, and I had no other choice. They also demanded that I stop using Grindr, so I lied to them and said that I&#39;m not using it anymore. So is he the a-hole? The people of the internet say absolutely not.User lrprc2000 said simply: Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. And Mesapholis added: and I want to add, their family might not have been very stable if the uncle shows outbursts like this publicly. I don&#39;t want to know how he treated his family behind closed doors.  cheating, homophobia, aggressive, combative language in public this is the summary of a very sad, closeted man. Could have been happier if he just accepted himself. But maybe now he can be, now that he is out and has to adapt Stoat__King points out none of this is the post writer&#39;s fault: &quot; my nieces and nephews will now grow up without a stable family because of me&quot; Because of him, more like. Have to give credit to the enormity of his hypocrisy though. Wow! And shtpouch pointed out how common this scenario seems to be: It&rsquo;s funny how homophobic people always end up hiding something right?.... he&rsquo;s the cheater, liar, and homophobe who backed you up into a corner and got exactly what he deserved. And ajh3327 pointed out an important distinction: If he was in the closet, using Grindr occasionally and not being a homophobic dick all the time it would be different. He&#39;d still be in the wrong but then yeah you would be [the a-hole] for outting him.  But given the years of abuse you&#39;ve endured from him, you are absolutely fine to use this method to make it end. I don&#39;t believe you were trying to break up a family, just to make this verbal assault end. The consequences are on his plate, not yours. And pandatree_157 agrees: I&rsquo;m usually strongly opposed to outing people without their consent but in this case he was being horribly bigoted and a hypocrite. I can&rsquo;t blame you for losing your cool like that. So there you have it. The uncle did it to himself!Hope the original poster has a better Thanksgiving next year...

Everyone&#39;s had one or two awkward Thanksgiving dinners with their family &mdash; but this guy&#39;s story has to take the cake.  A man has taken to Reddit to ask if he was in the wrong for outing his uncle at Thanksgiving dinner. The...